Something really strange has just happened to me. Met this guy 2 wks ago in a dance class we both attend. Hit it off & chatted for a couple of hours. He contacted me & we met last wk at the class & after he invited me for a coffee. Got on grt & said goodnight..he said he'd call sometime to cook something for me. We had lots in common & we both told each other we're shy. He's divorced with no kids. I like him. He didn't call but did turn up at the class again yesterday so I went over & said hello. We danced & it seemed ok. then I danced with a couple of other guys and next thing I looked around & he was getting his coat & leaving! No goodbye! Like he was annoyed or something? Really, it's the most bizarre thing that's happened to me with a guy. I'm really puzzled. Anyone throw any light on this behaviour? Thanks!
2007-04-26 02:41:49 · 17 answers · asked by sonia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He could have a lack of confidence (men also suffer this problem you know!) Calling somebody is very hard if you're not used to it. He could be very afraid of rejection. It takes a great deal of hard work for somebody who's received a lot of 'Sex in the city' type rejection to get the confidence to even approach a woman. I know!! Perhaps he thinks you're too good for him. If you're really interested, tell him so. Invite him out on a date!
2007-04-26 03:51:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's certainly been through the mill and doesn't want to waste his time pursuing an interest that isn't really interested. You've just got to get him to make the choice of you by demonstraing that you've settled with him as a prospective. If he's still not interested I'm sure it'd be pretty clear. Sometimes women don't feel worth all the time/expense etc. He also sounds like he is concentrating on himself, by going to dance class etc. However it is dance class, so gyrations are certainly in mind. Maybe with someone who's not a village bike/ pricktease.
2007-04-26 03:13:34 · answer #2 · answered by einenglander 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can really know without asking him or talking to him, and there's no point trying to guess! There's DEFINITELY no point trying to ask a load of people on the internet who don't even know him. Maybe he's jealous, maybe he thinks you aren't interested, maybe he isn't interested, maybe he's being shy, maybe he was really tired and having a bad day, maybe he'd just got a phonecall with some bad news....... Try not to worry about what you don't know, certainly not with someone you've only been seeing such a short while.... it's just so much wasted energy usually. Hugs... Hxxxx
2007-04-26 02:51:33 · answer #3 · answered by rainy-h 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he is very insecure and untrusting and jealous. I don't think he's bad, but it's a red flag, really. I would steer clear. Men like this make having male friends or colleagues very difficult, and attempt to control your life so that you can't come into contact with/get to know other men. Ok, I'm assuming a lot here for one isolated incident, but...I'd be worried if I were you.
2007-04-26 02:52:10 · answer #4 · answered by dorothy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long ago has he been divorced? he may ive recieved a call to say his child/family member is ill!..Sounds like you are not a couple but I think he may be frightened that you might do what his wife did..thats be with someone else..if that was the case...it might be jealously..he might be scared and realises he is not ready to move on..read of others views good luck!
2007-04-26 02:52:42 · answer #5 · answered by Jamie79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what part of shy do you not understand, it has only been 2 weeks he is as confused as you. he slipped away as not to cause a fuss as you were having fun. You seem quite confident maybe he just isn't. You told him you were shy but yet still he sees you dancing with other men maybe he is just questioning how shy you really are??
2007-04-26 02:51:44 · answer #6 · answered by desevans007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-04 21:49:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honest opinion?? I think you should be counting your lucky stars that he hadnt called around - if he is behaving like that after ONE date - all jealous and moody coz you danced with some other guys - then trust me you DO NOT want to date him - he sounds like one of these guys that automatically assumes he owns you and before you know it he'd try and stop you talking to other guys etc.
He's too much hard work and hassle this soon - before you even get into a relationship - trust me hun - forget about him.
Some guys are worth the effort - but this one certainly doesnt sound like he is!
xx
2007-04-26 02:49:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Text him or email or call... which ever possible and ask him straight- if he doesnt reply he ent worth it!! if he replies and doesnt answer you- he knows he was in the wrong but wont admit it!!
by the sounds of it he jus wanted your attention- he was makin you do the chasin but it backfired as you were in another mans arms!! Men play the games jus as the women- jus not as well!! lol..
Enjoy!! x
2007-04-26 02:54:57 · answer #9 · answered by sylv_chick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm.. I think he got jealous, sounds like one of those who has 1 or two dates - then thinks that you are his etc etc. let it go - you don't want simeone that insensitive, jealous, fickle, shallow minded in your life - enjoy the dancing!
2007-04-26 02:44:48 · answer #10 · answered by Tiger01204 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋