today is mine && my boyfriend 9 months. i called him this morning just to wish us a happy anniversarry && all he said was .."oh, happy anniversarry !!"
he hasnt called me for 5 days. i call him everyday .. but we only talk for a quick minute && we''re off the phone. he's too busy getting high && im tired of it? but its like this .. i cant leave him cause i honestly love him to death, i do. i waited for him for 6 months `till we finally became official.
i need more advice then just 'move on'. i cant. is mine && his relationship falling apart?
2007-04-25 15:28:27 · 16 answers · asked by em_LEEN 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
as painful as this may sound, i don't think he loves you in the first place. because if he does,then you wouldn't have had to wait 6 months, you wouldn't have to call him to greet him on your anniversary (because he should have been with you on that day so there would be no need for a phone call), you wouldn't have to call him everyday and get frustrated every time because the conversations are short and meaningless, and you wouldn't have to ask that question here on yahoo answers.
a relationship is always two-way. so in your situation, there was a never a relationship at all. if he's too busy for you and would rather get high than be with you then
he is definitely,
obviously,
point blank,
NOT WORTH IT.
he doesn't deserve you girl, you can love. he can't.
2007-04-25 15:43:35 · answer #1 · answered by ASIANsoWHAT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you must have a lot of love for this person. Just make a bluff. Say I can't take it anymore and if he doesn't stop getting high and pay attention to you, you'll leave him. Then just ignore him. Don't call, don't say hi, don't look in his direction, for as long as you can hold. At least a week or a month. If he doesn't respond, call him and ask him if he's noticed anything different with your guy's relationship. Sometimes he does love you but doesn't know how to show it.
2007-04-25 22:35:51 · answer #2 · answered by Baby I'll stay, heaven can w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but it doesnt sound like much of a relationship to me. I went through the same thing not too long ago and I can tell you that it sucks! I couldnt make it with my guy. he cared more about getting high than anything else. Its hard and I know you dont wanna hear it, but the best thing to do is let it go. You dont need that stress in your life, all it will do is tear you apart emotionally. good luck
2007-04-25 22:33:10 · answer #3 · answered by michelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about this for advice...dump the loser.
Any girl wanting a guy to remember a 9 month anniversary is just asking for disappointment. Any girl that calls to wish a happy 9 month anniversary is immature and needy, a guy should run from her and fast.
That being said, he is a looser and he will break your heart. You have been warned so don't complain later.
2007-04-25 22:32:58 · answer #4 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me assure you..you DO NOT love him. You are simply in love with the idea of being in love. Don't waste yourself on a loser who doesn't even remotely deserve any of your time. Think about what you wrote.."he's busy getting high" and "you can't leave him". Excuse me, but WTF?? You need to kick his *** to the curb. I don't mean to be so blunt, but grow a backbone. He is clearly a loser and the fact that you are insecure enough about your relationship (or lack there-of) to post this question means that you recognize that fact. It really isn't that difficult to rid yourself of a loser. But, it is difficult to let go of the fantasy of a wonderous romance. Clearly, you are holding on to that fantasy. It will get you no where. Lose the loser and spend some time learning about you. I gather you are a bit lost when it comes to who you really are. Decide what you really want in a partner. Then worry about love and those 9 month anniversaries. FYI-for the future...men might remember your 1 year anniversary, but 9 months? I don't think so. That's fairly insignificant in the grander scheme of things. Good luck to you.
2007-04-25 22:39:40 · answer #5 · answered by Daisy101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but it does not really sound like you have a relationship to fall apart. I don't know what it is that you love about him, based on what you have said.
I suggest that you take the time and write out the characteristics that you want in a boyfriend/relationship and assess if he has those qualities. If not, then I believe that you will have your answer.
God's Peace!
2007-04-25 22:36:38 · answer #6 · answered by Sapphire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can overlook that drug use, than I guess no it's not falling apart. I would recommend you pull out of this type of relationship, but thats just me. I dont understand what the issue is? You haven't spoken to each other in a bit? Call and engage in a longer conversation if you have to, but see whats up.
2007-04-25 22:31:28 · answer #7 · answered by Caimunion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing to do is let him know straight up how you`re feeling about this and what`s going on with you two. just be like hey I don`t like this whatsoever; we`re falling apart and it`s honestly killing me. I love you to death and I want things to work out; and I guess if you get a bad response from him or he just keeps not talking to you; I don't know what else to say. just get it to his head how you`re feeling in your heart. hope that helps. and goodluck. <3
2007-04-25 22:33:21 · answer #8 · answered by _melissaaaa! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to sit down and tell him how u feel and sorry to say it but its the truth people only change when they want to so the weed smoking might stay forvever or untill hes ready to quit make sure ur in the relationship for the right reasons and make sure its love and not u being comfortable with him good luck
2007-04-25 22:32:29 · answer #9 · answered by mickeynminnie143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriously, you sound young, especially if you think that getting high instead of talking or spending time with you is acceptable from someone who says that they love you...
he's a looser, and seriously, if you stay with him you will end up being a looser yourself and im sure that you dont want that...
dump his sorry-azz and move on...trust me, there are loads of nice guys out there who will talk to you for more than a minute and dont smoke pot...
2007-04-25 22:32:57 · answer #10 · answered by skattered0077 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋