So my boyfriend is starting to get on my nerves. Like for one he is SUPER jealous of me and my friends and he is always thinking i am goin g to leave him for another guy but i keep telling him that i wont and reassuring him and all that. Then he will have these days when he is perfectly happy with me...ya know acts like he is the luckiest guy in the world and then BAM! I do Something wrong and he gets mad. Like yesterday for example..I was mad because he had hung up the phone on me ( Thats a pet peeve CANT STAND IT ) and so I didn't talk to him until yesterday morning and we made up and everything was fine. Then we went to class and then when we met up after class he was mad at me..and ignored me THE WHOLE ENTIRE DAY it is really making me think like should I just break up with him....Wait it out...WHAT?? Like then he will call me after school and say i'm sorry and make up some excuse why he was mad....like he called me and said sorry and then said he gets mad when i say hi to friend
2007-04-25 23:51:20 · 10 answers · asked by NavyBaby09 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hi to friends before him and i'm like when you walk up to me i'm in the middle of a conversation and i'm not going to be rude ya know? Like I want to be with the guy i met at the beginnin \g of the school year..Which was the fun,laid-back,fun to hang out with guy not the SUPER jealous, have to be with you every second guy...PLEASE WHAT SHOULD I DO?????
2007-04-25 23:52:57 · update #1
So a little more on my story....I called my boyfriend and we had a VERY LONG talk and he said that he didn't want to break up and neither do I so we decided to stay together and hopefully everything will work out...Do you think I'm being wrong in doing this??
2007-04-28 02:02:24 · update #2
Dump him. When he comes crawling back give him a list of the things that you can't stand about him. If he keeps annoying you, move on.
2007-04-25 23:54:52 · answer #1 · answered by RSM JC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, you both are acting the same way to one another. Instead of addressing the problem at that time, you both decide to not speak to each other when one of you make the other mad. I suggest both of you grow up. If you both want to be in a adult relationship, you both need to address what you guys want from the relationship now; instead of not talking to the other person for a day or two.
Also, there seems to be a power struggle. You both want someone in this relationship to submit to what the others wants. If the bf/gf is annoying you, sit down and talk about that moment. By deciding to not talk to the person for a day or two, thinking it will change their tone, only causes more insecurity in the relationship. So, it is not uncommon for the person to think you will leave him for another guy.
But, maybe after several failed relationship will people finally realize that childish behavior is not the answer. So, good luck on whatever you decide.
2007-04-26 09:10:24 · answer #2 · answered by sunshine23511 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many easy answers to this kind of questions, same as leave him, ignore him, dump him and etc... But it never will solve the problem, 'casue firstly we must learn how better we could know our friends and relatives for a better relationship... Cutting and ignoring is always possible...
Totally that's not jealousy. People personally are either individual or social. And this guy seems to be an individual person... That's not essentially a bad thing, but when this kind of persons live with a social person such as you which can not understand and do agreement with his manner, it may make many serious problems...
So firstly try to know him and understand him, talk with him kindly about your and his feelings, read more books about human's relationships psychology together, if you really love each other, to learn how to work out your problems by yourselves maturely!
Certainly it would help you for the future problems as well!
2007-04-26 08:47:47 · answer #3 · answered by Ali E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever see a dog chase it's tail? Kind of an act of futility, isn't it? It really serves no purpose but it does make the dog pretty worn out.
Sounds about the same with your relationship with this fella. If he doesn't trust you enough to not worry about whether you're being faithful, then why date you? Sounds pretty insecure to me. OR immature, if you want to get down to it.
He hangs up on you. That's not good for any reason. If he feels that you make him that mad, enough to hang up on you, then I again, question his motives for dating you.
Also, why apologize, go through the motions of making up, and then ignore you? Doesn't that defeat the purpose of making up?
You do as you wish, but if I were in your shoes and were faced with this kind of person, I would call it quits and go find someone a bit more mature and respectful.
Best wishes.
2007-04-26 06:59:52 · answer #4 · answered by C J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll put it to you this way. You certainly would not want to marry him. If he is like that now, just think what will happen when he starts believing that he owns you.
Don't waste you time any longer. Tell him that he is too jealous and moody for you. Tell him that you are tired of the arguments, etc... Tell him to go find someone else to argue with, and move on From experience, I know that he will start promising you that it won't happen again, but believe me it will. He may quit for a very short while, but he will, I Promise, do it again. It will get worse too!!!. The more they think that they love you, the worse it gets.
2007-04-26 07:09:31 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on, it sounds like he is only going to get worse, some time dating at collage is like living with someone, it is really hard,
but when you move on, he is going to make a push for you again, when that happens, tell him what you said hear, give he another chance, then when he goes back to what he does all of the time, then dump him for good
good luck, maybe the 2nd time around will work for you guys
2007-04-26 08:59:05 · answer #6 · answered by bkbarile 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me your boyfriend is making excuses so he can do his thing, i a man i know the routine, i would'nt take that approach but most insecure wanna be players do, tell him you need some time apart and watch how fast the girls start coming out of the closet, trust me he is the one cheating
2007-04-26 10:52:46 · answer #7 · answered by C J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore him, do that and he will crawl back to you. Like your are his life and without you, he cant bare to live. heheh
2007-04-26 06:59:57 · answer #8 · answered by JP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ignore it work it self out
2007-04-26 06:55:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you two should have a cool off..tell him you need your space!!
2007-04-26 06:57:28 · answer #10 · answered by </3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋