I am only 18 years old and I am getting married September 28th 2008. Should I be waiting longer or is this the right thing? My parents don't aprove but his do. We have only been dating at the most 2 months. (PLEASE HELP)
2007-04-26 03:14:52 · 39 answers · asked by Kandy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I can feel in your question that you already know how you feel. Maybe you should ask yourself why you're rushing into it. Do you feel pressured? If your religious views do not deter you from it, why not just move in together or even better close by each other and spend a few night a week together. It's nothing to rush, if you love each other, you will still love each other three years from now when it may be more appropriate to marry. Good luck!
2007-04-26 03:26:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think the combination of your age and the relationship's age makes it much worse than either one apart. Maybe try out a longer engagement. If you can't wait that long to marry him, you probably like the idea of marrying him more than you actually want to marry him. Seriously imagine yourself as a wife, and coming home to him everyday for the rest of your life. Check out MTV's Engaged and Underaged series, it's really entertaining and might give you a better idea of how getting married so young affects other people. Also consider how much less tumultous your family life would be if you just gave in a little by waiting a little bit longer to get married. After all, if you two will be spending together forever anyway, a ring and a ceremony won't make that much of a difference.
After all that, it's still your life, and if you decide it's best, do it!
2007-04-26 11:18:01 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that everone is saying not to, but think of things this way...... if you are 18 now that means you will be 20 at your wedding, your are not old enough to legally drink at your wedding. I would suggest staying together, but maybe wait a little bit longer than Spet. of '08 to get married. 2 months is not very long and what differece will it make if you get married in '08 or 2010?? You are still together, you can live together, you can even play house. I would really suggest though waiting a bit more before making things legal. If anything does happen (not saying it will), it will be a heck of a lot easier to part ways if you are not married that going through a divorce.
2007-04-26 04:45:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ti is your life, but it sounds like you don't want to get married soon either.
anywho, i'm 20 years old and my boyfriend and i have been dating for 4 years now. we know that someday we will get engaged and married, but we're both in school and if we know it's going to happen then we have no problem waiting fo the right time. If you truly love each other (which after only two months, i'm not so sure, but that's besides the point) then it should be no problem to wait. go to school or do whatever you planned on doing and just be together. you may change, he may change, and maybe you'll grow together, but maybe not.
you don't want to marry too soon and then be divorced at 19 or 20. like i said, if you do love each other as you say it shouldn't be an issue to wait.
and don't even be engaged. ask for a promise ring or something so that you are "engaged to be engaged". that'll help with the parents.
best of luck.
2007-04-26 03:57:32 · answer #4 · answered by Samantha B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's way too soon I mean I am 19 and I live with my boyfriend we had only been dating for 3 months but it was different we didn't decide to exchange vowels just move in. Besides he is an older person and steady and I have had my fair choice of dating and am ready to settle down. However, don't just get married because you like the idea of it. Get married because you really love him and make sure he is the one. You will be turning your back on your parents and if then it doesnt work out you won't hav eyour parents support maybe you could just wait a lil longer to set the wedding date like in 2009 and see how it goes.
2007-04-26 03:40:23 · answer #5 · answered by Mari 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have a friend getting married this summer. He's 19, and his fiance is 18. However, they've been dating for three years.
Two months is out of the question. Even though the wedding is a year away, alot can change. Don't plan a huge event that may end up going down the drain. Eighteen is the turning point for alot of people, and you BOTH may change your mind.
My parents got engaged after 2 months. And they are not in a happy, or successful, marriage. They have me and my sister, and I think that's all they got out of it.
2007-04-26 10:14:26 · answer #6 · answered by Evoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not trying to judge but 2 months is a little too soon to be getting married. Over the years people change soooo much. I've been with my guy for Over 3 years now and we're getting married this sunday. We we're together for almost 2 years before we got engaged. Please dont rush into this, you might regret it later on. Not to mention planning a wedding is one of the most stressful things you could do. If you do decide on getting married, good luck!
2007-04-26 06:30:46 · answer #7 · answered by Preggo with # 2 YAY! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I've been on a relationship for a little more than 6 years, I'm 22 and lets just say I don't feel quiet ready to get married there fore I do believe you're very young to get married. You have to study and have a carrier first before you make this big step in your life and have all this responsibilities you will have after you get married. You have to explore things, have fun and most important you have to get to know this guy better, trust me in 2 months you don't know much about him.
2007-04-26 03:47:09 · answer #8 · answered by Lol 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG! I am more concerned that you have only been dating for 2 months..that is def. not long enuff @ your age to know that that's who you want to be with for the rest of your life. I hate to say this sinc estuff varies by people, but you are kinda young to be gettin married..are you really ready for all that? Do you even know him well enough? Ready to not have your parents help you financially anymore? Ready to settle down & not go out with your girlfriends as much? I feel like you asking this question means you have second thoughts. Please think more about this before you do it...cuz if it doesn't work out, you will have to go thru a divorce & that is expensive & draining. I think you should go to college, live your young adult life, and if you still wanna get married to him after that then do it..if he loves u then he can & will wait until your ready.
**Oh, also - pick up "Lies at the Altar" by Dr. Robin ??? (forgot her name but she appears on Oprah a lot) & go thru the questions she has in there with your fiance. It really has helpful questions that u wouldn't normally think about but come up once your married. Good luck & let me know what u end up doing.
2007-04-26 03:42:30 · answer #9 · answered by Jen J. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
o no gurl! u r 2 yung! im 18 too && ive been with my boyfriend for 7monthes && we talk bout getting married but NOT now. cuz u havent got to have all ur fun yet! u think u have but u have no idea! there still so much partying to do && everything and theres more good looking guys that might treat u better than ur man is right now. i say u wait. but that dosent mean yall have to breakup i think yall should see where yall go in tha next 1 or 2 years and if yall r still together well then yuh that would be a good time to get married i guess i mean its too yung but if u really want to then yea. but I MEAN IF ITS ONLY BEEN 2MONTHES YALL HAVE BEEN TOGETHER I DONT THINNK SO!!
2007-04-26 03:22:06 · answer #10 · answered by T!FF@NY R3Y3$! 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋