I have been taken for a ride by an alcoholic drug abusing person what can I do to resolve this problem?l?

Question

we have a child in together,unfortunatley I found out to late about this person and their problems.This person used tobacco,alcohol,marijuana,and crystal meth during pregnancy and has kidnapped our child to another state through false allegations of domestic violence.I have filed for custody and a hearing is coming up soon. I am concerned about my childs wellbeing but have been restrained from contact with the mother and my child. The mother has admitted to using all of the above to doctor.Is there any legel recourse for these actions?I would also like this person to be prosecuted for the lies that were told to several courts and for slandering my good name in the local area.I would also like to know how to go about collecting monies I have lost to lawyers,travel expenses,time off work.etc..This person has an extensive criminal record that includes various drug charges and wanton endangerment,dwi's ect..This person knows the system and uses it for own personall gain.I do not.pleasehelp

Answer 1

Find an alanon group and join and go every day if you need to.
It saved my sanity. And I am a better person because of it.
You might have to cut your losses. But, for the child you need to get proof of everything she does. Paper work proves things to a judge.

I am so sorry this is happening. I have been there myself.

Answer 2

The only thing you need to think about right now is the custody battle. If you win that battle, then your reputation will be restorted. people aren't stupid.
The number one thing you need to do is tell the judge that the person uses drugs, and request a hair test. I sure as hell hope you're clean, because there's a good chance you'll have to do one as well.
It will help if you have details of this person's criminal convictions in various states. You don't have to have the actual documents, just the information at this point. e.g., criminal record for drug possession in Texas, assault in Illinois, etc. Obviously, though, documents would be ideal if you've got them or can get them.
Those things are the most important. hair test, previous criminal record. You need to file for emergency custody fast.
If those two things happen: the judge learns about the criminal record, and there is a positive hair test, you should win custody.

The admission to the doctor is only useful if the doctor's records are made available to the court. This can happen, but it's hard to do.

as for getting money back, you'll get money in alimony if you get custody. you'll get your reputation back if you get custody.
You'll get your child back if you get custody.
There's only one game in town right now.
Get to it!!!!

Answer 3

you need facts and witnesses at the custody hearing. court documents, withnames and dates, police records, reliable witnesses to the fact that this person is a drug abuser and is incapable of making rational decisions regarding your child. Your word alone is not gonna cut it. also if you use drugs or have a history(provable) of drug charges or abuse, making allegations against her may cause the state to step in and place the child in foster care, stating that niether of you are suitable for placement.(bear this in mind before proceeding) If that is not the case you should move forward, if you can prove these allegations you have a good chance of recieving custody. You should also request a urine test for the mother (immediate) at the hearing. If she is actively using she will come up dirty. Be aware < all states favor Females in custody battles so you will need a solid case to win and a squeaky clean record/history yourself. Bottom line though, if you are the father, you have certain rights with the child, but you need to disprove her allegations. I wont try to fool you, if you want to do this you are in for some serious stress pain and possibly letdowns but if you persist I believe you can win.
Money lost to Lawyers is gone. Time off work and travel, chalk it up as loss and move on. If you decide to hire a lawyer, Hire a female and prepare to spend alot of money. Good luck my friend and GOD Bless! P.S. enter into any and all situations with fervent prayer to Jesus Christ.

Answer 4

Revenge is not the important thing here. The child is the biggest concern at this point. Perhaps you have acquaintances who also know the other parent and what the situation is. If they will make annonimous calls to Child Protective Services stating their concern for the child CPS may make an unannounced visit to the home to check out the situation. If the child is removed from the unfit home the other parent may be the one to get the child.

Answer 5

have u ever asked for a hair drug test cause that will tell what kind of drugs they use and when they talk test they will know how long its been since they used but i think if they bleach hair that cant tell so u have to catch them at right time to be court ordered to take test and make sure judge knows what hair color they have at the of hearing have it done righr[t away with lawer or officall from court that knows who they are timing is important do what u have to do to prove they are dangerous to the well being of child talk to social worker if serious about this matter children are important to not let this happen to them dont be a wimp about this if u r serious from somebody that has been there before ur friend if not lying

Answer 6

You need to see a lawyer about this. You might also need the help of an investigator, to help to find the mother and child, and help gather evidence to help your case. That's because, among other things, what this woman said to a doctor, any doctor, is priviledged information and cannot be used by yourself or anyone else without her permission.

Whatever you do, though, don't try to take matters into your own hands.

Answer 7

self medication... a poor excuse for responsibilities, don't neglect a child knowing the truth as they will and draw the line for what is and can be done

Answer 8

Ask your lawyer.