Is it ok for a long term bf to look @ porn? mine does and it hurts an he knows it?

Answer 1

As I've said many times before ,,,, Almost all guys do nothing but let their glands and egos do their thinking for them ,,,,

It's always "I DO" with them until they don't want to any more ,,,, They have no idea what the words commitment obligation loyalty or fidelity means let alone what they entail ,,,, They finally figure out that they were just in lust instead of love ,,,, They eventually tire of their present relationship and start looking for greener pastures ,,,, Some one that excites them more than you do ,,,, Then the next thing you know they start cheating on you or just up and leave altogether and there you are left high and dry and used and abused and they could care less about your feelings ,,,,

In this situation you've described with your boyfriend ,,,, If you excited him the way he should be excited about you then what's he doing getting into porn ,,,, The writing is on the wall so to speak if you ask me ,,,,

He's obviously looking for thrills that he no longer gets from you ,,,, It could be considered a form of cheating on you really ,,,, The porn is a good indicator of what's on his mind anyway ,,,, Think about it ,,,,

If he loved you the way he should then he'd listen to you and understand that such behavior on his part is hurtful to you and stop it immediately ,,,,

If he loved you the way he should he'd be bending over backwards to prove his love for you and do every thing he could to make you feel special and comfortable in the relationship ,,,,

If he loved you the way he should then the last thing he should want to do is hurt you this way ,,,, You said he knows it hurts you but what's he doing about it and what does it mean ? ,,,, I think you can answer that question yourself by simple deductions,,,,

The time for you to move on was when he started getting into the porn ,,,, That was a good indication of what was going on in his head when he started it ,,,, You have some heavy thinking to do and decisions to make ,,,, I think it's headed for a break up and when it happens just make sure you are the first to do it ,,,, Don't give him the chance to do it before you ,,,,

There are allot of fish in the poind so to speak ,,,, It's past time for you to go fishing and find some one that's fun and exciting to be with ,,,, There's someone out there waiting for you some where ,,,, All you have to do is spot him and make yourself known to him and let him find you ,,,, Usually most of them come trouble and problem free and they aren't wrapped up in pornography ,,,,

Good luck sugar ,,,, Wish you the best ,,,, The sooner you get this issue resolved the better it will be for you ,,,, Hope my answer helps ,,,, Yoda told you so ,,,,

Answer 2

It is OK to watch porn!!!! The question and the problem is you say it hurts you that he does.. the answer to that is if he loves you he would respect your wishes and not watch the porn. You do not have to put up with it i would have a good conversation with him and let him know how much it hurts you.. and if he does not respect your wishes time to find someone new..just think when a tough problem comes up and it hurts you porn is an easy fix

Answer 3

Have you tried being his porn star? Real life porn is way better than a movie or some photos. In the end you are both happy too.

Answer 4

If it hurts you, it's your fault. Men look at porn because they are visual creatures. Nature made them that way, to blame them for it is absurd. However that doesn't mean he shouldn't at least be discrete about it, and he shouldn't be over doing it.

He is the way he is and you can't change him. It's not going to get better and it's foolish for you to think that it will. If you don't like it, find a new boyfriend. If you keep him, don't complain later that he is still looking.

Answer 5

But why does it hurt. If you look at the answer, you will find it hurts because you are insecure about how he feels about you, how attractive you are, and if he will ultimately leave.

This is in you.

ALL males are visually oriented when it comes to sex. You might as well ask him not to want food when he's hungry and smells good food.

Females are MUCH less visually oriented when it comes to arousal, so don't understand why men enjoy porn, but that doesn't change how men react to it or why they enjoy it.

Answer 6

So guys have a need to watch porn and you shouldn't feel bad because the people he watches in the porn aren't people he will meet and there's no way he can cheat on you with porn. So relax and don't be too protective over him guys tend to dislike that.Good Luck.

Answer 7

If it bothers you then its ultimately hurting the relationship. If he knows it bothers you and continues to do it then its in a sense like he is choosing his vice or addiction over an actual person.
I had the same problem at one point and you first have to realize if he does agree to stop it might not be easy for him and it might take a little time for him to totally stop.
Im a christian and even if you or your boyfriend isnt in my opinion pornography DISTORTS what a healthy sexual relationship should be like. Men get an UNREALISTIC view of sex by looking at this and many times the women in their lives begin not to be able to meet the standards for sexual pleasure that he is finsing in unrelaistic women online and in unrealistic scenerios. God made sex for a husband and a wife for two people to enjoy in private. God does not enjoy or condone all the sexual things that are going on over the internet and whether or not your boyfriend knows it - the longer he stays involved in what can become an addiction and a burden to real relationships the harder it will be for him to get out and the larger the strain will be on whoever he is with in a relationship. Women and men see committment in different ways. A man will not feel as though he is doing anything wrong or is cheating on a woman unless he goes through with a sexual act physically with another female. While we as women (emotional attched beings) feel betrayed when his time and focus and attention is on other girls (even be it women he may never meet over the internet) The bottom line is you feel whatg he is doing is wrong for a reason. You need to make him understand why you feel this way and is he cares for you and values the relationship you have he will stop doing it. There is no excuse for him to keep looking at women online while youre setting there being hurt. Your hurts are legitimate because God made us to have feelings and He designed sex for man and women who are in love not for people to exploit themselves online with multiple partners. God warns us of the dangers involved in fornication. It can tear apart marriages, relationships and it can even hurt his own life regardless of if he is in a relationship. Share this with him and try to come to an understanding. Good luck.

Answer 8

Better that he is looking at porn, than say your sister or mom, even though the plus side to him looking at your mom or sis is that you could end up on the Jerry Springer show.

Answer 9

girl no matter what boys will be boys dont take it to heart if hes looking at porn beacuse the fact of the matter is who is he with? YOU and u never kno he might learn something and ull benefit

Answer 10

tell him; be like um excuse me I don't like you looking at that stuff; it hurts and I'd like you to stop. don't be mean just be nice about it. but if he keeps doing it like he doesn't even care; then he ain't worth it. but my boyfriend is long term too; but he don't like looking at porn; but when I say stop talking to some girls he does it. cause well he cares and you know. g/l <3