I was in a 3 year relationship with a guy who i truely loved. At first it was a fling, then it became serious, he asked me to meet his family, then to move in with him, and thought to myself that there is def a future, i fell in love and opened my heart to him. Then 6 months ago i was suddenly dumped by him telling me that he couldn't pretend anymore, he was unhappy for last few weeks, doesnt know why because "something" had changed. I was so devastated and so heart broken that i refused to have anything to do him. Right now im trying to move on, am enjoying my single life and now everytime i go out, there are so many guys that are interested in me, but im not. I do have fun with them, but i dont feel interested in any of them. My friends are pressuring me "why dont you get a bf, there are so many interested in you". I always tell them i dont NEED a man. But I honestly dont know why. Am i still not over my ex or am i too scared in loving again and getting hurt.
2007-04-25 16:27:59 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is loving again even worth it?
2007-04-25 16:29:34 · update #1
Yes, loving again is worth it. Babe, I was in exactly the same position as you. I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years. It broke my heart and I was completely and utterly devastated. Then...I met another love. This new guy is amazing, I will marry him one day. You will move on. Give it time. You will meet another man that you love and that loves you. I was the same, going out with friends but not finding any guys that I was interested in. Just be strong and love fill find you. YES YES YES love is worth it. Yes you broke your heart and yes love is scary and uncertain. But it is the most amazing feeling and it's rare so when you find it embrace it. Who's to care if our hearts get torn, love is just too special to run away from. Be strong babe, you will b just fine.
2007-04-25 16:53:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ha! the classic "i cant pretend anymore" I know how you feel...i was with someone for 2.5 years and out of the blue he wanted to end it. Its hard hon and you will probably go through the "im just going to use and abuse men...i dont want a relationship" stage. you had your heart broken...give it time to mend. there is nothing wrong with being single. enjoy it. but make sure you are careful. you have a wall up right now and there is nothing wrong with that. you will eventually find the one man that you will let your heart down for. if your friends cant understand that, you might want to re-evaluate your friendships. do what makes you happy. hang out with the girls...go do girly things, dont worry about finding someone...it honestly took me a year to get completely over my break up..i dated a few people, i was in another serious relationship after that which ended suddenly (death) but now...im 25 years old and enganged to be married to the most wonderful man around. take your time...someone else will come around eventually.
2007-04-25 23:34:34 · answer #2 · answered by americangal1981 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that. It will take as long as it takes. My best advice is to focus on YOU. Don't worry about dating right now. The best ones seem to come along when you're not looking anyways! Find a new hobby or interest to keep yourself active. Don't worry about what your friends want. If they see you happy and active without a man, they'll back off.
2007-04-25 23:41:15 · answer #3 · answered by Cory T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes... you will move on... Trust me, I've been there...
But you need something else meaningful in your life to focus on right now besides your love life.
Try volunteering for a needy group, challenged kids, battered womens shelter, etc... you'll get a whole different kind of fulfillment and it will make your life so full that you'll get over "him".
2007-04-25 23:31:51 · answer #4 · answered by my-kids-mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are holding on, you dont know how special you are, you dont know that you can actually be alone by yourself. you dont know a lot of things about yourself. ask yourself? do you really want to hold in this relationship even if it brings you pain, and even if it robs you of your life's vitality? think again. where do you want to go?
2014-02-14 09:29:47 · answer #5 · answered by julian elijah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋