2007-04-25 18:26:10 · 25 answers · asked by Robin D 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Wait and see just let them be.. for now and let them take it a day at a time..
just watch over them occasionally but give them some space..to be themselves..
he may be going through just a "phase"...who knows and u're rid of her soon...
or she may be quite mature for a 15 year old and he may end up with her in the future you never know. :)
just give it some time and relax..I know u're worried but just chill MOM. :)
2007-04-25 18:31:40 · answer #1 · answered by cnn360coffeebubbles 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
why do you want to stop it surely they like / love eachother or is it because she is 15 or you dont approve , let them be as long as she does not end up pregnant why try to split them up they will only rebel against you , the sea is big out there and i am sure that he will find a intrest in someone else or not and they can end up getting married. I was 14 and my boyfriend 18 when we started to date and we are now 27 and 31 and happily married with 2 wonderfull kids. You should consentrate on more important things like keeping your son / family happy dont be a typical old mother be the exciting and best mom.
2007-04-26 02:52:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you let them date before, it would be incredibly unfair and hypocrtical to make them stop now just because he's 18 (and you probably COULDN'T make them stop, just tick them off and make them try even harder to be together). You may want to speak with him about the legal issue, if an 18-year-old having sex with a 15-year-old is illegal in your area (it's not in mine...if the person over 18 is within 3 years of the minor's age, it's not illegal, so 15 and 18, or 16 and 19, or 17 and 20 are okay). But you can't and shouldn't break up their relationship because he had a birthday...and maybe they're not even having sex. It's not illegal for them to DATE.
2007-04-26 01:33:12 · answer #3 · answered by grayhare 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's fair to try and terminate a pre-existing relationship just because a birthday just happened to come along..... As long as they are not having sex, it's not against the law for them to be together, and trying to break them up could really backfire. I would just let them be for now and make sure your son knows the legal repercussions of starting an intimate relationship with her now that he is 18.
2007-04-26 01:53:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let them date, but keep them in public places or with an adult around. I'd let them sit and talk in his bedroom WITH the door open a bit and you at home, for example. She might be his future wife, after all, or she might get pregnant accidentally, angrily break up, and ruin both of their lives! If you can help them avoid a surprise pregnancy, everyone will be better off, but it can still be an positive experience for your son to be dating.
I met and quickly married my husband when I was only 19, (he was 25), but we're happily married nearly ten years later. Better to meet the right person at the wrong time than vice-versa!
2007-04-26 19:29:45 · answer #5 · answered by Junie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the laws in your state. Some are stricter than others. If there is a law against this relationship discuss the repercussions with your son. Technically, he's 18 and you really can't stop him from dating her if that's what they want to do. Good luck!
2007-04-26 01:33:42 · answer #6 · answered by Mom23 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think if they were dating before it would be incredibly damaging to try to break them up now.
Statutory Rape is the unlawful act of sexual intercourse with a female considered a minor (under 18) as long as there is a three year difference between the perpetrator and the minor. This charge is still considered rape even if the female gave her consent. Depending on the circumstances, this could be a misdemeanor or a felony charge.
BUT what it doesn't say is that in Oklahoma is that 17 is the age of consent.
it's also illegal in my state to seduce a female under the promise of marriage who is a virgin
I would gently remind him that it is technically illegal now to have sex with her, not to just date her though. (especially if you think she would scream rape if he pissed her off or broke up with her) what he chooses to do now that he is 18 is up to him. I wouldn't let them have sex in your house though (if they are having sex I don't want to assume).
2007-04-26 01:52:30 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Ani♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she may be close to 16 by now anyway. When will she be 16. It never works out if parents try to stop their son/daughters relationships, it's best to leave them run there course on there own.
2007-04-26 08:04:38 · answer #8 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont understand why you would want to do that. Now if she looks threating and is a little on the crazy side then I would say yes. But if shes a good girl who really loves your son then just let them be happy. Good luck!
2007-04-26 01:33:27 · answer #9 · answered by Princess Rach 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No point in giving him a Romeo complex. (i.e. if it's forbidden, he'll want it even more) Just remind him that it's now technically illegal, and that he needs to be careful lest he become a registered sex offender for statuatory rape.
Unless they're not actually having sex, in which case there's really no legal barrier there. Once she's 16 though, he's pretty much in the clear unless her parents dislike him badly enough that they'd be willing to press charges.
2007-04-26 01:31:43 · answer #10 · answered by P.I. Joe 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how physical this relationship is. These days it's almost expected to have sex in a dating relationship. I hope your son is familiar with the terms jailbait and it also depends on the age of consent laws in your locale.
Sounds like it's time to have a little talk with your son.
2007-04-26 01:33:46 · answer #11 · answered by licketychick 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋