i am not miserable just because im single!!! i think its cool being single. i can look at as many guys as i want(but i dont have s*x with them LOL--im still a virgin). why do so many people think that just because im single that im miserable?? that is so not true. being single gives me more time to look for thr "right" man. i am still looking :). but can i be so miserble for being single??? i am 17 and i think finishing school is more important than dating!!! i will date eventually, when MY time comes!
2007-04-26 04:31:09 · 19 answers · asked by ILoveGreen ZipZapZop 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im having LOTS of fun being single and a virgin!!
2007-04-26 04:38:10 · update #1
17 yo, you have not even started to live life,, you are in the first quarter,, esp if you live to be 80 yo,, enjoy it while you are young is a great saying, travel,, go see the world and enjoy,, save your money and take trips every year before settling down with a guy,, I am single at 46, and I love it,, I have always loved being single, seems when I married, then I had money problems, life problems, I had someone else to worry about besides just ME<,,
2007-04-26 04:35:33 · answer #1 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give or take a year or two of development in the emotional, physical and mental areas, since the age of around 12 or 13, you have spent just some 60 months into your life 'learning' ~ about yourself in relation to life around you and to the world at large.
You actually know very little of this world and of the complexities that go about producing it and all the interactions that go to make up life and the relationships between human beings that make 'life' run.
So, you are wise to not fall into the trap of youth who either think, or behave as if 'they know it all' and exude both the indifference and arrogance that seem to have to accompany this mode, and where 'style is everything' and 'content is nothing.'
There is the much used term of 'being on track' which is used to report on the life, the career and the personal lives of people ~ which is really a simplistic throwaway phrase used because it sounds good, whereas, it's rubbish.
Life does not have 'a track,' beyond the general expectations of what we can generally EXPECT in the matter of the average 'human ageing process.' But even these do NOT always run to our expectations.
So, ignore what the expectations of others are of you ~ you were not born to satisfy their expectations ~ and continue as you are.
You're doing OK, kid.
Sash.
2007-04-26 04:53:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason you aren't miserable is because you are a virgin. Once you get sex, you won't want to be forced to be without it. If being single is TRULY your choice, meaning you can have a relationship and have suitors interested in you but you choose not to date, then great. But if you are single because you have no suitors and haven't found the "one" yet that's another story. Still, not having ever had sex and not knowing what it feels like to miss that (and when I say sex I mean the intimacy that comes along with it) you can't really understand how it feels to be alone.
2007-04-26 04:41:33 · answer #3 · answered by Brandy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way! I'm 18 and I haven't dated anyone really seriously in high school because school and my friends are more important to me. I like being single. Some of my friends think it is just too important to have a guy. I don't feel that way. I'm just having fun and finishing school.
2007-04-26 04:38:21 · answer #4 · answered by Chloe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are 17 years old, you are not really single yet. Technically yes, but by that definition so is a 5 year old. You need to get past the average age of marriage for a woman to be having the discussion you are. Otherwise you really don't know what you are talking about since you haven't lived it yet.
Try this again at the age of say...28.
2007-04-26 04:37:50 · answer #5 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no reason to be miserable when your single. When you found someone that is right and you dont like being single then you know that there's something and you're completely right about school being more important. Keep on having fun :-P
2007-04-26 04:36:57 · answer #6 · answered by Zoe - 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
School is important, and 17 is young, you've a long time ahead of you yet. i enjoyed being single when I was, I had fun and was not beholden to anyone. Make the most of it because once you are in a relationship you have to consider the other person as well as your self.
2007-04-26 04:36:34 · answer #7 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you! I'm also 17, single, and a virgin (although I hope to change that last part soon). I don't need or want right man. My independence matters more.
2007-04-26 05:05:39 · answer #8 · answered by Rio Madeira 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look here baby grl...u puttin school first before dating makes u sexy and a mature person....u need to put that before anythin and build urself a future before dating...i do both but when i have a gf it really does complicate a lot of things....but bein single does feel lonely at time(i dont know bout u but i feel something is missing when im single), yea its great seein so many people and all the options u have but people out there are shady and a lot of them have bad intentions....so keep up wat u doin and yea see diff people but dont start to lead the guys on and play with their emotions...and again im really glad u put school first
2007-04-26 04:47:36 · answer #9 · answered by D.C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being single has its up and downs but school is more important =]
2007-04-26 04:34:55 · answer #10 · answered by Coonsie 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋