fear of telling all the truth.......................?

Question

dear community I'd like to ask your opinion: I'm on therapy for anorex/bulimia. in the last months the purging occasions have finally became very rare (a couple of time in 15 days). however, i just can't tell my therapist when it happens, i hide it most of the times.it is already an achievment, as Ifor years I purged twice a day...but I don't feel good not being clear with the therapist(even because I think it's sure that she knows that it is possible).If I've been clear enough, what do you think? thanks to all

Answer 1

you have to tell. If you keep hiding it the urge to keep doing it and hiding it may become stronger, you have to be completely honest to let go of this compulsion completely

Answer 2

i do not understand eating disorders, i love food, yeah everyone has to use moderation and should eat healthy, but the biggest problem is that media is telling everyone how to look, and that image is fake, supermodels are 1 in 100, if that, and they are NOT the most healthy people..

my sister used to "purge" after a big meal because some of her friends fell into the fad. none of them were overweight. but "purge" is just a euphamism for puking up a harmless meal because you THINK it will make you gain weight.

as far as i am concerned eating healthy and exercise is the best way, starvation diets and puking is NOT an option. you will do more damage to yourself than just mal-nutrition. but i dont want to lecture you on what you probably already know.

but, i think you should tell the therapist as much as possible, because thats the only way she or he can help you best.

the more information you share, the better their perspective on the situation is.

im sure she will see it as an accomplishment, because its hard to stop anything cold-turkey. and maybe she can help you finally stop all together.

but the way i look at it is, food is fuel, without it, you cant preform, and your body will breakdown and star to eat itself. plus, it just tastes great, much better going down than it does going up.

most guys will agree, a girl with some meat on her bones is MUCH more sexy than a skeleton.

good luck!

Answer 3

Your therapist isn't there to judge you. She's not like your parents and say she's disappointed. Just let her know that it happens but you are really committed to making the change. You can also try keeping a journal and reading from it at you sessions. It may be easier to read the words than to say them outright.

On a side note I truly applaud you for you work. I know it's not easy and that there are times you want to give up but keep working through it. I wish you all the best

Answer 4

First off congratulations in your rehabilitation efforts, you're on the right track!!
Please open yourself up to the therapist, tell her if/when these periods occur. She's not going to judge you or get mad at you. Instead she's trying to help you, but by you not telling her all the information she can't help you to the same extent. This will help her determine what your "trigger points" are or what is causing this behavior. Good luck and open up, don't be scared your therapist isn't going to be telling anyone else, client privilege it's called.

Answer 5

Therapy will ONLY work if you are honest. You need to tell your therapist the truth and clear the air then you can proceed to heal. The therapist will appreciate your honesty and be able to do you more good. Good Luck!

Answer 6

you know the good thing about having a therapist is that ou can him or her anything. telling the truth may be hard at first but after you say it twice you'll catch yourself telling the truth all the time just to your therapist. you may lie to your parents or anyone else but it feels good to tell the truth and let it all out when your in session

Answer 7

Because you WERE anorexic/bulimic, you now find it hard to tell the truth. You need to be totally honest with the one person who is helping you. Your therapist cant help you or monitor your progress if your not being honest. She wont laugh or tell the world. She wants to see you succeed. Good luck.

Answer 8

The only way that therapy will ever help you is if you're honest. Don't you think she already knows it's a possibility? She is paid very well to help you and you should let her. Tell her the truth........and move on in your life. Good luck.

Answer 9

You have to find a way to be honest with your therapist, so you know you are being fully honest with yourself. Congratulations on your very hard work. Your therapist is there to help you. You have to help them to help yourself.

If you cannot say it, write it. Just write it on paper and hand it to your therapist and you can say on the paper that you just cannot say it. Your therapist will help you explore that.

Keep up your great work!

Answer 10

Are you worried that she/he will not be proud of you, because they should be that is a good achievment to have only done it so few times!!!! Not at all would be great right but you are getting there!!

Good job!!!

You have to be competely honest, they cant help you to their fullest ability if they dont know all of the truth. The best of luck to you on your recovery!!!