it so happened that one i was on line chat and i met someone a guy he is married and settled .And i am married too so we spoke to each other and he said he would be a good friend of mine as of he did not say more about his married life and then on the first day of chat he asked me my phone number .but i did not give him .he nearly forced me but i did not give him the number is he really friendly or trying to cheat on me i dont know how can he get to a close relation ship with me even though i said i was married pls help me i dont know what to do how to react to this as i was new to chats
2007-04-25 22:07:57 · 12 answers · asked by honey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well to be honest, if he has to force you almost to give a phone # then that should tell you what sort of guy he is. He is probably wanting to end up and cheat on his wife with you. You are something new to chase after so he likes that. I would drop it right now and not speak with him. You are looking at it innocently, he is not. Its going to get you in trouble. If you love your husband, find other friends.
2007-04-25 22:12:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are correct in standing your ground. Giving out personal information like phone numbers is dangerous because you really don't know enough about that person.
Also, I suspect that he's up to no good. The fact that he tried to force you to give him your phone number is a bad sign already. I would suggest that you don't talk with him anymore, as drastic as that may sound. Another thing is that this person may be lying about their status: the person you're chatting with might be some horny 14 year old teenager or a 67 year old widow looking for some kinky stuff (much less likely than the former case). Anyway, chat rooms usually have all kinds of shady characters lurking around, so caution is always advised.
2007-04-26 05:15:59 · answer #2 · answered by Adel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to have sex with you.
Since you are new to chat you will soon learn that a lot of men think that any woman in a chat room is looking for sex.
Also the internet has made it much easier for affairs to happen between married people, so it is not unusual for married and women to meet on-line.
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2007-04-26 05:14:01 · answer #3 · answered by Ratsoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from this guy. A friend is someone you are there to talk to, someone who doesn't require that you say anything if you don't want to, and certainly doesn't pressure you. If you want an online friend, I would suggest another female to talk to, or better yet, include your husband and have a couples chat night. That way, you guys are spending time together, and he has no reason to be jealous. Avoid the loser online guy.
2007-04-26 05:13:28 · answer #4 · answered by Cat M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him not to pressure. Remind him that if he wants to have a close friend, then he better act like a better one himself. The thing with all friendships is that they must be comfortable. Also, you never really know who this guy really is. So just be very careful and never give out personal information especially if he forces you into giving it. Unless you trust him a LOT, then you could start giving it out but be very careful who you talk to. You don't want an eighty year old perv coming up to your doorstep one day...
So just tell him, you're not comfortable with him pressuring you and if he keeps doing it, block him, ignore him and don't talk at anyway at all. If he keeps trying to contact you, tell your husband or a close friend. No one can pressure you to do anything you don't want to do.
2007-04-26 05:17:40 · answer #5 · answered by Kayla Lauren 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh well thats so not cool. But yea thats happened to me recently i was talkin to this guy and it turns out that hes been married for 2 years! All i can say is if u truely love your husband dont give him your number hes just gonna start trouble...and if he keeps asking dont talk to him anymore. I hope for the best!
2007-04-26 05:12:48 · answer #6 · answered by epena86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you're looking to cheat on your husband (in which case, you need more help than I can offer), I'd stay away from this guy. Forget about the fear of hurting his feelings- he doesn't seem to give you the same courtesy and respect and is making you uncomfortable. There's an option in instant messenging services to block users you don't wish to contact you- I would use it on this guy.
2007-04-26 05:15:36 · answer #7 · answered by Ruby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a cheater, and he is looking for you to be his next victim. Don't be fooled. Married men that cheat, like married women that cheat because the woman can't threaten to tell his wife, and won't try to get hiim to leave his wife to marry them.
Best to avoid this jerk. How would you feel if your husband was doing that?
2007-04-26 05:54:00 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it makes you feel uncomfortable you can tell him to buzz off... what does he need your number for when he can just chat with you online? sorry but this guy sounds like a creep.
2007-04-26 05:15:49 · answer #9 · answered by petex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple...tell him to come on chat wenever u wants chat him...otherwise let it be and if he asks abt ur phone num then tell him that u only love to chat thru net...nt htru phone..if he stil forces you then if u really dont want to give him ur num then dnt gve...it z nt neededto give ur num....fine take care bye...
2007-04-26 05:13:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋