Do you think it is rude not to have cake at the wedding reception? I would have a dessert table or chocolate fountain instead of a cake but my sister says that we must have a cake. My fiance and I do not like Cake so why spend a lot of money on one? She also told me that guests would be upset if there was no cake? Who goes to weddings just for the cake anyway? Let me know what you think please I will have a cake if it is considered rude not to but I think other desserts would be just as nice.
2007-04-25 14:41:00 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You've gotten a lot of good answers, and I agree a dessert table would be wonderful, what a great idea. Tell your sister she can have her wedding the way she wants, you do your wedding your way.
I just wanted to throw in that the cutting of the cake traditionally symbolizes the beginning of the bride and groom's life together. Just food for thought... no pun intended!
2007-04-25 14:57:04 · answer #1 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Although some guests may expect it, it is definitely not considered rude to not serve cake. Since you are planning to substitute it with another dessert type food, then I think this should not be a problem at all. I would do the dessert table so that your guests will have a choice of their preference. I have also been to weddings where they had one small cake to cut in front of their guests and cupcakes or small cakes handed out to guests. But, this would probably be just as expensive as a traditional wedding cake, so maybe that would not work. Anyway, the point is that it does not really matter if you have a cake. If you and your fiance are against having one, then don't. Good Luck and Congratulations!
2007-04-25 22:57:26 · answer #2 · answered by Krissi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your wedding, and probably one of the most special events you will ever have in life. If you don't want cake, then you shouldn't have one! You and your future husband can do the traditional "feeding of the cake" with whatever you both like, whether it be from a chocolate fountain (I love that idea) to something else from the dessert table (another great idea).
I'm sure your sister means well, but the cake isn't the most important part of the reception. I think your ideas are great, as I also don't care much for cake. Gently tell your sis that you appreciate her very much, but that you are going to plan your wedding as you would like it. Maybe you could involve her by asking her to come up with some ideas for the dessert table. Tell her you love her and thank her ahead of time for her understanding.
Have a wonderful wedding and a wonderful life! Annie
2007-04-25 21:50:57 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be rude not to serve some sort of dessert at all...but since you will have a dessert table or chocolate fountain that is perfectly fine. I've never had a wedding cake that was good anyway (even the expensive ones are not all that tasty!). I usually have a bite for the luck of the bride and groom and leave the rest anyway. You may have one or two sticklers who complain about the lack of wedding cake, but 99% of your guests could care less.
2007-04-26 18:09:03 · answer #4 · answered by MelB 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend and I joke about having pie.
No "wedding cake" is ever required. My friend had a wedding where she disliked the idea of having one large, tiered wedding cake, so she had individual ones at all the reception tables, which were center pieces under taken away and cut for dessert.
Do what you'd like. If you are having a desert buffet, that should be plenty to satisfy the sweet tooth of your guests. However, have a dessert you and your fiance love that the two of you can share for photo-taking in place of cake-cuttting.
2007-04-25 23:24:04 · answer #5 · answered by Evoo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's Your wedding reception and if you and your husband to be want to have a choc. fountain or yummy dessert table instead of a cake....That is Your perogative. IF the people that are coming to the wedding know you..they'll know you don't fancy cakes and preferred to go with what you do fancy*~ SOmething a lil less ?traditional* I wouldn't classify it as being "rude"....it is something you and your fiance choose to have to make this Your Special Day* Everyone else , including your sister , will have to Respect that~ If it makes your sister feel better, you can tell her 'if she wants to make or buy you a wedding 'traditional' cake..to knock herself out* you appreciate it, but you are still going to have the Choc. Fountain or the dessert table as that is what you both will enjoy the most* BEST WISHES and enjoy your special day* :) Keep on Smilin*
2007-04-25 21:48:48 · answer #6 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey chica its your wedding. You DONT HAVE to have a cake if you dont want to. I have heard of somebrides not wanting a wedding cake so they had a dessert table instead. Nothing is wrong with that. Its not rude at all. A wedding cake is just tradition its NOT a must. Save that wedding cake money for something else.
2007-04-25 21:46:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is your wedding I think you should do what ever you want to do. If you are having a dessert table or the fountain that would be great. I love the idea. It is different and this allows your guest to choose what they want instead of just a piece of cake.
Best Wishes with the wedding and the marriage.
2007-04-25 22:02:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a small, one tier cake, only to be used for the symbolic 'cutting of the cake'. 10 years from now you'll be glad you did those pictures, those always end up being one of the favorites. You don't have to spend much on the cake, just get one big enough to cut, and perhaps share with the wedding party only. I think it's a really nice touch and might be missed otherwise.
BTW I think your dessert ideas sound wonderful. In the end it is your wedding, do what you want, it's your day to have everything your way. I'm just looking at it from the more sentimental aspect of it is all. But don't let anyone pressure you into doing something you don't want to!
2007-04-25 21:49:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's not the law to have a cake, which means it is not a necessary part, it's just something that has become tradition over the years and so most people would expect there to be one. It's your wedding and if you don't want cake don't have one. Just as a thought though, there are alternatives to cake, such as brownies, muffins, doughnuts, cupcakes and recently I have heard of cheeses being used, or how about mini versions of your favourite desserts, like mini cheese-cakes or mini meringue nests?
2007-04-26 07:37:54 · answer #10 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋