I'm trying to have another baby just because I can't bear the thought of him not having anyone to take care of him once my husband and me are gone. I'm scared for him and his future.
2007-04-25 12:46:43 · 8 answers · asked by shadowboxer78 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
I agree with the person above. Plus, there are different levels of autism. I'd definitely get him involved in programs and work with him as much as you can.
2007-04-25 12:56:28 · answer #1 · answered by lysistrata411 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be okay! Society is becoming more and more educated about Autism, and the funding for research is reaching new heights. As people in the general public know more about Austism, they are more accepting of it. So, even if he doesn't have and older sibling when you and your husband pass on (which I'm assuming is not happening anytime soon), keep in mind, that there are many people who would be more than willing to take care of him. Not that it wouldn't be healthy to have a close relationship with his sibling if there should be one, but keep also in mind the responsibility you put on the shoulders of his unborn brother or sister! All I'm really trying to say is, people are out there who want to take care of your son, do not worry. And as for society, they are getting the messege that its ok to be different! The best of luck to you and your family.
2007-04-25 13:05:34 · answer #2 · answered by Two for Tea 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, of course my first question would be how severe is his autism? Then I would ask, how much support is he getting in the school system? The good news is, we live in an age where autism is not the life sentence it used to be. There are amazing therapies that are working with these kids! I would suggest that you join a support group. There are many in yahoogroups, and it's very helpful to know other parents that are going through exactly what you are going through and can say, "Well this worked for us," and "we tried this".
Best wishes
2007-04-26 08:02:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everyone who says that it will be okay and that you have a larger support group than you can imagine!
Could I please just add one more thing?
It may be none of my business, but my dream would be that no one would have a baby for any other reason than a sincere longing to have a child to love and nurture. I would strongly caution against having another baby "just because [you] can't bear the thought of him not having anyone to take care of him once [your] husband and [you] are gone." Please don't hear me wrong: You are obviously a very loving parent. (And maybe you didn't even mean that exactly as you wrote it.)
I just know that you can find other means of long-term care for your child (and he may become more independent than you would expect!). I also believe that you can find better reasons to have a child -- and that you can live very happily with your one, very beautiful son.
Sincerely,
Mir
2007-04-28 15:40:03 · answer #4 · answered by Mir 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get with a doc that can help you to do the right treatment protocol. your son will not thrive and survive unless you take action. it is up to the parents to decide the future. advocate and look up certified DAN docs. icdrc.org is a good place to start. we were labeled severely autistic and failure to thrive and 4 years later with alot of very very hard work, we are talking and high functioning and recently adhd dx with autism characteristics gone. if you have a "oh whow is me approach", it will not benefit your child. timing is very important!! be strong and research and find the best treatment options. not everything will work, but they can all compliment each other.
2007-04-27 00:12:33 · answer #5 · answered by autism is treatable 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, there are a looooot of programs for children with autism. I work with a client who is affected by autism and I also work with other ppl with disabilities. If you start with early intervention, pick out good programs and suit his needs, he'll be fine and good to go.
If you need additional information, please feel free to send me an email and we can chat a bit about possible programs you can implement at home or what to look out for.
Everything will be fine. Just don't ever give up on him and his abilities.
2007-04-25 12:54:21 · answer #6 · answered by Tine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am the mother of 3 kids on the autism spectrum. Please contact me, I would love to help guide you! I know that there were so many unknowns when our oldest was first diagnosed. Where are you located?
Look into www.autismone.org very comprehensive conf coming up...a must go!
Laura
2007-04-27 02:23:36 · answer #7 · answered by Laura R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you start helping him now he will have a better chance at functioning in society.
Start here:
http://www.generationrescue.org/
http://www.autismwebsite.com/ari/index.htm
http://www.nationalautismassociation.org/treatments.php
http://www.unlockingautism.org/
2007-04-25 18:27:06 · answer #8 · answered by stacyc175 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋