I'm really worried about my mum, she has been overweight all my life and i really want to help her. i've asked her to find out tell me how much she weighs but she won't do that because she doesn't want to know. we only just recently lost my grandma (her MUM) at age 63, due to something that could have been prevented by healthy eating etc, and i really don't want to lose my mum that early (she's 46 now) coz i'd really be lost without her, but she just doesn't seem to care. also she and my dad have only just moved to QLD so it makes it hard to do the stuff we used to do like walk around the block or play tennis or whatever. i just need something to help her see that i'm only doing this because i care!
sorry for the length of this but i'm really lost
thanks in advance
2007-04-25 17:18:37 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
Thanks so far everyone, but for those suggesting going to the gym together etc, we live approx 1000 kms (10-12hrs) away from each other in different states so not really applicable. thanks anyway :)
2007-04-25 17:31:23 · update #1
I UNDERSTAND YOU REALLY LOVE YOUR MOM!!!! SO TRY TO MOTIVATE HER.RIGHT A LETTER TO HER WITH ALL YOUR FILINGS FOR HER,ASKING HER TO NEVER LIVE YOU AND TELL HER THAT YOU TOGETHER WILL DO HER FIRST STEP TO A NEW LIFE,AND LIVE THE LETTER NEXT TO HER PILLOW,SO SHE CAN FIND IT IN THE MORNING!!!!!!! NEW DAY-NEW LIFE!!! GOOD LUCK BABY DOLL!!
2007-04-25 17:28:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're old enough to drive, do the grocery shopping yourself. If not, ask her to pick up some stuff so you can cook some meals for the two of you to share. Make low fat recipes that are full of vitamins and nutrients. If you need any, email me and I'll send some your way. Ask her to join you for a walk around the block. And if nothing works, tell her your concerns. Tell her that you love her and you want her around for a long time because you need her. Good luck!
2007-04-25 17:23:06 · answer #2 · answered by Kallie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly your mum needs to make a commitment to healthy diet and exercise. Losing weight isn't easy, and she's the only one that can make this decision. Perhaps it's time you have an honest conversation with your mother and express your concerns. Have some objective and be understanding. The last thing you want is for her to get defensive.
2007-04-25 17:41:28 · answer #3 · answered by Lyn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that her mom dying could be something genetic because, truthfully, it may be. I'm sorry but, call me retarded, but I don't know what QLD stand for, but wherever that is, there's probably an atheletic center or recreation center. If you haven't told her that your worried, try telling her that. Also you could just try looking something up on a healthy life style on the internet and the disadvantages of not having one with her. Just tell her that you really care about her alot and don't want to lose her. I know how you feel except my mom wants to lose weight and cares.
2007-04-25 17:26:38 · answer #4 · answered by addict for dramatic 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best thing you can do is support her.
Do get out and walk with her.
Do encourage her to work out some, even if just w/a 30 minute program on the tele.
Don't ask to eat out.
Don't ask for junk food for the house and encourage her not to buy them for herself.
Don't ask for fried food or high carb food (potatoes, pasta, corn, peas, etc.).
These are little things, but will take some work on both your parts. It can be done. It will come off slowly, but if she wants it to and works at it, it will come off.
Best wishes
2007-04-25 17:27:43 · answer #5 · answered by pintobns 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, this might sound really cheesy, but it's the only thought that popped into my cobweb-infested brain. Do you think it would work if you told her that at a certain time on certain days you were going to go walking and it would be cool if she went walking too? That way you could "be together" even though you weren't really together.
2007-04-25 17:22:34 · answer #6 · answered by Smeather 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you would like to work out with her so that you both can get into shape and spend time with her. This will get her to lose weight, make you too cloers by talking and may even help sculpt your body if you want to. i did this with my mom and we both lost over twenty pounds. plus we talk alot more now. Oh and yea I am a momas boy.
2007-04-25 17:23:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show her this yahoo question. Show her how much you care about her health and life. Show her that she has people who love her. Tell her that it's fine if she doesn't lose weight, but you don't want her to die soon.
Note: Sometimes, people might get a little defensive when others ask them to lose weight. They'll feel self-conscious and you certainly don't want that for your mother. Perhaps you want her to lose weight, but you would want her to love herself more.
2007-04-25 18:03:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Clean the house out and get rid all of the bad food- replace them with yummy fruits like mangos and cherries and watermelon. Replace her fattening drinks with green tea, water, and coffee. Make sure she takes her vitamins.
2007-04-25 17:27:10 · answer #9 · answered by Blythe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom lost her mom when gramma was only 59..but my mom was heavy too..she lost 70 pounds and kept her weight off and lived to be 79..so I think your mom needs your encouragement but don't nag her as she is an adult..but you are a good child to care for the health of your mother.
2007-04-25 17:24:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋