I want to become a christian but there's one thing that its very difficult, help please!?

Question

I was raised in a catholic/Christian family and I've always been going to church. I took the decision of becoming a Christian when I was 16 yrs old in a summer camp but my boyfriend whom I met when I was 15 said he wasn't ready to commit himself and he dragged me to my old habits (it was my fault too) and when I was 18 we became sexually active... i regret it. Now I feel like a hypocrite and I want to live a Christian life from now on.. but what can I do? my boyfriend and I have been together for 5 yrs and It's going to be terrible hard to stop all we do now...I want to but he won't stop I know it. I want to follow God because he's the most important in my life...so what should I do? is it too late to change my life? I cant get married Im in college and I dont want to live in sin.

Thanks for all your answers. I know what to do... If my boyfriend can't respect my decision then He's going to lose me. God bless you.

Answer 1

You have a choice to make. You either want to serve God or your boyfriend. It can't be both ways.

Since your boyfriend didn't die for you on Calvary and can't give you eternal life I think the choice is obvious.

God is still in the forgiving business so He will forgive you and
cleanse you of sex sin and any other sins you may have done.

You say God is most important in your life. Prove it! Tell your boyfriend that if he doesn't want to serve God you can have no more to do with him until He gets saved.

One more thing - You can't be Catholic and Christian at the same time. They are two opposing schools of belief. You can do NOTHING to earn God's favor like the Catholic church teaches. Pray to God by yourself. You don't need a priest.
Jesus is the High Priest you can talk with all by yourself. Let Him know you are sorry for you sin and ask Him to forgive you from an honest heart and He will forgive and cleanse you.

If you would like to talk with someone away from the confusion
in Yahoo answers then email me at [e-mail] - I won't try to force you to believe anything and can share my own experience with you. The final decision is always yours.

Answer 2

First Of All...Congratulations On Your Decision. I Know Where You Are Coming From. It Seems Like You Have Already Made The Biggest Decision Though & That's Putting Christ First Above All. Where I Got My Answer From Was God. I Prayed Really Hard About It & On Days When I Just Didn't Know The Words To Pray I Wrote All My Thoughts Down To God In A Prayer Journal. I Had Alot Of Friends & Family Praying With Me Too & Through That I Found The Strength To Move On. For Me I Realized That In The End My Relationship With This Guy Couldn't Compare To The Relationship That I Had With God. My Mom Told Me Something That Has Carried Me Through So Many Things In Life After That Moment..."God Will Never Take Something Away & Give You Less Than What You Had. He Will Always Give You Better." I Would Love To Pray With You About Anything. I Hope I Have Helped. Everything Will Be Ok.

Answer 3

It seams to me that the importance of been a Catholic has die a bit?, on you too,? I say this because I know, and I have experience that my self as Christianity including protestantism, have try to pull me out way, from the good old church services, that in the Catholic church, are practice exclusively in memories and obedience's to Jesus mandate.
To which I have to add, what a Catholic priest once said to me. "The Church will never Leave you, i was you that left it, the Church", it doesn't matter, what change you, from been a better person before. Although been out way from God, and Jesus, that at least in Spirit you can find then, right where you left then. sacrifices are required to feel good to your self again at your return, leaving, some others behind, may be requested, in order for your self to make a real commitment , and become responsible to you, and God once again. You know is your call, but do it soon, you know Jesus is ready to forgive, and you aren't an exception, just make it real, and be truthful to your self.

Answer 4

Dear Pretty, here's the bottom line to your question. God loves you no matter what you do. The fact that you feel guilty for having sex and that you want to follow God is the Holy Spirit speaking to your heart and calling you. Remember this, God knows that we are not perfect and can never be perfect. What He wants from us is to try to live according to what He has asked of us. He knows we will have setbacks but the fact that we love Him enough to try is what He desires the most from us. I'm a Christian and have been for many years; but I still fail from time to time; I have screwed up and had sex and I'm not married but the great thing is I ask God to forgive me, I repent and try harder to not allow that to happen anymore. The only way to get out of that is to read God's word, pray and ask others that you trust and believe in to pray with you and for you. Truly God will bring the right man into your life who believes the same as you do; that to please God is the most important thing to do; more so than having sex. The man you are with now is not there yet; that doesn't mean God won't move on his heart one day and bring you two back together; God's done that many times with people. Focus on your education right now; if you have a job, focus on that as well. If you aren't working find some volunteer work to do to keep you occupied (handsonkc.org). If you'd like to talk more, reply to this post and we'll figure it out. It's a daily struggle but He is here to help us.And most importantly, pray, read God's word and open your eyes to find a church that will love you unconditionally and help you move forward in your love for God. He will never fail you or condemn you for anything that you've done or will do in the future. He only wants to love you.

Answer 5

It is never too late to change your life. If your boyfriend does not want Jesus in his life then you need to end the relationship. I know that is very easy to say and extremely hard to do. You are so blessed to have realized your need for Jesus before marrying this person. Don't worry about hypocrisy. Anyone who says they are not a hypocrite is certainly a liar. Take where you are now and move forward. Give those past sins to God and he will throw them away and not remember them. Start now doing the right things and remember your past just enough to be sure you don't repeat those same mistakes. I know this from experience.

Answer 6

Well, I'm not a very religious person or anything... I do believe in God, but I'm not religious and follow the rules that much.

By reading this I think you have to do what's right for you... You made some mistakes in the past, but don't dwell on them to much and move on with life... It's never to late to change your life because you're smart and you can make things better with the relationship between you and your boyfriend, just take it really slow and everything will come in time.

I guess if you feel that praying helps, then pray to God to get some answers.

Answer 7

Yes, you can become a Christian anytime you want to. The first step is to realize that God loves you no matter what you do. You didn't become a sinner overnight, don't expect that you'll be 100% Christian overnight. Take your time. Read and study the Bible. If you have that desire in your heart, your already on your way. As you grow in your faith, you'll want to please God more and more. He will cleanse your heart, and the things of this world won't tempt you as they once did. They won't be hard to give up. Your boyfriend should understand, and if he sees changes in your life, he will want to change too. God will forgive you of anything. But you must ask for forgiveness, and truly be repentant. Pray in the name of Jesus, and he will submit your prayers to God. I would be glad to discuss this further, and answer more of your questions, if you would like to. There is alot to know, that I didn't get into detailed explanations here. Bless you on your journey ! I will pray for you even though I don't know you. God knows who I'm praying for and what is in your heart. And that is what is important

Answer 8

You can put the toothpaste back into the tube once done but what you can do is live as morally as possible from this day forward. There is absolutely on way to completely live sin free and if you really love this person and they love you, then make plains for the future and stick to them. Go to church if you feel the need and don't let the guilt trouble you because all of sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. You are no different.

Answer 9

It is not too late to change your life...you are only 20 yrs old. You have to be true to your real feelings. If you truly want to follow God and make whatever changes in your life that that entails, then do it! You were very young when you became involved with your BF and obviously you have changed in the past 5 yrs. This is completely understandable. If your BF can't accept this, it is time to move on. Be true to yourself!
Good luck!

Answer 10

Well at least you know you can be forgiven. But if you pray for the strength to resist then perhaps that would help but I don't think that that is enough. But i have a question for you: If your boyfriend really loves you then why would he force you instead of helping you lead the life that will make you most happy. I also don't see how being in college is an obstacle to getting married, but you could also make a committment like be engaged which is a promise to marry... it's a tough one!