I am 25y/o and lkiving with my parents, who go away a lot. The local milkman has been delivering in this area for as long as i can remember (although we buy our milk in and have never had it delivered),, he is well known for being weird.
Last Friday, when my parents were away, i was getting ready to go out in the morning and had just had a shower when the phone went, so i ran to the front room and answered it, dressed in my dressing gown. as i finished the conversation and walked upstairs again the doorbell rang twice, so i rushed down to answer it but nobody was there apart from the milkman, sat in his milk float opposite our house, he was just staring at me. I ignored him and walked inside. Then this morning i walked past him and he had a horrible smile on his face and was staring at me as i went past.
What can i do? i cannot prove he is harassing me, the police would never listen and i have a feeling he wouldnt either.
2007-04-26 05:38:00 · 20 answers · asked by Unhinged.... 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Do everything everybody else said, tell your parents, and keep a big robe or cardigan or hoodie for answering the door in an emergency.
I work from home and am frequently under-dressed for the doorbell. But I always have my hoodie to throw on to answer the door.
If he's creeping you out and scaring you in your mind, definitely report. And I agree that the dairy company should be notified of him. If he didn't deliver anything, what the H*** is he doing ringing the doorbell???
2007-04-26 06:51:27 · answer #1 · answered by chefgrille 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please don't pull that stunt again - not properly dressed and answering the door. That's just inviting unnecessary trouble. Tell your parents exactly what happened but don't spice up your story just to get him into trouble.
If he doesn't deliver milk to your house, he has no business ringing your doorbell. If this happens again (hopefully you're well-covered this time), tell him so and close the door calmly. Don't appear to be afraid or aggressive because that just proves he's affecting you.
The smile thing is kinda creepy but I think he only did that because he thought about you in your dressing gown (sorry). Maybe he rang your doorbell just trying to be (in his own definition) "friendly" to you but then again, since he's weird, that too is a creepy move. Take care.
2007-04-26 13:07:02 · answer #2 · answered by Bonna Feeday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong. The police certainly WILL listen. Stalking is considered a crime, and as long as you're confident the milk man is complicit (and you're just not being paranoid), they'd love to have a brief chat with him.
It's important to establish a pattern of harassment as well, in case something else might happen. That way the cops know right where to look.
One police encounter should be enough to back him well off. Because he knows the next contact will be with his bosses.
2007-04-26 12:47:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the man for now, but be more careful in the future You are 25, you should know that you can look outside without opening the door all the way and going outside. Maybe he is smirking at you because he saw you (and what ever showed through the dressing gown in the daylight). Since you said that he is known for being weird, then maybe he was just being weird...
2007-04-26 12:46:45 · answer #4 · answered by cat14675 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
all I can think to suggest is to keep a reccord of what he does and when and if it does continue, then really, going to th police is about your only option. though if you've kept a record, they'll be much more likely to do something - maybe it'd be just making sure there's a car drive down there or something at that time for a few days.
Or you could phone whoever he works for and submitting a formal complaint against him.
whatever happens, I hope you get it sorted out.
2007-04-26 12:48:43 · answer #5 · answered by ADRIAN M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd try not to let this bother you too much unless it continues and/or intensifies. He may or may not have some sort of creepy crush on you, the younger woman. I think you just have to ignore the guy-keep your head held high when you walk past, be curt, make it clear that you're not impressed or interested. If it gets worse, more personal or threatening then consider notifying the police.
2007-04-26 12:55:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean about him being weird. Make sure that you keep your curtains closed up. Keep a record of all the wierd behavior he exhibits. And make sure you tell a friend about his strange habits of watching you.
If he does it a few more time definitely report it to the police. Even if they won't do anything about it, you have it on record that you wanted them to. And DO NOT let them tell you that hey don't write up reports for that kind of thing, they write up reports for smaller and less significant things. Insist.
2007-04-26 12:48:24 · answer #7 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's not really harrassing you by just acting or looking weird. perhaps you should make it a rule to get dressed before answering the door and make sure you keep the curtains closed while you're getting dressed.
2007-04-26 14:13:59 · answer #8 · answered by brentwoodgirl2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's actually a place where they still deliver milk? In America?
2007-04-26 14:58:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be such a baby- he either fancies you (doesn't mean he'll do anything about it) or he was having a break, doing his paperwork, or having a cigarette, and just happened to be looking your way. Forget it, the bloke hasn't done anything.
2007-04-26 14:35:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋