I've heard alot about men saying I always knew that I would marry her!
My boyfriend told me that he wants to marry me but when we're ready, we've only been together 8 months. Yet I don't know is there a way to tell if a man is thinking about you in a marrige future type or if he's just with you.
I love him but I'm scared about the future I feel like I'm giving my all, I just want to make sure that we'll end up together in the end for real.
I hear a lot of times women say they are going to marry their boyfriends they day dream about where they will live talk about how many children they want to have and then BOOM they break up, and she's left heart broken!
How do you prevent that?
2007-04-26 04:51:40 · 22 answers · asked by jasimine m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There's really no way to prevent your heart from breaking if you are in love with someone. However, I think keeping your expectations realistic and taking things as the come rather than dreaming and making extreme expectations for the future. If your boyfriend is treating you well and respects you then he may be thinking about marriage.
2007-04-26 04:59:42 · answer #1 · answered by Student A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the best advice to you is wait patiently..wait.Getting married is mostly every girls dream...although rushing into can be a mess.8 months of dating at the time seems long time to you..but if all goes well in a relationship time is what you need to know your true feeling...everything may seem perfect now..and 1 yr or 2 you may be the one with the change of heart.Not saying that will happen..just saying i think it is best to wait..i mean you can get a promise ring if that would make you feel better and see how that works out for you.
I have been with my bf 10 yrs and everything was fine for the first 5 yrs. then we broke up and then we got back together and it has been another 5 yrs and we talk about getting married and at first that is what i wanted now i am having doubts.Y ou have to be sure the person you are thinking of marrying is the person you want to spend every waking minute with.I love my bf with all my heart but a part of me thinks there is something else out there..especially if you are young and havent dated alot.Give it time is all i am saying you may be the one with the change of heart.I hope i helped ..i mean i am not trying to talk you out of anything i am just trying to tell you from experiance.I was 16 the first time he proposed .I wanted it nothing more...but as i got older i am glad i waited cause even after all this time.I still have a doubt and you can' get married with any doubts...but if i didnt wait i wouldnt have never realized the things i was doubting.Good luck!!!
2007-04-26 12:11:25 · answer #2 · answered by Brianna M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is thinking that a way when he talks with you about the future and marriage. You have been together for a while which is a good thing to be together that long and haven't broken up by now.Take your time and really get to know him really well and ask yourself if you could even live with him and if you can then that's good.I was in the 11th grade when I got married and we only dated for about a month before we got married and now 10 years later and two kids we are still together.Sometimes you just know if you are right for each other I was 16 when we met and he was 24. Well good luck and hope you are really sure before moving on to the next step.
2007-04-26 12:07:29 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love someone, you cannot prevent talking about the future, why? because at the time and moment everything is perfect and ideally, getting married and having kids should be perfect too! But, at times, things do happen, people change and there is not much anyone can do about it. If you love your boyfriend, give him your love, don't be afraid of what might happen in the future. Everything happens for a reason. It is better to look back and say "i gave that relationship my all" than to say "i was too scared to love him the way I wanted to". Don't worry, you will marry your perfect guy for you, whether it is your boyfriend or not.
2007-04-26 11:57:56 · answer #4 · answered by Chiquita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At a certain point you have to realize that your boyfriend loves you and does want to marry you! When I got into the relationship I'm in now, I never thought about marriage, I knew if I did it would scare me. When you think about it too soon, it freaks you out! You don't know the person well enough to decide. But, after 8 months, I think its about at the right time! You should ask him? If you trust him you can put your guard down and really believe what he is telling you is true! And when you do, its the best feeling in the world!
2007-04-26 12:00:34 · answer #5 · answered by Steph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, be happy!
It is absolutely impossible to prevent any unforeseeable event. Although, if you keep telling yourself that the relationship will end with heart brake, then it probably will.
Relax, if and when the time is right, it will happen. If not, then it was not meant to be. You have to agree that you have no control over anything but yourself. Accept the fact that he might not be the 'one' you really desire to spend the rest of your life with. And, eight months is only a number to identify the length of your current relationship. Stop and think how you lives will be eight Years from now. Do you believe that you will still be together? Only time will tell.
2007-04-26 12:01:42 · answer #6 · answered by RozPot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hope for the best and plan for the worst. Your best bet is to not get your hopes up too high. Give to the relationship, but don't kill yourself doing it. If your relationship is healthy, you should want to do things for your partner. Sometimes, it may feel a bit like work to keep things going, but normally it should be a pleasant experience.
The reality is, that the vast majority of romantic relationships end. Even if the guy is planning on having a house with a white picket fence and 2.3 children now, that doesn't mean he'll follow through. Accept that life is uncertain and keep going.
2007-04-26 12:00:52 · answer #7 · answered by Nels N 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont prevent something like that. thats the problem with love and giving your heart to someone. its a gamble and a risk that you have to take unless you want to live sheltered and with a wall around your heart. even once people are married, marrages end in divorce. all you can do is make sure that the lines of communication are open in your relationship and try not to let the little things bother you. so what if he leaves his socks on the floor for a day or two? so what if you leave a dish in the sink for a day or two? if you are doing things for him and he is doing things for you, and you love each other, then that is the important thing. good luck.
2007-04-26 12:00:02 · answer #8 · answered by mcfly_lives 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't prevent that or help it. Just follow your heart and he will do the same. If your boyfriend told you that he is thinkin you are "the one", then believe him. Take it one step at a time. You guys have only been together 8 months and if you start putting the pressure on about marriage now and if he is gonna be with you forever, he will wish he never said anything to you about it. Slow down, deep breaths, and enjoy the fact that he is serious about you and is thinkin of you as long term material.
2007-04-26 11:57:43 · answer #9 · answered by Jackie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a way to tell if a man is thinking about you in a marriage-future type? or if he is just with you?
By thinking through the answers to the question I have written, it will give you food for thought toward answering your question.
(I am going to alter your question just a bit ) -- Is THIS THE GUY I WANT TO SHARE MY LIFE AND CHILDREN WITH?
The first thing to look at is his respect - for you - for others. Does he genuinely care how you think and feel, or what your opinion is. Does he listen to what you say? Does he press you to do or think things you don't want to? Look at his anger - is he usually calm? Or Are his words irrational or putting you down in disrespect - or does he show violent tendencies? Can he show genuine love and concern for you as a person - or does he just want you "for show" and for your body? Is he honest? Does he have a job, and does he work hard? Does he have a plan or goal he is working toward for his future employment? Where does his money go? Do you both have the same religion? Does he want children? How does he treat children? What does he expect in a wife? - does it match the who of who you are? Does he get arrested for things he does? How do your dreams match his?
How does he treat his mother? What do his parents think of you, and your parents think of him? ( 'cause families are forever) (can you envision yourself caring for his parent when they are elderly?)
How do you prevent a break-up when you talk about your dreams of marriage and children?
Number one. Abstain from sex. If you give it away, why should he stick around? If he wants you the person, you will know by his willingness to wait and to protect you above all else. This is the ultimate of respect for you.
2007-04-26 12:21:38 · answer #10 · answered by Hope 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋