me and my boyfriend been going out for about almost 3 years hes sweet when he wants to be ,but now hes got worse we never fought like this ya we fought about little things and the fight only last fo about 15-20 mins but it all started about 4 months ago we got in a fight about how i always foget things and he get sooo mad and how i wont lisen to him whe n he wants me to do what he wants,i try to do eveything to make him happy, i cook, clean, and i do his laundry for him and were not even married im only 19 yrs old, and when i want him to do something for me ,oh im tired thats his excuse, i know im not perfect but i try my hardest to do things for him, about 2 months this year he pushed me because i made him mad and he through me down on the ground sat on top of me and just screamed at me, i never thought he would ever do that to me ever,hes a nice guy,sweet but t at times hes a totally diferent person when his friends r around then he wants to hold he to his chest and buy me things!
2007-04-25 17:34:59 · 8 answers · asked by nessarocx@verizon.net 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Relationships are tricky aren't they. Unfortunately, there isn't a magic formula to make a boyfriend, husband or partner turn into the person we wish they would be. If you find your unhappy with your relationship, it's probably best to look within and ask yourself a few questions...like: why am I tolerating this type of behaviour, and am I enabling it. (meaning you've set a precident they can treat you this way - being confrontational or elusive and not calling), how am I contributing to the breakdown of the relationship (are you the one being confrontational or have anger management issues?)? do I have unrealistic expectations? is this realtionship healthy? is there a future and room to grow? are you staying in this relationship out of convenience, fear or habbit?
It's never easy leaving or re-evaluating a relationship - especially when we feel we are 'in love' or deeply attached to another person - but at some point you need to determine if this person is or has become toxic to you. A relationship always will take work and compromise, but it should also be reciprocal and for the most part easy, comfortable and based on friendship.
My wise old grandmother who battled through and survived the 2nd world war told me something once and it has been my inspiration - "the whole point of being with someone (spouse, boyfriend and even friend) - whether for a lifetime or a night - is because you make them a better person and they do the same to - and for - you. It doesn't have to be in a big way either - just enough to know their presence makes a positive impact - without having to ask."
If your relationship is based on arguement and results in a poor self perception and/or anxiety/unhappiness, maybe it's time to cnsider moving on. Maybe take some time to figure out what you "want" out of a relationship...but more importantly what you "need" out of a relationship.
Good luck - and I hope you find happiness - both within yourself and a healthy relationship!
2007-04-25 17:49:46 · answer #1 · answered by bornonaplatein1988 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now just think of, would u like 2 stay with him 4 the rest of ur life, when he is mad n etc.? If not, then u could tell him it would b best if u would brake up, if he doesn't want 2, then maybe he would change, but if he didn't change, then u just would have 2 break up!!! Sry 4 that what is happening!
I wish u luck!!
2007-04-26 01:05:48 · answer #2 · answered by wanna b me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relltionships are very important key in having a good life and lovable series of our memories. you are asking when you should break the relatioships in your boyfriend, did i sound the same? breaking is not that so easy as tearing a paper and throwing it elsewhere. girls are very emotionable person in terms of relationship espicially lovelife. girls should keep the relationships between her boyfriend and her. of course, that is the main function of girls. but of course the boy must have a consideration of being responsible of his girl's side. if you found out that your boyfriend doesn't care to you in just a slight moment, it is the time to break the line between the two of you. but before doing that you should reflect it to your self if that guy still deserve you and worht the things around you. breaking the line between relationships is a very tough task. you should also ask your self if you can maintain the poise of your liffestyle and also in the side of your boyfriend, if ever the two of you have broken the line.
2007-04-26 00:48:48 · answer #3 · answered by deynagan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in a toxic relationship it always starts out small before it becomes big. I don't think that any loving relationship should contain fear. If you are finding that his behavior is scaring you then don't stay. It kinda sounds like you have already made up your mind. Listen to what your gut is telling you. Don't wait for someone to make that decision for you.
2007-04-26 01:09:29 · answer #4 · answered by Meggan 76 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep. Time to go. Three years is usually the time when most couples either decide to get married or end it. It sound like you two need to end it.
2007-04-26 12:36:10 · answer #5 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is this the videogame guy?
DITCH THIS MOTHERF**KER!!!
seriously you have all this energy and love to give, you want to provide for the guy you love, **** i'd never ask my woman to do my laundry and ****, and if she did holy christ i would do anything for her.. there are guys out there that will GIVE YOU WHAT YOU DESERVE instead of just being a selfish pig..
time to lose the loser..
2007-04-26 15:51:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he cares more about himself more than he does for you...it means he's already lost interest, save yourself and leave with at least some measure of dignity by leaving him before he leaves you bruised...sounds like he's getting abusive and physical already.
2007-04-26 00:51:09 · answer #7 · answered by jeff 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get away from him he is abusive.
2007-04-26 00:39:28 · answer #8 · answered by wantajeannie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋