Depression and Guilt after..., Why?

Question

I'm a 17yr old male, told to be handsome and "sweet personality". One thing that's killing me though is Masturbation. I do it once approx. every 3 weeks; and afterwards, I get really really depressed and a lot of feelings of guilt. I heard it's "Healthy" but I know somehow or another it isn't natural. Why do I think that? Because if it were natural we/ I would never be in deep depression and guilt after I have done it. I used to feel sorry for woman because of the period they have once a month but now I see that I should really be feeling sorry for men, because we have sexual arousal every day, and have to masturbate weekly to "releive" ourselves. Anyone know why I might be feeling guilty after masturbation? And please, if you know any way to reduce it by any means write it in your answer, And please; do not tell me "It's healthy--Masturbate". Thanks.

Answer 1

I assume you were raised by religiously insane people who taught you to hate your body.

I raised my sons to know that sexual self gratification is normal and wonderful - and private.

No one would feel guilty about masturbation unless evil nasty sick people tried to make the person feel there was something wrong with it. Guilt over masturbation is in no way a naturally occuring phenomenon.

Answer 2

When you feel this way over any particular subject it is a sign that there is not a match between your feelings, thoughts and behaviors. My guess is that you have some unsettled feelings over whether or not it should be the right thing to do and this is causing the imbalance. You need to examine where or if there are feelings that you have about masterbation that feel wrong and start there. When you discover the answer to that question you can figure out how to resolve your thoughts. Guilt is a "negative" emotion and serves no good purpose in anyone's life so my advise is whatever behavior you have; evaluate if it goes with your inner beliefs and feelings and if not, why not and answer those questions and the guilt will subside.

You're not alone in your thoughts, many teenagers suffer guilt over an array of behaviors as they discover what fits with their inner being...and figure out what they believe or don't.

Good luck.

Answer 3

A 17 year old with a BMW,not everything in your life sucks does it!Well,if you don't want people to tell you the truth why ask the question?Maybe if you feel so guilty about this and it is leading to "deep depression"then you should post your question in Mental health and after going into your profile I can see that you have posted this in Mental Health,Women's Health and psychology too.Well,good luck in all four categories.

Answer 4

It's not exactly healthy to feel this way after mastrubating. There could possibly be some event in your past (or even several) that enforced into your subconscious mind that such an act is wrong even though your conscious mind is aware that there is no consequence.

Answer 5

I'm not sure I can really answer your question myself, but there is a Counseling Center that addresses this on the internet, on daily radio programs and at their 24hr. help-line. 1-800-NEWLIFE or NEWLIFE.COM

There are also books you can get at Barnes and Noble or other bookstores authored by the guys who do the radio show. The titles are: Every Man's Battle and Every Young Man's Battle Author is Arterburn

Answer 6

dude, how can you feel depressed after you masturbate? it's the best feeling in the world....... don't trip anymore....... who said it's not normal? only people who are very religious and DEEP in their moral values say that... masturbation is normal... and every three weeks? try doing it every 3 hours... lol...

not trying to disrespect your feelings toward this subject, but REALLY... don't trip dude..............just masturbate away!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

it must be what you are masturbating to...
that gives you feelings of guilt and shame.