Why is my 6 year old doing this?

Question

My son just turned 6 in March of this year. ON two occasions, one with a 4 year old boy and once with a 7 year old girl I"ve caught him doing some weird things. I mean, sexual things like hiding under the covers and laying on top of the girl for instance. What can i do about this? I am going crazy because I dont think anyone's ever molested him and I really believe my son when he tells me that the other kid asked him to do it. My kid will lie to other people but he never lies to me. so i believe him. He says no one has done anything to him and the other kid brought it up so....... how do i make him stop? Should I not let him play with his friends anymore?

Answer 1

Let him know that he's not in trouble, but that his behavior was innappropriate. He might not have been molested, but that doesn't mean that the other child is not being abused or at least being exposed to adult themes. I would not let my child play at the other child's house, and closely monitor the child in my home.

Answer 2

first of all maybe you should monitor what he is watching on TV I cannot see another 4 year old or 7 year old asking your son to do things, I think you need to sit him down and tell him these things are not appropriate. then I would definitely never leave him alone with anyone. I would pry a little deeper, you say he would never lie to you, but they do, maybe he is scared and you should reassure him that you need to know exactly where he learned this stuff, it does not come naturally to children at this age. If you do not get anywhere maybe have him talk to a counselor, make sure he has not witnessed you and your partner having sex. but I would definitely find out where this is coming from because he is the aggressor here and later on he could actually rape another child. It is good that you are concerned and looking into the whole matter shows you are a good parent. I wish you luck with this.

Answer 3

This is actually a natural delevopmental stage. With that being said, you should not ignore it all together and let it continue and not say anything.

I would talk to your child and let them know that the penis and vulva do have things about them that feel good, but they are parts that need to remain private. Let them know that if they want to explore themselves it is best to always do it alone. One day when they get married they will be able to explore things a bit more with another person, but for now it is offlimits for everyone else. Make sure to use proper terms as if anything should ever happen they are clear about getting the facts out there so that people understand what they are trying to say.

Answer 4

Ok. First it is natural for children to be curious. Second, your child would have had to see this behavior somewhere. Has he accidently walked in on you and your husband. Are you montoring what he watches on TV. I cannot believe that 2 seperate children asked him to do this. Therefore I would dig deeper in to the situation. How do you know he has not been molested? I know this is a horrible thing to even think about but think about it you must. Who has access to your child. One more thing. As much as you don't want to believe that your child will lie to you, all children do at some point.

Answer 5

You should tell your son that this kind of behavior is not acceptable under any circumstances, even if it isn't his idea initially. I would also keep an eye on him because even if you don't want to believe it there is a good possibility that he may have been molested or perhaps exposed to pornographic materials without your knowledge, and hiding your head in the sand wont make the problem go away.

Answer 6

First of all if your kid lies to other people, I don't care how well you think you know him, he lies to you too. And if you really believe that he doesn't, you are in DENIAL. Wake up, mom and don't believe everything your son tells you. And I can tell by what you wrote that your child wanted to get on top of the girl - maybe he saw it on TV, who knows? But he saw it from somewhere so he tried it himself. He told you his friend told him to do it b/c he has these new sexual feelings and is not sure if it's normal or not. You need to reassure him that those feelings are VERY normal but it's very important not to ACT on those feelings. Teach him it's innappropriate to touch any other girl or boy or let anyone touch (or look) at him. That's why he lied to you, b/c he is not sure if those feelings are ok.

I hope everything works out for you.

Answer 7

that really depends on the child. My son loves 2 help wit almost everything. He helps make up beds, sweeps, mops (we use a swifter), dishes ( he mainly plays in the water), picks up things, cleans off tables, helps put recycling out, at times helps with trash, folds clothes, helps put clothes in wash & dryer, N helps spray furniture down with lysol and/or febreeze. My son has been doing these things since he was 4 an continues, he's now 7 n very cleanly. But these aren't things I make him do, he does them cuz he says he wants to help N I let him. I let him so he'll know responsibility. Only thing I make him responsible 4 is his room. N still I help him with that also.

Answer 8

my mom caught me and a neighbor boy "playing doctor" when I was little. it's just curiousity and maybe a bit gullible. explain to him that he shouldn't look at people's private parts or let others see his. anything covered by a swimsuit is a no-no. it's not because he was molested. the other kid might have threatened him, too. don't make a big deal of it, but tell him it's not good to do that.

Answer 9

i would field this to your pediatrician.

kids get curious and i remember my cousin and i kissing when we very little (elementary school age) and it didn't mean we were gay or molested....we were checking the whole kissing thing out.
kids will even move around on the floor or up against something b/c it feels good.

i'm inclined to think that it's no big deal, but i would ask your ped for advice and a plan of action!

take care:)

Answer 10

children do what they see other people doing. The other kids may ask him to do those things but you also have to think that maybe he ask them to do it. I think that maybe he or his friends have seen something on TV. You should sit him down and let him know that what he and his friends are doing is wrong and just see what happens after the talk.