Ok I am 20 and a virgin. My boyfriend is also 20 and not a virgin. Is it going to bother him I have no experiance and is 2 months too soon to sleep with him. I feel ready. And how bad is the pain the first time?
2007-04-25 14:21:59 · 31 answers · asked by annonymus 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it should not bother him at all if he don't like it he is strange cause a virgin would be tighter than someone who has sex often and you are the only one that can answer if 2 months is to soon if u are comfterble with it go for it if not then don't sex can be a physical thing not everyone has to be married to have sex nore inlove plenty of ppl have casual sex so it is all up to you
2007-04-25 14:30:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course it will not bother him, he will just be happy to be having sex! i do think that two months is too soon to sleep with him though, especially for the first time, you do not know if this guy just wants you for sex, why not wait a bit? you have already waited 20 yrs, why not a few more months until you are sure? as for the pain, everyone is different, personally, my first time hurt a lot, so much i cried. and i was also sore for about 3 days after. but some people have no pain at all, just have a lot of foreplay and lube and you should be ok
2007-04-25 14:26:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I would give it some more time. Not because of the pain, and not because of the experience issue. The pain will eventually go away, and I'm sure your boyfriend won't mind your lack of experience too much. The main reason you should wait is because this is a rather big decision. Do you really trust my answer of the answers of everyone else on Yahoo? This is your issue, and while it may be nice to have some outside advice, the only person qualified to make this decision is you. You may not necessarily have to wait until marriage to have sex, but you're only 20. You have your life ahead of you. Think about it.
2007-04-25 14:28:12 · answer #3 · answered by Nick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend really LOVES you then nothing will bother him, he should be estatic that your even giving yourself to him at all. Everyone's "first time" is different, but the one thing everyone can say is that it's a good kind of hurt, not painful.
In my opinion, 2 months is too soon, you have waited 20 years already, whats a few more months. Are you sure your guy isnt going to leave you anytime soon, because that would leave you in a very regretful situation.
Good Luck!
2007-04-25 14:27:40 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before you do this, do you really love him?????? Guys prefer virgins, it's a big thing for them knowing that you are one. Please make sure that he is the wright one for you because he may use you just for that reason, so he can break you in for say. I would hate to see you get used and abused by someone who cares about her body and has morals, don't just do it to do it you have to be sure and 2 months to me is way to soon, after all if he really loves you he will wait forever,and that would not be an issue with him if he did love you. Does it hurt the first time,yes it is uncomfortable then it's like heaven if your with the one you really love. Think real hard about it before doing something you may regret later. Good luck sweetie as you are one special person who deserves the best and only the best and do not let him make you feel any less. :0)
2007-04-25 14:29:58 · answer #5 · answered by BuLlY LoVeR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he'll mind at all. Of course, you should discuss that with him, but if he's kind and caring, he'll take care of you and help you learn things.
Having sex is a very personal decision. If you feel that you're ready, then it's time to have the conversation with him about protection, what you'll do if you get pregnant, etc. If you can't have those discussions, then you should wait a while.
I didn't really feel any pain the first time. Of course, we had a lot of foreplay and I was relaxed, so that helps.
2007-04-25 14:27:39 · answer #6 · answered by Julie N 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are comfortable and ready, do it. It shouldn't be terribly painful. The most important thing is to avoid pain is to make sure that you're lubricated sufficiently. Also, if you use tampons it probably won't hurt much, if at all. You're old enough to make this decision on your own; be prepared for consequences. Make sure he wears a condom, or you're on birth control - - don't take no for an answer. It won't bother him that you don't have any experience, but know that sex isn't just for him, its for you too.
2007-04-25 14:29:18 · answer #7 · answered by lei 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad. I am 30 and still a virgin (and quite proud of it). Two months is way too soon to sleep with a guy. You don't have to do anything that you don't want to do. Try to hold on to your virginity.
2007-04-25 14:26:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If YOU don't think 2 months is too soon then no. Make sure you are sure though, once you do it... you can't un do it. It shouldn't bother him that you have no experience. He will teach you. Depending on his size and how considerate he is of you... it's bearable. Let him know you are concerned about it hurting... he'll be gentle. Good Luck!
2007-04-25 14:26:32 · answer #9 · answered by WhoDidThat??? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all congratulations!!
I am almost positive that it is not going to bother him that you are inexperienced. As long as he is careful and gentle you should have a minimal amount of pain. As far as too soon...did you wait to lose your virginiity to him or do you just want to get it over with? You will know in your heart when your ready...do not do it because you feel preassured...you will regret it later
2007-04-25 14:28:42 · answer #10 · answered by morgansway3 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋