I do love him very much, but I'm starting to believe that it's "blind" love. He's cheated on me plenty of times, meaning, he has talked, kissed, taken out, seen pictures [dirty], and flirted with many girls. I'm realizing that he honestly doesn't "love" me or care about me, because if someone loves another person, they definitely wouldn't do that. But his reason why he has done those things is because its MY fault. I supposedly drove him to do those things because I don't let him go out or live a life as he calls it. But this cheating thing has been going on since I first met him, probably a month after I met him. So how can this situation be because of me?? The reason why I'm so strict on him is BECAUSE he has cheated on me in the past, and that's why I don't trust him. So ultimately, this problem is continuing in a circle, if you will. How can I solve this? What should I do? How could a guy do this? And why does he keep me around if he wants to be with other girls? Any feedback....?
2007-04-25 21:45:06 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok ok ok ok ok.....Come on, he has cheated on you...dump him, move on, you deserve better than that. He keeps you around because he knows you will come back to him, and you are his side dish. It is harsh but true. Dump the loser, and get someone that appreciates you. He will never stop cheating on you. There are plenty of other people out there. And no, it isn't your fault he cheated on you, it is because he is **** is why.
2007-04-25 21:51:13 · answer #1 · answered by Coma White 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. Just like that. Why? Because he does not love you. He cheats on you which means he has no feelings of loyalty towards you. He blames you for all the wrong things he did which means he does not care for you at all. When a man loves a woman, he treats her with respect and considers her happiness as the most important thing. Clearly, this is not the case with your man. So, if you have any ounce of self-respect, get out of this relationship while you still can or there will be nothing left for you - not even pride. You deserve the best because in God's eyes, you are the best.
2007-04-26 04:52:00 · answer #2 · answered by viola 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should talk to your boyfriend and tell him why you don't trust him that much. If he needs it, or maybe you do too, why don't you give the both of you some space. So you can both think about and reevaluate your relationship if it's still worth fighting for. I don't think it is right to take back a boyfriend who cheated when you know that you will not be able to trust him again. Because a relationship without trust will be very difficult to carry for your whole life, if you choose to marry him. But I also know that before there will be trust, there should be honesty first. So there, talk to him and ask him if he'd still want to give it a try and tell him that this will be the last chance. If you can, trust him one last time but if ever he cheats again, that'll be the end of it. And mean it. A relationship that is wrapped with doubts and betrayals isn't really worth it.
2007-04-26 04:55:10 · answer #3 · answered by nanay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds like a big jerk. He definitely crossed the line there by doing all that dirty stuff you mentioned.
So... I think if you still love him and think there's a sliver of hope you should give him an ultimatum with a deadline: tell him that if he doesn't stop doing all those things you mentioned within, say, 3 days, then all bets are off and the relationship is over.
2007-04-26 04:53:27 · answer #4 · answered by Adel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, this is easy. But it's tough because you won't want to read what I'm going to write.
You have issues. Your most obvious issue is that you have low self-esteem, otherwise you wouldn't need to ask whether you need to leave this scum because it's obvious that you do.
Your action plan:
1) Break up with this guy. Do it now. Don't have a discussion with him. Just do it.
2) Get help - you need serious therapy to figure out why you have self-esteem issues. Take this VERY seriously.
3) Don't start a relationship for a while. See what it feels like to be "on your own."
2007-04-26 04:51:20 · answer #5 · answered by Shaky 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Woah i thought my problem was bad but yours ..woah. If any guy did that to me he would be out of my life already. You seem like such a nice innocent lady and with this guy he really doesn't deserve you. You deserve someone so much better than him. And i know what love is like, makes you want to be with someone forever no matter what. But sometimes in life you need to make some risks to help you cope through life. Think through it. Follow your heart. Be positive. Look on the bright side of things. You'll make the right decision. =]
2007-04-26 05:25:38 · answer #6 · answered by Irene 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey its not you doing something that is making him like that, its him.
Him saying that you make him cheat is like a him saying he beats a woman and its her fault. Its not and never will be.
Its not because of you at all, don't let him make you even consider that, its completely his fault.
He keeps you around because he can get away with treating you this way, you accept his blind excuses. Its time to stop accepting being treated like a toy. You need to get out of the relationship, you need to find someone who cares about you and doesn't use you when he feels like it.
2007-04-26 04:52:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you have caught a person cheating on you, it is very difficult to trust them again. If he is blaming you for his mistakes now, just think of how he will be treating you in a few years. You would be better off to leave this jerk, and find someone nice and respectful to you. This jerk on loves himself. If you stay you will be caught in this trap until he leaves you for one of the girls he is cheating with. You will be heart broken. Be strong and do it now, before he makes a fool of you again, and hurts you even worse.
2007-04-26 04:52:03 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as per me u should leave him,if u feel that u will b completly lost its wrong.
u r a good girl but that boy doesnt need love he just want to have some fun,thats it
but pls try to avoid make u r life hell, start living u r life to the fullest,u will deifinately find a gud boy.i m saying this to u bcs this kind of thing hapeens wid me my gfrnd is avoiding me all the time.
now i m alone,
if u feel we ccan b frnds mail me at -ravikhurana568@yahoo.com
2007-04-26 04:53:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is blaming you for all things wrong instead of doing some soul searching. Since the trust element isn't present, it's time for you to move on.
2007-04-26 04:49:36 · answer #10 · answered by SGElite 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋