I'm a virgin and my first time was going to be with my girlfriend but I had trouble. We were going fine with foreplay but when I stopped to put the condom on I kind of lost the feeling a little and then had alot of trouble trying to insert it into her. After a minute of not being able to do it I started to get soft and gave up. She also is very inexperienced and is understanding. But we both want to try again and I want to some advice on what to do better. Was there something I was doing wrong on why it was so hard to insert it into her? Also how can I make it more natural then stopping and putting the condom on?
2007-04-25 14:06:58 · 13 answers · asked by Ed5532 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try possibly incorporating putting the condom into the foreplay. Like maybe let her try putting it on while she is touching you. You probably did nothing "wrong" you just need practice. No one is actually good the first time, I assure you. Both of you need to just relax and take your time. When you are ready and she is ready, it will happen naturally. Dont force things. If you put too much pressure on yourselves, it will be not as pleasurable.
2007-04-25 14:14:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, don't worry - that happens to us all at one time or other. Distractions are a pain. First thing is, yes lubrication is very, very important, especially when you're both inexperienced. Second thing is, take your time: after you put the condom on, plan on cuddling and smooching for a while again until you're both ready to go. Unless you're prepared for an unexpected pregnancy you had better use some sort of birth control, and for inexperienced couples, condoms are probably your best bet. Think carefully about what you're doing, though - no method of birth control is absolutely foolproof. Do you have any sort of plan for what you two will do if she gets pregnant? It might be good to talk about it with her; when the hormones surge rational thought goes out the window, so some sort of discussion ahead of time may be useful to get you two on the same page.
2007-04-25 21:21:42 · answer #2 · answered by John R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i understand that its hard the first time. but its good to know that you are using a condom. most people dont use one because of excatly what you said you kinda lose the ambition to go on because you have to stop and take time to slip it on. but the only advice that i can give to you still use a condom but the reason why it might have been hard to enter her was because you werent stimulated enough. the only way a penis can enter a vagina is when its hard. so just make sure you are stimulated enough and there shouldnt be a problem. also since she sounds like a virgin to tell her to relax as much as possible there for making her muscles not as tight so it will be easier to slip in. i hope this helps you. good luck ^.^
2007-04-25 21:12:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALWAYS stop to put the condom on. It shouldn't be embarassing or anything life that, but an assertation that you care about your girlfriend and her body.
Make sure you're buying the right condom. Some of them have numbing agents in them, to "make the male last longer." Make sure you're not buying those; that may be your problem.
Also, lubrication may be an issue. If she isn't "wet" enough, you might want to try lubricated condoms, or extra gels.
If you're slightly embarassed about buying condoms, research them online on the company's website to make sure you're getting the right kind and the right size.
2007-04-25 21:14:14 · answer #4 · answered by lei 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
use lubrication its so hard because the condom if shes a virgin to spread the lips and go softly to let it slide in with a condom theres no easier way to make it unobvious to put it on if its getting soft to quick maybe you need to wait until theres a time where your too sexually pint up and you know its not going to go down for nothing
2007-04-25 21:15:41 · answer #5 · answered by Ashira M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have her put in on you useing her mouth and hand unroll it a little and use her hand to unroll it as she takes you in her mouth and just fade into a short bj for a few minutes to get it harder and keep the mood going also trust me i am a guy when girls do this it works everytime also if she hasnt really had sex the she will be tight anyway so finger her a little go down on her get her really wet then it will slide right in
2007-04-25 21:17:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try lubrication maybe whilst you was putting the condom on you lost all lubrication just try give the lube a go good luck
2007-04-25 21:09:59 · answer #7 · answered by mystic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure your as firm as you can be...once you slip the condom on it should maintain your firmness...use a pre-lubricated condom....if she is dry and condom isn't lubricated it can be hard to insert, not to mention not that pleasurable for her...practice makes perfect...at least your attempting to be responsible
2007-04-25 21:12:19 · answer #8 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pratice by yourself. Then if she is dry,use some stuff called kry
or have her put the condom on you.
2007-04-25 21:15:33 · answer #9 · answered by DJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stop all physical contact as you put it on, how about let her put it on you. Maybe you can keep your hands on her as she does this. Don't worry about it, it'll happen...you don't have to rush it.
2007-04-25 21:11:54 · answer #10 · answered by Lost Poet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋