I don't know if my bf wants another woman, he still wants to be friends with this one who says she has feelings for him, but he thinks i'm overreacting by telling him if he wants to be with me and our daughter that he needs to cut off all contact. he told me that she is his only friend and its not fair of me to ask him that. I love him with all my heart, i think something has happened, only noone is talking. what should I do!!!
2007-04-25 11:57:54 · 25 answers · asked by Oliviasmomma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He goes to a STRIP CLUB
2007-04-25 11:59:44 · answer #1 · answered by NDN 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We'll first of all, don't punish your child that way by not letting her father be a part of her life. Your going to hurt her more than him. Secondly, you are overracting with that kind of consequence, however i don't think you should ignore any signs he may give off when dealing with this female friend. In order to keep the realationship going with out huge problems and so you can still find out more info on this friend, its best to just question him. If you feel insecure or unsure of something, don't argue or assume anything before hand, politley ask questions. If something doesn't make sense to you ask more questions. If he feels some type of way because you are excersising your right to know, then you can let him know that you are very uncomfortable with this girl being his friend and if he really loves you then he will want to come to some kind of compromise with you. It's no need for the both of you to get upset. Either you trust him and if you have questions you ask with out getting argurmentive or you wait until something jumps off and then you hit the road jack and never come back but your child should still be able to have a realationship with her father. Also, if the girl is just a friend he should want you to meet her. All it takes is and introduction. If he does not have a good excuse as to why you can't be introduced to her then he is defeintly hiding something. Run like the wind!
2007-04-25 12:09:07 · answer #2 · answered by Lady T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is complicated: Here are the facts:
How do you know she likes him? Has she told you? did someone tell you? did he tell you she told him? this is important as a mere rummor is not as true as you actually knowing for sure.
You may be overreacting but this depends on how jaelous you ussually are. Are you a jaelous person? Only you and a veru close friend of yours can answer this.
You think something has happened: define something....
Trusting your gut feeling is the best way to go here. As a guy I can tell you there is nothing more destructive than a jaelous woman. As a man who has been cheated on I can tell you: trust your got feeling... Good luck
2007-04-25 12:19:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not feel comfortable with his friendship he should end it.... What is happening is another woman is getting between you and your bf and that is just a bad sign from the start. If he needs a female friend so bad then he probably should consider looking at the one he already has, which is you... Sounds to me like he has feelings for her as well, and if that's the case you definitely have to do something now before it gets out of hand....
2007-04-25 12:03:47 · answer #4 · answered by Adam A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend and I were in a relationship and I told him that i had another friend who was a guy. I never cheated on my boyfriend but i could tell it cause jealousy in the relationship. My guy friend and I did kiss on many occassions but thats as far as it went becouse i loved my boyfriend too much to sleep with my best guy friend. Men are different if they have a female friend it means they want a rebound so if you leave he has someone on the side to take your place. A man will not be friend with a women unless there is some attraction to her and its possible he could be cheating or want to cheat. In a relationship there has to be trust so I would say if he truely committed he will cut ties to be with you if he refuse that means a part of him want to know what it would be like to be with someone else.
2007-04-25 12:09:56 · answer #5 · answered by dreamgirl L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though he says she is just a friend his ex-girlfriend has made it clear that she still wants him. I do not think it is unreasonable to ask him to cut off contact. If he does not want to do this then suggest that the only contact he has with her that you are present also. If you are in the prescence of another woman who wants your man you will know it without any doubt. I would not assume that something happened between them without any proof. When we (woman) are feeling insecure in a relationship our imagination can run away with us. Stand your ground if you know that she is after your man. Good Luck
2007-04-25 12:12:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest with you girl, if you know you really love this guy then stay with him. But one thing you have to have is trust in your boyfriend because in this situation someone or those girls who maybe still have feelings for him might tell you things for you to break up with him so build up your love for him with a lot of trust in him. If your man wants another woman you will get a feeling or finding out how he is reacting and a way to, is if you ask him a question concerning other girls liking him and he starts getting on out of control then most likely he could be cheating on you, i believe. Girl, just find out what is really happening with him, that's the best way before making a decision.
2007-04-25 12:32:34 · answer #7 · answered by Carla M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you know you can't ask her because she'll purposely tell you what you dont want to hear. He's in love with you and it's hard for him to cut offf a relationship with another woman as firend? That means there was once a romantic coonnection between them, maybe not now but something was there. Ask him what this female does for him that doesn't seem to be for him to let go of.
2007-04-25 12:17:57 · answer #8 · answered by mahoganay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you have to ask this question then there is an obvious problem in your relationship and you already know it....There is no way that you can go from being in love or loving somebody that you had an intimate relationship with to just being friends...I don't think its possible....They will always share a secret glance or a special touch of the hand....
If he really loves you and he knows how much this bothers her then he would cut the relationship with her regardless...You should be his "only" friend...Totally disrespectful and I wouldn't put up with it...
2007-04-25 12:06:07 · answer #9 · answered by PRETTY N PINK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EXCUSE ME PEOPLE>>>FBI COMING THROUGH....
Keep your eyes peeled. Be sure to go through his cell phone, text messages and everything and anything you can get into. Check his wallet. Be sure he doesnt have a picture of her.
Make sure to smell him, not his clothes...him, when he comes home from hanging out with her.
Tell him to bring her over, introduce you two and if this is only a friendship than it shouldnt be a problem if you hung out with them.
Honestly, I dont see me walking away from my family for nobody. Friend, best friend or whatever!!! My kid comes first and if something puts that in risk I will cut it the F**k out!!!
So the fact that he tells you its his only friend bothers me...
why is that his only friend? Why doesnt he have guy friends???
Do you know how to break into his cell phone bill online??
See if he was just a dude you were dating I would suggest you to X his a$$ out but since you have a kid you better watch out.
Honestly...either your going to turn into an FBI agent and watch over him 24/7 or you are going to let it go and eventually it will pass. Unless he takes off with her, she is not forever.
Talk to him and tell him how horrible it makes you feel. She should not be worth you feeling that way if he loves you.
Call that chick up and tell her to back her a$$ up and that her "friendship" is causing problems in your family. If she is really a friend, she would not want that for her friend.
Why not get a guy friend yourself?? Lets see what he thinks about that.
Good Luck
2007-04-25 12:09:13 · answer #10 · answered by smile4cobra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, a women's intuition is usaually right! I think if it was you he would not want you seeing this other guy. Don't settle for less, if he is not willing to see that him being friends with her is hurting you, kick him to the curve, you are his girlfriend and the only womens feeling that should be put in front of yours are his family (daughter, mother, sister). If he can't see that it hurts you then I would say he does not included your feeling in the desicions he makes.
2007-04-25 12:06:37 · answer #11 · answered by Ms. Rosa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋