would you ever date someone who is??

Question

Would you ever date someone who is obese?? I'm not asking this quesiton for me. I've started to take notice that alot of people are really cruel to people who are overweight. I'm just wondering if u would date them?? and would u be worried about how ur friends or family would feel about it?? i know i asked this question earlier but i realized i didnt word it very good. thanx

I'm sorry if this offended anyone. also if u wouldn't why not?? are you afraid what ur friends would say??

You all had sooo many good answers it was difficult for me to choose one so i'm going to put it into voting.

Answer 1

Thats a hard b/c people say personality is the key in the relationship, but you dont notice people by their personality. You first notice them by their looks, so I guess it depends on if you like overwieght people.

Answer 2

As long as the guy's personality was cool, then I could see myself dating him even though he is over weight. Honestly, it hurts me to see people make fun of others who may not be as in shape as they are. Our country has become so focused on being skinny mini or big and buff. Extra weight is considered gross. I wouldn't really be worried about what my friends and family would think. Most of them are really nice and not judgemental. But even if they did say something about the guy being over weight, I would just say "Well, I like him" and leave it at that. I really wouldn't care. I wish people could be more open minded about appearances sometimes. When in a realtionship, some people tend to lose their figure anyway over the years. I don't know. I think everyone deserves a chance at love and an intimate relationship no matter what they look like. Everyone is different, but everyone has a heart that can love and or be broken.

Answer 3

Of Course I would date someone who is obese to me it doesn't matter how a person is from the out side but how they are in the inside. A guy can be very buff but he can be an a$s to you and and obese person is always going to treat you like a queen. I wouldn't care about what people would say not my family, friends NO BODY.

Answer 4

Well...

I see dating as something of a free market exchange, if you will - one person brings certain qualities (looks, youth, personality, intelligence, money, etc.) to the market (or you might say they have a certain market value), and for those qualities, they should be able to walk away with a mate the sum of whose overall qualities roughly equals theirs. I think this theory works in actual practice, which is why you often see rich, ugly guys with poor, beautiful women (IMO, that's the most common exchange). And I think that when this balance is not met within a couple, there will always be worry or paranoia on the part of the person who brings less to the relationship - s/he will always worry that her/his partner will leave him if/when s/he finds someone better.

So, to answer your question, I would date somebody physically - jeez, there's no other way to put this - inferior to me if he had an excess of other qualities that put him on my general level.

P.S. Men are every bit as calculating about choosing their partners as this. I see no reason why women should not be equally calculating.

Answer 5

Size isn't everything. I look to the person they are, not what they look like. Sure, I'd date someone obese, if they had a great personality and was kind. Who cares what anyone else thinks? Our relationship would be between the two of us only and not us against the world.

Answer 6

people get made fun of everyday for being too fat or too skinny for that matter. people who base their relationships on how somebody looks rather than the person will never find true happiness. of course u r attracted to people at first by their looks but if u give a too fat person or a too skinny person a chance and talk to them and get to know them u might find yourself looking at that person with a whole new perspective and see just how beautiful they really r.

Answer 7

I don't judge men/ people by what the outside holds. I judge by what lies on the inside. I have dated people overweight they can actually be pretty fun people to hang out with. My friends didn't like the idea but they are my friends and they respect every decision I make in my life......God bless and I hope you find the answer you are looking for........Jacqueline

Answer 8

I would not! There was thst girl in the restaurant i used to work ( IHOP)! She was obese( well overweight for sure, i dunno about obese), and she had so much confidence that she will ask me out and tell the other waitress that i'm her man! I was pissed because i had my eyes on 1 waitress! So "put the point on the i " like we said in french, "Mettre les points sur les i"!!

Also, in high shcool, a fat, not obese came to me, and told me her feeling! She was cute, i meant her face you know, so i would have dated her if she was a little bit in shape, but i said no because my friends would have make a mockery out of me!
But when we were freshman i college, i saw her and damnn, she lose some weight, and boy she was fine! But the damage was already done!

Also, it's not people fault if they are NOT attracted to fat people! So don't judge us for not liking other!

Answer 9

NO!

I would never date someone who is FAT! Most fatties treat their condition like it is a disease or something out of their control. For the most part, with the exception a very small part of the population it is simply a matter of over indulgence and lack of physical activity.

I do not have any interest in someone who has little to no concern about their health and well being. Yet as a society we continue to embrace the fat is OK mentality. Instead of encouraging healthy lifestyles we create entities that facilitate and encourage the continuation of these unhealthy lifestyles(Lane Bryant to name one).

Anyway, you should not be worried about offending anyone as I still believe in free speech.

Answer 10

Yes, Amby, I would... physical appearance is not what is important to me in a relationship. And I don't give a fig what my friends, family nor anybody else thinks.