I have alot of anger inside me and I don't know how to let it all out without hurting anybody. Any suggestions

Answer 1

Maybe you should try running or beat up a pillow or something. Sit and watch a comedy movie. Laughter is the best medicine. Get away from your problems for a minute. Then maybe things won't seem so bad.....

Answer 2

You need to get into counseling. Find the root of the anger, then you can find better ways to deal with it. Taking up boxing or karate may seem like a good idea, but in fact it could make your anger worse, especially if you start feeling like yo could easily beat someone up.

Get into counseling, find out what's the cause of your anger, and then find a way out. BTW, I congratulate you on seeing that you have the anger...too many people don't realize it until they're standing in front of a judge.

Answer 3

I had the same problem. How I got rid of mine is by exercising daily and taking 2 tbls. heinz apple cider vinegar in a glass of water whenever I got angry or depressed. It really works and I know it will work for you too. Sometimes all we need is a little extra help and vinegar does that for me. I wanted to kill my family, people or anybody who looked at me the wrong way. Now I am so happy and smile all the time. Plus the vinegar has grown my hair and nails long. Do not think this will not work because its so simple. It does.

Answer 4

Go ahead and be angry. Anger is just an emotion, and you have a right to feel angry. Heck, you can even enjoy it--think of all those people who pay good money to go to and enjoy a basketball game to get made at the other team, the refs, their own team, even the guy next to them.

You don't, however, have a right to intimidate, frighten, harm or hurt someone (this includes being passive-aggressive). These are things we do to make ourselves feel better at the expense of someone else. Obviously, if someone can't tolerate feeling angry, they will be more likely to give in to an impulse that reduces their anger, even if it is counter-productive.

We are taught throughout our lives (especially by many religious people) that it's not okay to be angry. That's a bunch of bull. You have a right to your emotions and a right to feel the way you do.

These are the two worst things you can do with anger--trying to feel less angry by either avoiding it, or giving in to angry impulses. Neither is particularly constructive, nor fair to you.

The rule of thumb is, feel free to FEEL angry at someone. Feel free to THINK about angry impulses. Heck, you can even enjoy fantasizing about those things. But draw the line at ACTING angry at someone.

It's usually helpful to tell someone you are angry, or even angry at them, because communication tends to help people. However, make sure you communicate in a way that is non-threatening or hurtful. This is how people grow closer rather than farther apart when they get mad at each other.

As always, consider discussing this with your physician or psychiatrist, as they may be able to suggest anger-management groups or peer-support groups that may be helpful. Medications are a slight possibility, but I can't say how possible. Good luck!

Answer 5

No one is angrier than I am. However I have learned the art of manipulation in communication and writing. Read lots of books about how to make friends, influence people, how to complain about everything and how to get what you want. Now I use manipulation in letters to people that piss me off and they never even know I am totally messing with them, Then there are the letters to those people who need a good *** rippin and I do let them have it. However, I never use the words " I feel" or "you did blank" I point out things by starting with sentances like "Due to the over aggressive behavior displayed so easily by you when we last talked I was unable to say much of what I had wanted to" Then you go on to state how or what they did or how they suck but the key to making it a letter that they will never show anyone at all you need to throw in there some stuff that you know about them that they wouldn't share with anyone else. That is all good if you know the person. If it is some idiot in traffic or in public you just need to learn a few good to the point put down phrases that will leave them speechless or with only FU to say. That is what to avoid at all cost is swearing because once you do no one hears anything else. So get your anger out by communicating. You can solve problems that way or just make another person feel really small and minor in your life. I also journal alot and vent out all that pisses me off and most of the time I feel better. I write letters that I send and some that I don't because I wait a few days to see how I feel about what I wrote. So remember to show anger is to discount everything your trying to gain. Show intelligence and manipulate others into knowing what idiots they are all on their own.

Answer 6

Sit down alone, concentrate, find the source of your anger, and you will find that ALL anger is a result of fear. When you find the fear that is causing the anger, maybe you can get over it. If what you find is more anger, then you haven't found the source, you will have to look deeper. When you find the fear, and face it, you'll know what is causing the anger. Usually the fear is unjust, and nothing to be afraid of in the first place. If you find that the fear is justified, then you'll have to remove it or avoid it completely.

Answer 7

there are alot of things that you can do. for starters go to and anger management class. they will teach you some tools to deal with your anger. deffinatley get some therapy and see if there is something that has happened to you that makes you angry. you may also have some depression and or some anxiety and you may need to get on some meds as well. i know with my anxiety that i would get really snippy with my kids and that was when i knew that i needed help. so try some of these things and hopefully things will get better. hope this helps

Answer 8

I think it is really important that you talk to someone professional about this. They may have some good alternative solutions for you. This very well could be a chemical issue with your brain as well. Talk to someone,,,even if you have tried this before,,,keep in mind there are many different people out there and they are not all going to be great. Keep trying. And good luck!

Answer 9

The only suggestion I have is that you are WACKO and need to turn yourself in to the nearest Psychiatric Hospital and get help...your statement is an indication of a serious mental disorder...similar to that Virgina Tech dude who also had a lot of anger inside of him...and look what he did.

Answer 10

I would say try boxing, running or an other sport where you can get out your energy. Talk to someone who's professional, cuz the solution to this problem are maybe to help you relax and be calm, not just work it up.