Short story, she wants us to invite her best friend to the wedding who also happens to be the mother of my feonces ex girlfriend. This would not be a big deal except the M.I.L has called me immature and continues being rude and manipulative towards me. How should I handle this situation?
2007-04-25 13:30:05 · 12 answers · asked by Rachael B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Tell her (better yet, let her SON tell her) you will invite who you and your groom want to be at your wedding.
If you two are paying for your wedding, state that you want it small and intimate so there is no room for her at the wedding.
Let your groom handle her, talk to him about her attitude towards you. If you say "ok" to her being invited, what else will she want to get away with? More people being invited?
Don't let her manipulate you or else it will get worse after you say "I do".
2007-04-26 03:57:54 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure how you are being manipulated by your M.I.L. but I say be gracious, invite the woman (MIL's BFF). You are the lucky one who is marrying your fiance and her little boy. Always stay the gracious one even when faced with a MIL that is rude. And remember no one can manipulate you unless you give them the power. Just remember to enjoy your wedding. I am sure you are going to be a beautiful bride and the most important thing about that day is that you are marrying the love of your life. Hope your wedding is great.
2007-04-25 20:44:35 · answer #2 · answered by Kimberly C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very carefully!! Maybe try explaining that having your man's ex fiance's mother there is something that you and your fiance are not comfortable with(HE'S the FIRST one you need to talk to and hopefully HE can handle his mother!). If this isn't possible, maybe consider how long ago was your hubby-to-be with her daughter? Is the daughter going to be there if her mother comes? If not, is it really a huge deal if your future mom-in-law shares this special day with her best friend? If this just isn't possible for you, then gently but firmly make the answer NO. It is YOUR day after all. Good luck!
2007-04-25 20:39:59 · answer #3 · answered by lady8cmd 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you must get the fiance' to handle his family! Plain and simple! Make him understand what it is she has said or done to hurt you. Tell him it is his place to talk to her and handle the situation. Most men don't get this! I hear this same thing from my brides all the time.
Tell him you are going to be his wife and you are starting a new family together. He needs to stick up for you and the new family! If he is not willing to do this now, he never will be!
This is something you need to know now! Will he stand up for you and your feelings or will he always take his mother's side?
Get him involved! It is his mother after all!
Good luck!
2007-04-25 20:59:07 · answer #4 · answered by valschmal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your boy didn't date the mother, is she nice, Maybe you can compromise and invite her to the reception. She is a best friend, and if the ex happens to come what a way to show off your man.
2007-04-25 20:49:25 · answer #5 · answered by bongobeat25 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember, not getting along with his mother will just make things bad between you and your fiance. No one wantsANYONE talking bad about their mom.
So what if the mother of your ex's fiance comes? The ex isn't coming.. and the mom can go back and tell the ex fiance how he married you and not her! Besides.. thats one more gift!
2007-04-25 20:49:07 · answer #6 · answered by anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell your fiance how you feel about this woman coming to your wedding. Then have HIM tell her No. She's his mother, and he should be willing to back you up on this and take any heat from his Mom.
2007-04-25 20:37:40 · answer #7 · answered by GracieM 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ewww! sorry about that. nothing like the hard to gte along with mother in law. this is your wedding and she should understand you dont want anyone to feel uncomfortable. as far as handling this. your hubby to me needs to step up and say mother dont talk to my almost wife like that. you stand your ground on this one! YOUR wedding and YOUR guest list.
2007-04-29 20:32:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i shes probably excited for her son and wants people to see her boyget married but u should tell her your feelings and if she still has a problem maybe you should talk to your fianceabout talking to his mothere and tell him how u feel and if that doesnt work tell them they cant come end of story
2007-04-25 21:45:50 · answer #9 · answered by aliciagalui 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is your fiance's mother so you should tell him how her ways make you feel then he should deal with his mother. It is his place to deal with his mother.
2007-04-29 19:56:42 · answer #10 · answered by valley cousin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋