What are you supposed to write?
2007-04-25 12:08:03 · 12 answers · asked by Smarty Pants 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Usually in the event of a death, a card is send on its own detailing your sorrow at their loss, and envelopes of cash are usually given at a funeral to be donated to the charity of trust of the familys choice.
2007-04-25 12:14:07 · answer #1 · answered by PleaseNoMoreNumbers 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Money In Sympathy Card Etiquette
2016-11-02 23:15:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After reading the other responses, it's obvious that customs differ depending on where you live. Where I live, it is customary to put money in the card if you want to. I only do for relatives or close friends. Otherwise, I usually just send a card. Sometimes I send a plant or flowers instead of giving money.
I would suggest you ask people in your city what is usually done.
2007-04-25 23:14:46 · answer #3 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, I wouldn't put money in a sympathy card. The person's nerves are raw enough and they might find that gesture insulting. A better thing would be to just write that you are so sorry and then to call them a few days later. You might also offer money to them at that time if you feel like it is appropriate. Perhaps something like, "I was wondering if your are OK financially. If you would like, I can help with the bills, groceries, etc." Or better yet, buy groceries for the person and deliver them to their house.
I'm saying this because my mother recently died and I would have felt strange if someone had offered me money.
2007-04-25 12:13:49 · answer #4 · answered by Sabina 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless someone's house burned down or they lost all of their belongings I wouldn't think it would be correct to put money in a sympathy card.
Just write what comes honestly to you for the person receiving the card. It seems like that is what would help them most get through this time, to know that you are there for them and care about them.
2007-04-25 12:14:14 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If the family is religious, you can give money to their church or place of worship, but no, you do not give money in a symphathy card.
2007-04-25 13:41:43 · answer #6 · answered by LoLo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just write something like: I am sorry for your loss and thinking of you.
If you decide to put money in it, then you can add: I hope this will help toward expenses.
Many people sent money when my mother died. I appreciated the gesture.
2007-04-25 12:15:33 · answer #7 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes if you have it and want to give it. Otherwise just a card is nice too.
2007-04-25 12:12:52 · answer #8 · answered by Lori O 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. Just write you are so sorry. If you know of the deceased favorite charity you could donate to that or if you know when the services are you could send flowers, but no money sent to family
2007-04-25 12:17:35 · answer #9 · answered by barthebear 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
not unless you are giving the money to help pay for the funeral costs, just write that if there is
any way you can help to let you know & that
you care very much for the person who has lost their loved one.
2007-04-25 12:17:34 · answer #10 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋