my best friend told me my bf called me easy, so i questioned him about it and i wasn't sure who was lying. He got really mad saying he couldn't believe I didn't believe him, even though he said he understood that because she was my best friend. Truth is, I still am not sure what really happened, but I don't care anymore, if he did say it then fine, all that'll happen is he'll be disapointed, and if he didn't that means my best friend lied to me. Please don't tell me who you think it is, because i don't want to think about it anymore, I just want to know if he was right to have gotton so upset with me?
2007-04-25 23:27:13 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He does have a right to get upset if he didn't say it because he'll be thinking you dont trust him and speaking from experience trust and believing your partner is soo important for any relationship to survive.....having said that its hard one not surprised your confused....take care x
2007-04-25 23:44:17 · answer #1 · answered by tracyw 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were your boyfriend and your best friend spread such malicious gossip and lies about me, I would be mad! Relationship is always built on trust and the minute we lose that trust, we are in trouble because we will always be very suspicious of the other person such that we suspect his every action and moves and a simple innocent comment by someone else about something he said will easily result in misunderstanding or misinterpretation leading to quarrels and discontentment.
Although you say you are not concerned or care about it anymore, from your question, it can be felt that the matter is still bothering you. I assume that you and your boyfriend have been together for some time now and you two should know each other well enough to tell whether he is capable of saying the kind of things that your best friend alleges that he said. You need to decide and choose to take his word over that of your best friend's, then an apology would easily resolve the whole issue with him and the two of you can put things behind and get on with your life. Saying sorry does not necessarily have to mean you are in the wrong, just that you shouldn't have allowed yourself to not trust him just because of what your friend said.
It's always better to get the issue straightened out because if you don't, a strain will be on your relationship and like a time-bomb, it may continue to tick away until one day, the whole thing explodes into a serious mess that would be too big and difficult to resolve. Nip it in the bud now while you still have the opportunity.
2007-04-25 23:59:54 · answer #2 · answered by Seng Kim T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is telling the truth, then yes, he had every right to be mad at you for questioning him. But he may be over reacting because he is angry he got caught. Has your best friend ever lied to you? Does she have anything to gain from saying this to you? That seems a mean thing to say about your girlfriend, ask around your mates and his, see if he has said this in front of anyone else, it seems to be the only way you will find out.
2007-04-26 04:40:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, because he thought that you had a closer, more trusting relationship than you obviously have.
Think about the situation for an objective scenario; under what logical situation would a boyfriend tell his girlfriend's best friend that he thought that his girlfriend was easy, knowing the girlfriend would go back and tell her friend. Unless he is into mind games or manipulative, the short answer is, he wouldn't.
2007-04-25 23:53:06 · answer #4 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt matter ..... really does it.... just think why would your BoyF tell your BestF that you were easy..... I mean that is a really stupid thing to do isnt it.....
He would have shot him slef in the foot.....as your bestf would have been the last person on the face of the planet that he would say you were easy too.....
It makes no sense for him to say it.... he gets nothing out of it....
I think your BestF has heard it from someone else.... ( and if that is the case you are now dealing with chinese wispers )......
Just dont worry about it..... Who cares as long as he doesnt treat you badly or cheat on you.....
Hx
2007-04-25 23:49:07 · answer #5 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like ur friend fancies ur man babes!! I mean think about it, why would ur bf tell ur best mate that he thought u were easy??? He knows she'd tell u doesn't make sense! Jus watch how she is around him
does she flirt wit him?
giggly around him?
bat her eyelashes at him?
You know what i mean keep an eye out for the telltale signs!! Good luck babes x x x
2007-04-26 00:29:54 · answer #6 · answered by Dolly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is a must in a relationship, should he have gotten mad? yes and no in my opinion, he diden't have a right to fly at you just for asking him somthing, and he kind of did because you must trust in order to keep a relationship steady.
2007-04-25 23:42:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to your best friend and TELL her to keep her nose out of your business...she is stirring things up and it's causing you to fight with your b/f.....you should not have doubted your b/f but i have a feeling that your friend is a bit jealous and is causing you and him to fight....tell her to butt out and stop stirring it up...and yes he has every right to be upset....he's your b/f why would you think he said that about you? it's your friend who's lying, not him....and if i were you i would consider your future with this so called friend because it seems she i just set out to cause trouble...look what she's done already....she's not a friend if she does crap like that....find another friend who does no stirr up trouble between you and your b/f
2007-04-25 23:42:00 · answer #8 · answered by Dazzlebox 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell your best friend to mind his/her business. And yes he has a right to be mad at you if you accused him of something he didn't say.
2007-04-25 23:34:16 · answer #9 · answered by Mista R 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would say he had the right if he didnt say it but if he did then bin him !!!!
Maybe your friend is jelous of your relationship i had a friend who tried to split me and my partner up but i can tell when he is lying so maybe you know deep down who is lying but you dont want to admit it
2007-04-25 23:37:19 · answer #10 · answered by mellostewart1 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋