I'm 19 years old and he is 30. I just completed my college study and he is a leader of a big governmental office. I didn't know him before but one day he called me and asked me to work in his office. then I started working. after two months he invited me to his house and I went. The next day he told me that he loves me and then we started being lovers. But when ever he invites me he doesn't talk about our life. he only tells me that he had missed me a lot and he kisses when ever we meet but talk nothing else about love. In after 6 months of our love he asked me for sex. Since he is older than me and is a leader I got scared to disagree with. By the way does he love me or wants me for only sex? plz help
2007-04-26 03:54:48 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As far as I can tell age is just a number. Dont let anyone tell you differently. Follow your heart!
2007-04-26 03:58:38 · answer #1 · answered by chick29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it does. I don't care what anyone says. You don't know until you experience it. The years don't matter, but the age group you are in is what matters. I was 19 with a 32 year old. The man totally controlled me (and if you know me, I'm not the type that can be told what to do). I lost all of my friends, I neglected my family, and for what? This creep that wouldn't let me go celebrate my 21st birthday with my friends because he was of the mentality that any girl that goes to a club is a whore. I was with him for a long time. Finally when we got engaged, I woke up an saw the light and realized there's no way I wanted to be with him forever. I have to tell you, the break up was worse than the relationship. We've been broken up longer than we were together and every few years he resurfaces. I've had one PFA against him and he didn't learn. I actually had to go to court to get a permanent restraining order. Keep in mind he has a girlfriend (who is very young--early 20s I think and a kid) and he still won't leave me alone. Since I've gotten the order, he's been good, but I've since then moved and changed all of my phone numbers.
2007-04-26 04:48:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's a snake, run for the hills. I'm only kidding. You're over 18 so you,re in the big game now. Maybe you should initiate a conversation about the relationship. Was the sex good? Only you can answer these questions. Don't be intimidated by his age and him being a "leader", because sometimes only fools follow. Caution girl, don't be scared to disagree, or he'll have you right where he wants you.
2007-04-26 04:14:52 · answer #3 · answered by Fern O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being manipulated and as soon as the guy sees another attractive young woman he'll forget about you.
You need to realize that in today's society sex has become one of the first things to happens between a man and woman when instead it should be the final event to consummate a marriage. The age difference does not matter. Experience taking advantage of innocence is the problem here. Find someone who can appreciate your mind first.
2007-04-26 04:20:01 · answer #4 · answered by Dreamer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, sometimes age matters and sometimes it doesn't. I'm 25 and my ex-boyfriend is 37. We were together for 2 years but in the end we couldn't work it out. I think he was too set in his ways to really make a change in his life. He couldn't "factor me in."
And in your case...it sounds like the guy is just after somebody to have sex with and you're young and probably very attractive to him. Some people throw the word "love" around like it's nothing. Sad, but true.
And no matter his age, you should NEVER feel threatened or pressured by a man!
2007-04-26 04:05:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I'm torn on my answer to you but 1st off i don't think its completely crazy that he is asking for sex after dating and kissing you all over for. but if you felt comfortable and secure in this relationship there would be no question whether or not he only wanted sex from you ( and trust me because ALL of the questions i ask on this site is because i am unsure about a man I'm dating and my girlfriends are getting sick of hearing about it) so go with your heart and if it doesn't feel right , remove yourself from the situation before it total consumes you, because that is no fun ! and your too young for the drama. good luck hun :o)
2007-04-26 05:33:25 · answer #6 · answered by live in the magic of life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is difficult to say ---- if he is not talking about your lives then it sounds like he is more interested in sex with you and as your employer/boss he should not be seeing you socially anyway --- i dont know what laws you have about sexual harassment where you are but he is guilty as you agreed out of fear not love or desire --- you must decide what to do --- you can continue or leave or stay but break it off or call the police and charge him with sexual harassment
2007-04-26 04:12:06 · answer #7 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the age difference as big as this one might affect love because a guy that age is probably more mature than a 19yr old anyday
2007-04-26 04:00:21 · answer #8 · answered by somebodyssexygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think age matters. Just be sure you both want the same thing.
2007-04-26 04:01:43 · answer #9 · answered by shadyabby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get wise, tool.
2007-04-26 03:58:10 · answer #10 · answered by you - with the face :D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋