Just last night, I was scared that I might be ask to explain something that I am not ready to and scare my son with my answer if I am going to be honest.
My four year-old son is asking about ages. How old I am, my husband, my mother. He asked if my mother is in her twenties and I said that no, she's older than twenty. That she's already near fifty. And he asked me if she's going to die soon. I was shocked to hear that but thankfully he asked about nothing else when I said no.
Does your kids know about death already? How did you explain it to them or what will you do if they ask about it. I wouldn't want to scare my son. What would you do if the situation comes when you're asked about death?
2007-04-26 01:19:32 · 10 answers · asked by nanay 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
take the child to a flower garden, tell him to pick a fresh flower and go home with it.advice not to put in water and ask the child to observe the flower as it withers and finally dries up.then explain that death is like that one is born when fresh like the flower and a disease or accident occurs just like the flower is picked and then a person just perish never to return just as the flower dried and could never be made fresh again.also tell him that ou cannot prevent death just like a flower can still wither and dry even if not picked and let the child observe the same
2007-04-26 01:40:56 · answer #1 · answered by colynne 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whem I was about 6, I read a book called 'The Tenth Good Thing About Barney'. It was about a little boy whose cat died (the book doesn't show that happening, thankfully), and it told the story of how this little boy had conversations with his family and with hisbest friend about what it means for something to be dead. They talked a little bit about what happens physically with death and how nobody really knows what happens after it, but some people believe in an afterlife and sometimes they do not. Also, the book talks about some of the good things about death......how the kitty being buried will help to make the flowers grow (again, it doesn't go into any gorey details with it). and ends withthe litttle boy listing off ten good things which he will always reember about the kitty he lost. I think that it helped me to learn to think about death in a fairly mature way for a six-year-old, so maybe it is something which you might want to read to your little boy if he ever starts to ask lots of questions about death. In the meantime, just go with his own comfort level! Answer his questions as simply as honestly as you can, and then ask him if he understands your answers or if he has any other questions about it. Don't go into any real details unless he asks for them; and if he seemsto be really uncomfortable, give him a hug and say that you don't have to talk about anything unless he really wants to. At your son's current age, simple answers will probably be enough to satisfy him. Just go with your gut 'mommy' instinct and you should do fine.
2007-04-26 01:29:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that after certain age, people will go to serve god in the heaven.
This age may vary from person to person and no one will go to heaven if they decide their death on their own. It should happen naturally.
This story will be enough for a 4 year old son.
He will understand the reality when he grew up..
2007-04-26 01:23:58 · answer #3 · answered by lovedreams_143 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my 4 year old son makes alot of comments about death. when i tell him to stop doing something he asks if he is going to die if he does not stop. he knows about death. his sunday school talks about it so he knows about death in a spiritual sense. i cannot say how much he understands.
isn't is amazing how kids know nothing about age. i really like that "is grandma in her 20's"
2007-04-26 01:27:43 · answer #4 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show your child how plants or fruit wither and eventually die and tell him about how we age and after good and happy lives pass on into a not alive stage but leave lots of happy memories that his family never forgets .~~
2007-04-26 01:30:12 · answer #5 · answered by burning brightly 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my daughter is 4 years old my sons best friend got killed in a car accident my daughter asked me why he die i told her that god decided to take him away to live with him and not with his parents anymore because god wanted him to live with him now
2007-04-27 08:03:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
since he is just a child...try to adjust...
think and act as a child...
then tell him, that.... life and death is like a video game, the only thing is that,once you die there would be no second chances, no continue, no credits, no infinity...and in life, you can't cheat your life using gameshark or action replay....
2007-04-26 03:52:50 · answer #7 · answered by raf 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My daughter is almost four. sometimes she asked me same question. I will say, that mean, if a person die, he will never see his parent and his friends. oh, that is not good, she said.
2007-04-26 02:18:20 · answer #8 · answered by lily 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lie, give him the whole "heaven, better place" thing. That is why religion and "god" was invented...
Then when he gets older he can figure out the truth for himself.
2007-04-26 01:23:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Show him a live ant and then crush it.
2007-04-26 01:22:20 · answer #10 · answered by Bob 2 · 0⤊ 6⤋