Help, how to tell my child that his father had passed away and will never come back?

Question

He is only 5 and do not understand abt death? how to help him to cope with it?

Answer 1

Sorry for your husband,May god give you courage to support your son.Don't tell your son directly that his father is nomore as this can hurt his innocent mind,Whenever he ask you about his father,tell him that God needs his father's help so he had called him and whenever you(son) need his help just pray and both father and god will help you.Stand strongly next to her and he will respect you throughout his life for your courage and his dad would be in his heart always.May God bless you,both.

Answer 2

5 yr olds understand the concept of death. It is the frightened adults that want to sugar coat this part of the life process that confuses children. What ever you do DON'T DON'T DON'T tell him that his father went away. He will think that he caused his father to abandon him. Tell him that his father has died, and when a person dies they don't come back. Let him ask questions and answer him honestly and with compassion. Let him cry and grieve, everyone has to grieve, and children are no different. Listen to him when he wants to talk about his Dad. Help him remember the good times that he had when his Dad was alive. Don't get angry when he seems to go on like nothing ever happened, he is only 5 and 5yr olds bounce back. You should take this time to help yourself cope with your loss. You can only help your son if you are in a good strong place.
Peace

Answer 3

You don't tell a child that his father has passed away. Tell him that he went to visit God in the sky. If the child want to know when he's coming home, tell him that dad is in "There" (pointing to his heart). It may help if you and your son talk to dad in the sky from time to time.

The biggest mistake you can make is trying to avoid the conversation about dad or bringing up his name. This will make your child feel that everyone has forgotten about dad and this will cause him to deal with it on his own. Talk about dad, let him know how much you miss dad and you wish he was here. Don't be afraid to initiate the topic when you think he's not thinking about it. This will let him know that dad is always on your mind and that is your best therapy.This will in-turn teach him how to deal with it and let him know that dad can't come back. (without you having to say it).

Good Luck! It worked like magic for my three year old Grand Baby.

I have answered a lot of questions, but this time I know I am right.

Answer 4

Has there been a pet or something that has passed away? A flower or a pot plant? Perhaps explain it using something he can see or has a memory of going away and never returning. When he understands the concept, talk with him about good things he and his father did "Remember when you dug that big hole at the beach?" or "remember when you used to ride daddy like a horse?" When you have discussed some "good times" then compare his father to the flower or plant you used in your death discussion and gently tell him that Daddy has passed away just like the flower and though he can't come back, we can always have him in our memories.

Answer 5

well first of all the sentence " you will never see him again" is too drastic for a 5 year old. Just tell him that dad is in heaven now and that he is fine and taking care of his little boy. Why don´t you go and talk to some of his school teachers and ask them about ways on how to deal with this without causing a trauma in his head i am sure they must have experience in those situations. Also if you are religious you might want to talk to your rabine, priest or whoever is in charge of your church and ask for some advice. Good luck.

Answer 6

My brother died a couple of years go, and my sister-in-law did a great job of helping her 3 year old to understand. She told him that God needed his daddy in heaven. She said that his daddy would still be watching over them from heaven. Every time her son does something good or bad, she tells him that his dad is watching. Then she says "How do you think that he would like that" They visit his grave on a regular basis.(she told him that his grave was just a place to remind them that he is still watching them.)

The other day, I went to my neice's wedding. My brother's son knew that my brother and my neice were very close. My nephew says "Do you think that daddy likes that guy Casey is marrying? He better be good to Casey, or my daddy will tell God that he has been bad!!"

He just has the best attitude about his dad's death that I have ever seen.

You might want to try My sister-in-law's approach, it worked for her.

Answer 7

Be honest, let him know he is by God in heaven. children know of death thru TV an such, having a gd cry together can be very healthy. remind him as he grows things that his father may have done, if he wasnt a gd man, then you have to lie. the question you should be asking is what kind of man do you want to raise? i'm sorry for your loss, may a Angel rest on your shoulders an sons till you have gained strenght. God bless

Answer 8

You could tell your son that God decided that it was daddy's time to go to Heaven, and that daddy won't be coming home anymore, but he will be watching him from Heaven, and that he loves him.

To help him cope, you could have him write letters to his father, and attach the letters to helium balloons and you two could go into your backyard or into the park and let the balloons fly away and take his letters to his father.

Answer 9

Try to teach him about the Bible and get to a Sunday school where you can be around people that are kind and understanding.Build his soul and yours to be spiritualy awake to the meaning of life here on earth, for it is a test.

Answer 10

I remember a Hallmark commercial from a few years ago. They (mom and lil one) bought the dad (deceased) a card and tied it to a balloon and let it float away ... up .. up..

I'll never forget that, I thought it was beautiful.