I have a feeling he is gay...He is almost 40 years old, never been married, never heard him talk about an "ex" girlfriend or boyfriend for that matter. He has a lot of gay guys friends, some female friends also, he is just adorable and charming...
I am 27, we´ve become very good friends, we go out all the time, he has told me several times he likes me a lot, he says he enjoys my company, we go to dinner, movies, holds my hand, but nothing else...
He does get jeaulos when other guys aproach me... on the other hand, he has never said anything to me...what do you think? I don´t know if there any signs I should be looking for?
2007-04-25 21:41:48 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why not ask?
I'm not saying be blunt about it, but why not be upfront about how you are feeling? (Yeah, I know, easier said than done.) But if you really like the guy, and you think you want to go beyond where you are now (and he does seem to be interested, perhaps just a bit shy) one of you is going to have to do something.
Look at it this way: for all you know, he may not be doing anything more than he has because he isn't sure about you and your feelings toward him.
I dunno, but it seems to me if he's really all that important to you, you're going to have to do something.
2007-04-26 12:49:04 · answer #1 · answered by mc_2001_a1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things to look out for in a stereotypical gay man:
1. If he's into high arts (theater art and such) and knows so many things about them
2. Has good taste when it comes to clothes
3. Dead giveaways: listens to Madonna, Mariah Carey, Kylie MInogue, Cher, etc.
3. Dresses really well, very polished (like no wrinkles on the shirt)
4. Compliments other guys a lot and maybe touches them
5. Loves to go to the gym and pump it up (a lot of gyms are what I call gay church...go figure)
Now, this guy that you like might not be a stereotypical gay man. It doesn't mean that just because he never mentioned an "ex", he never had an ex. Maybe he's just a private guy. What makes things complicated is that some gay guys only date other gay guys (date only men), others are bisexual and some are metro guys (who only seem gay but are really not).
If you really like him, why don't you go ahead and ask him out. If he IS gay, he'll probably be freaked out and tell you he is gay. If he's not, then you'll get to know him better!
Good luck!
2007-04-25 21:54:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably has bi-sexual tastes, but he may not be interested in gay relationships. Possibly you won't see any signs one way or the other as he has probably learnt to hide it well.
Some men who appear normal (married with kids, etc) like the occasional sausage roll for lunch, and their wives would 'die' if they ever found out.
If you do form a relationship with this guy make sure you are happy for him to satisfy his cravings every now and then as he won't be able to control it forever.
If you think you can handle it, talk to him about it... you lead the conversation and tell him you can accept him being bi-sexual. If you ask him if he's bi he'll just say no.... after all he's probably been hiding it for years.
Sounds like he has had some gay-sex but never hetero-sex, so he doesn't know how to make the first move with a girl.
Why not take him by the hand and see where it leads?
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2007-04-25 21:56:15 · answer #3 · answered by Ratsoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be keen on how he talks, how he moves, how he dresses.Keep an eye on him specially when he is in the company of men. How does he react? It's really easy to tell if you are a keen observer.Beware! If you marry a gay you will be sorry for the rest of your life. So, no matter how adorable he is, if you found out he is gay then run, baby, run.
2007-04-25 21:51:59 · answer #4 · answered by Reycen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you can just ask him. If he is not, he'll be emphatic about it. If he is, he'll probably wonder how you didn't figure it out. In any event, don't be too disappointed. Straight guys can be nice, and treat women with respect. I'm straight, and would never intentionally hurt a girl's feelings the way I've heard some guys do. I mean, most guys get all egotistical if even one thing goes right for them.
2007-04-25 21:47:44 · answer #5 · answered by perfectlybaked 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there's any real effective way to judge if someone is gay or not just by looking at them and hearing them talk, that is if they behave like regular people.
But look for subtle signs and ask some other people that know him. Perhaps ask some of his friends.
From what you've said though, it does sound to me like there's a good chance he is gay. Especially if you reside in San Francisco.
2007-04-25 21:48:03 · answer #6 · answered by Adel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a lot of gay guy friends?
I'm going to assume if that is true, they aren't just friends and he is gay.
Although I guess that could be wrong, why dont you just ask him after a movie if he wants to stay the night. I'd hope he would get the hint and let you know....
2007-04-25 21:55:01 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Ashley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to kiss you on the lips. When you ask him this, watch his expression properly. If he's surprised like avoiding your eyes, then he is. But if he is a lil bit surprised but there's excitement, then he's not. It's always body language can tell if he's gay or not. Know what I mean? Beware though, gays are good kissers.
2007-04-25 21:53:32 · answer #8 · answered by julkritz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's gay and you will become a fag hag by staying with him and looking for some type of relationship. He will never change and you need to know that even though he's nice to you.
2007-04-25 21:45:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Him getting jealous shows that he's not gay. If he was gay, he wouldn't mind if you flirted or if a guy flirted with you in his presence.
2007-04-25 21:49:08 · answer #10 · answered by kickstatus101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋