2007-04-25 14:47:34 · 6 answers · asked by JESS, 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Please ____, come here and sit down. We need to discuss some things for the next couple of minutes.
Now, don't get me wrong, because FAMILY is THE Most important thing, but ...
This is MY HOME that I am paying for, and at this point, I feel that you have overextended your 'welcome' and taken advantage of my good nature. Things are not working out, and I've not wanted to say anything .. but now ... I feel that you have NOT shown me the RESPECT due ... and that includes having the Utilities paid for, the food in the fridge, the room itself .. and the other things that drive me RIGHT UP THE WALL.
I would like you to take the next two weeks (or whatever time limit you set) and find yourself another place to live at this time. AGAIN ... Remember that I do care for you (and about you), but you do need to start your own independent life at this time.
AFTER That time, you will NOT live in this house anymore.
(THEN .. change the locks and make sure that is done! -- when this situation happens .. you never know ... take it from me .. someone who survived a short disaster of a marriage).
2007-04-25 15:39:43 · answer #1 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sucks but you have to do what's best for you. I had a family member live with me for awhile but it just didn't work out what so ever and i didn't want to say hey! I'm sorry but this is not happening but I had no choice. The family member said this and that and nothing was accomplished and I didn't want to do it, that's the worst thing to have to do but I said hey sorry but ya gotta go. I love you and everything but I also have a family and things can't be like this.
So I felt like hell about it but when you have someone that is just not trying then you have no other choice or in your case it could be different but no matter what the case, yes you are going to feel terrible but maybe it's for your own good.
You know that I have a sister that called my a few months back and asked me if her and her husband could come and stay with me and I told her no, not because I don't love her but because I have a family and this is my home. I find that people just take advantage way too much and then when they are in your home it's like they don't care about your rules and don't respect you what so ever ya know. So anyhow that sister that I said no to, she hasn't talk to me since but that's up to her right, she 43 and I'm 33 so maybe one day she'll get a little taller and grow up. Cause she sure has one hell of a sister here.
Good luck.
2007-04-25 22:01:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time a family member asked to live with my husband and I the answer will be no (well that depends which member) then I will not have to say hit the highway
2007-04-26 13:29:17 · answer #3 · answered by pheebe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say somethignlike " I can no longer afford to have you living here, financially or emotionally, i really do loe you guys but I think it would be best for our relationships if you had your own place, or if you want to take the humor routesay " I can't walk around my house naked if I want and before you guys came I had naked hour everyday and I am really starting to miss it"
2007-04-25 23:00:04 · answer #4 · answered by Kristal E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You approach them and give them a move out date. Tell them they will need to be out by that date.
2007-04-25 21:56:30 · answer #5 · answered by Ask Aunt Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT says it all.
2007-04-25 21:54:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋