my housemaid is back: how can i behave nicely to her AND have my work done as well?

Question

look, my housemaid is back and i need some good ideas to let her be happy AND make her do the work....she's not too good at it and it drives me a bit mad....

plz no crappy answers telling me im a spoilt brat or anything

i am asking WHAT should i do to ? how should i behave?....i am NOT asking a censorship of my behaviour

she gets on my nerves..i WISH i cud do that...but even that wud be a problem

tell me WHAT shud i keep doing to keep her obliged?

i give her DIGNITY enough!....its SHE who doesnt do things properly

im 15...and NOT THE ONE EMPLOYING HER

Answer 1

She has to know very well how to execute your will to your standards: The expectations in full, and the consequences for failing to meet them. These need to be detailed and in writing, and she needs to have the opportunity to review them, ask all questions, have the answers recorded, and retain a copy of those expectations. You need to briefly check on her often and give feedback for both success and failures, so that she can make frequent improvements to her work. This feedback needs to be recorded on paper.

The purpose of recording it on paper is two fold: 1) To give her an objective reference and accountability, 2) To spare you from having to continually remind her of previously established standards.

Your maid cannot receive responses from you to requests for changing anything that you have already or will yet established. There are no arguments, and attempts to deviate from your standards are ignored. She cannot try to get out of (or diminish) any work or punishments (or rewards). You only respond to any questions she may have about your standards and all this must be recorded on paper, even if you supervise her recording it in order to ensure that it is recorded accurately and completely. Reference all of your judges (both praise/reward and inspiration/"punishment") to the written standards, so that your written word is both respected and firmly established, if you change your mind then have the changes added in writing also.

The consequences should be directly related to the failures, and either increase work or decrease priviledges or freedoms (temporarily). Opportunity should be immediately devised to allow her to earn back the priviledges or freedoms between 15 minutes and a couple of hours; long term punishments are not nearly as effective because the time between failure and punishment is directly proportional to its effectiveness. Priviledges could include nicer food/meals or nicer things like TVs, radios, or other valued material possessions, and freedoms include the ability to do things without your intervention, like having access to rooms through unlocked doors or having access to laundry soap for doing the laundry (also a check on the time of execution of related tasks. It is easier to devise related punishments and rewards when you make the tasks of interest and the common mistakes of your maid known, but I imagine that my general point is clear enough for specific application to the issues which are coming to your mind.

oh yeah, and smile (not saying that you don't) frequently; at least a small smile when you are not well pleased. It's mostly an issue of tact and basically says, I am your friend, not your enemy.

Finally, try to phrase every reprimand into an inspiration. Instead of, "You did that task too slow!" the inspiration would be, "I know that you can accomplish this task much faster and I expect you to do so. We will prove that you can meet my standard by repeating the task indefinitely." Not, I hate your mistakes, but I love and expect your successes.

Answer 2

The boss/employee relationship is just one of many kinds. The b/e relationship at home has the added complication of the household but it should be seen from afar and objectively as any other relationship for it to work fine:

1.- First you have to understand that if your housemaid had the same opportunities that you may have had, maybe she would be in your position. As my mother always said: "If she had the chances you've had, she would be the one behind the desk.". All I'm saying is that we have to accept other people's limitations as well as their abilities. I'm sure I would not clean my room half as good as my housemaid if I had to do it everyday.
2.- You hired her to do a job and that entitles you to expect the job done.
3.- She probably accepted the job expecting a certain set of rewards, some monetary others expressed in treatment or in less tanglble ways.
4.- In this relationship you both have rights and responsibilities. as well as expectations.

I think that you have to make sure you both agree on those rights, responsibilities and expectations for each of you. She must know what's expected of her and you must know what's expected from you. As long as you both keep your end of the deal, it should work.

As soon as it doesn't, there should be ways to let the other person know that expectations are not being met. If the relationship does not work, nobody has to go mad. Better to end the boss/employee relationship and, who knows?

Hope this answer is helpful.

Answer 3

If your housemaid is not performing her job up to the standards you want then let her go. You shouldn't have to MAKE her do her work, if she expects to be employed by you then the work must get done or she is fired. Explain to her what you expect out of her and set her to work. If the work is not completed then there really is no reason to continue to keep that person on.

Answer 4

Forget the past, start on a new page. Behave as if nothing happened, and give her a chance to earn her living, with dignity and job satisfaction. Put yourself in her shoes, and imagine, what u expect from your employers, try to give her the same or better deal. Maybe if she has job satisfaction and happiness, she can deliver more, and make u happy as well.

Answer 5

It's been said before, but I'll say it in some different words:

You are ideally paying her for a service. She is not performing the full duties of this service. Therefore you are not, in fact, paying her for the service but instead for the lack thereof.

Why was she gone in the first place? Did you even notice that she was gone?

You may need to hire new help.

Answer 6

Empathy! Exchange roles. What do you expect of her as your provider to make you happy? Do the same to her to live up to your expectations. It is sin to consider one as inferior to you. Does God create inferior and superior human beings? No! With adequate restraints and control let her be as happy as you are in this world. It only is noble living. lileeann33

Answer 7

You should behave normal and same as you do with others or with parents. She is also a part of family. Make her comfirtable in family environment. Respect her and listen to her. if you do the same. she will return you the same. :-) Shally

Answer 8

if shes not earning her #$ then let her go

Answer 9

BY modesty.