I found a picture in my b/f phone of another girl that was texted to him. Under the contacts list it was under Charlie (a boys name) but it was of a female. I don't know if he's trying to hide the fact that it's a girl and just put it under a boys name or if one of his guy friends sent it to him. All the other girls he have in his phone are under the right names under his contacts though. He cheated on me 2 years ago and I still feel like I am being over zealous (paranoid) for no reason but at the same time I know all about the other girls. I have met them already or it is one of his co-workers and I met them too. Please Help a Distraught Woman!!! I really do love him though and plus we have a 4 month old together. I really am tring to get past the past but I am SCARED. Should i confront him about it? I don't really think that's smart b/c he will know I was in his phone.
2007-04-26 04:41:03 · 12 answers · asked by lovemuffin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
instead of making yourself sick with worry and having to listen to the constant fighting in your head of is he or isn't he, i have found from my own years (lots) of experience best thing to do is ask. its never easy and if you wait for that right time to bring it up forget it.it wont happen.sooo i suggest asap. of course use com man sense.don't pick the night he worked 12hrs and fought with the boss you get the point. be completely honest with him.tell him why you were in his phone let him know that your trust isn't 100% because of the past but he has been rebuilding it.most important is to let him know that you felt the best way to handle this was to come to him and be completely honest with him and to ask for the same in return.he should respect you even more for that. besides the best answer a person can give isn't what comes out of their mouth its their body language & reactions.so pay close attention to them.whatever his answer is trust that hes telling you the truth.give him that because if his not youll see it and hell end up hanging himself so to speak.what ever you decide or happens dont make yourself sick over it you have someone more important than either one of you that relize on and depeends on you right now.so you need to be healthy in mind and body for them. best of luck hope this helped a little
2007-04-26 05:17:11 · answer #1 · answered by beyondhlp 2 u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is a guy friend that just sent him a pic of a girl that his friend thinks is cute. Maybe he is trying to get your bf's opinion on her or something. Was the picture wrong in nature or was it just a normal picture? If it was just normal then I wouldn't mind too much but if you look into his phone and find another picture of that "girl" in his phone again, maybe confront him about it then. Or before confronting him ask him if he has anything he wants to talk about. If he says no then you can bring up the subject.
Hope this somewhat helps!
2007-04-26 11:47:45 · answer #2 · answered by MoMoChan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went through something similar a few months ago, except it was my ex who looked through my phone. he told me afterwards that he had looked through it because he felt guilty that he didn't find anything. he expected me to be all happy that he was honest with me and told me, but trust me i was still so angry and felt so betrayed. I never cheated on him or anything or gave him a single reason to distrust me like your boyfriend did to you. It's such a tough situation- do you tell him and risk him being angry and in turn not trusting you anymore? or do you swallow it and risk the chance of the picture of that girl remaining in your memory and eating at you forever(which could ultimately make you bitter and ruin your relationship)? It could just be a picture that one of his buddies sent to him. However, you have to think- he's given you a reason not to trust him before, what makes this any different? If he hadn't cheated on you before I would say to give him the benefit of the doubt. If you know yourself and you think that you can let this go without it coming back later, do it. If you think you won't ever forget about it (which most women wouldn't!) and it will come back to haunt you later then i would say just be honest with your boyfriend. Things will work themselves out, they always do. Good luck hun!
2007-04-26 11:58:14 · answer #3 · answered by Andi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not be even aware that pic is stored in his cell phone..lot of calls, additions, deletions happen when u r fiddling with ur cell phone... may be she is one among his friends group who call her charlie as a nick name or may be his friend sent it ...and when it comes to names, u really cant trust nowdays...women wear men clothes, have men names, do what men can do so on like that... if u get a chance to handle his phone delete that name and number or if u have common friends ask them to help u finding
2007-04-26 11:50:52 · answer #4 · answered by RCD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not to sure, but it sounds like it may just be one of his boys texti him, on the other head charlie can be a girls name also. good luck
2007-04-26 11:48:32 · answer #5 · answered by CRYSTAL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"charlie" can be used as a girl's name. maybe u should confront him with it and see what he has to say.
2007-04-26 11:45:23 · answer #6 · answered by babygirl31 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
confront him! what was she doing in the picture? if it was raunchy, i would be FURIOUS. definately confront anyway though, but be polite about it, because he won't be happy that you looked through his phone in the first place. it may be nothing.. keep that in mind =)
2007-04-26 12:02:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think there is a reason for you to be suspicious,but still keep an eye on him,and dont ever let him know about it.
2007-04-26 11:47:09 · answer #8 · answered by ANU U 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont be scared, but id question it alot, being a male myself, we do alot of things like that, but so do alot of females, i would just watch him and question him, he might be up to sumthing, and its ok to be paranoid about it, and if all else fails theres better guys out there
2007-04-26 11:48:26 · answer #9 · answered by Dr. Keep 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask, otherwise it could stick with you
2007-04-26 11:45:00 · answer #10 · answered by plainguy_m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋