How to get over the death of a loved one?

Question

Well... My aunt was like A 2nd mom to me. She died earleyer today... I am really up set and dont know how to get over it. Help please

Answer 1

I just buried my 22yo son last November just after Thanksgiving. He was my first born child.

It is the hardest thing I have ever had to face and his death effects me on a daily basis. Even now tears are welling up as I write this.

Death is unfortunately an inevitable part of life. What I have decided to do is to do my best to make my life worthy of his death. What I mean is to do my best to make my life better and happier. I am currently fighting depression from not only my son's death but some other things going on but I am fighting to overcome this and live my life as my son would his if he were still here.

It is hard and you will spend many nights crying but it will get better.

I am in the process of buying a house - something I would never be able to do if it were not for the life insurance money. One way I plan to honor my son is by planting a weeping willow tree in the front yard. It's a sign that through sadness comes strength. Although I will always weep for the loss of my son I will stay strong.

My son would not like it if I stopped being happy just because he died. He would want me to be strong and be happy and that is what I plan to do.

Maybe you can find something to do in honor of your aunt.

Answer 2

I am very sorry to hear of your loss. I can give you nothing other than the knowledge that time heals all wounds. You may never be back to exactly the same as you were yesterday, but that's normal. After all, even if she lived another 50 years, you'd still change and mature.

But in time, you will get to the point where you can talk about your aunt, and smile and remember the good times.

Answer 3

When my mom died it just seemed so wrong that the sun shined that day.

It helps to remember the fun things you did together - laugh with others who loved her.

Also, do something to remember her by. Mom loved hummingbirds. I bought 2 little hummingbird windchimes. One was put above her grave and the other in my livingroom (2000 miles from her grave). Somehow it just made me seem not so far away. It's been 1.5 years now, and I have happy memories when I hear the chimes.

Tears still happen - always will for someone you love, but happy memories help.

Answer 4

I know how you feel. My father died 5 years ago after battling with cancer for 4 years. He was very young. No one can get over the death of a loved one. You don't have to get over it. It's okay to show grief, remember that letting out your feelings is not a bad thing.

Answer 5

I cant imagine the pain you must be going through. If your religious, I would DEFINATELY turn to God. Live your life with a smile on your face and remember the awesome times you had with her. Grief is a normal process, and a healthy one also. Dont be ashamed to spend the first few weeks mourning over the loss. Its the first step in recovery. Continue to pray, and dont stray away from God. Things like this happen to draw you closer, not shun you away. If you are not religious, I dont know what to say... Its hard to imagine death without eternal life. Stay strong, and God bless. I'll keep you in my prayers.

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Answer 6

I know how you feel. My dad died a year ago and it upset me so bad, I had to take a couple of weeks off work.
I dont know how to tell you to make yourself feel better. I just know that with time, you will get over the grief you feel and be able to move past the loss.

Answer 7

I am sorry to hear about your loss.

You shouldn't expect yourself to get over it quickly. Let yourself grieve. But, while you're grieving, let yourself be happy, too.

Over the next few days (and weeks and months and years), talk to everyone else who loved her. Talk about all of the wonderful things that she did in her life. Talk about everything she taught you. Talk about everything she has done for you. Remember what a great life she had.

And, think about what she would want you to do now, after her passing. Would she want you to drown in sorrow? Or, would she want you to continue growing, learning, loving & being happy in your life?

Finally, remember she lives on in you every day - all of the things that she taught you, all of your memories of her - will be with you forever.

Answer 8

my dad died three years ago and i still am not over it

Answer 9

i am so sorry.. just lost my best friend..... of 13yrs....
on April 2nd.... it's very hard...... i still cry... and dream.. about him... he was my best friend...... you
never really get over it..... cause there in your heart......