I'm 30 and I don't want kids. Problems is several things- I can't seem to find/date a guy that doesn't want them either! Plus my family gets on me about having one. I'm more career minded and I like to travel a lot. Yeah it sounds selfish but it's not like I brought a kid into the world and ignored it! Does anyone else not want them either? Anyone regret not having kids? or regret having them-honestly.
2007-04-25 10:58:11 · 16 answers · asked by Worldtraveler 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think you are being selfish at all. Lots of people don't want kids and personally, I think a lot of them shouldn't. Kids aren't so bad though. They don't hold you down from things, just slow you down a little.
2007-04-25 11:01:18 · answer #1 · answered by kimberly b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to not want kids, that doesn't make you selfish. Children are a whole lot of work, and complete sacrifice. If you don't have that to give, (and many people don't), they you shouldn't be having kids.
If you have them, you can kiss most traveling good bye for 15-20 years. This is from someone who knows too.
Children are grossly over rated. Those money eating, life force sucking, crumb crunchers are just too much work. I love my kids more than anything, but if I had to do it over...I would not have had them.
BTW: I love to travel more than almost anything, but I had to wait until the youngest was 15 before it could really happen again.
2007-04-25 11:06:07 · answer #2 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a personal preference.
I would sit your family down and tell them that you really don't want kids. I mean if your happy with your life the way it is then so be it.
I have 2 kids and I am only 28 years old. I wouldn't change anything. But I always wanted kids though too.
Do what you feel is right for you at this point in time.
2007-04-25 11:01:47 · answer #3 · answered by blondie21_97504 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been married 10 years. NO KIDS. 2 dogs.
You are not being selfish. You are being honest. You have other wants. There are some guys out there that don't want kids but they are hard to find.
No regrets not having kids. They are hard work. A career is much easier. College is much easier. Dogs are much cheaper than kids. Although dogs aren't a tax deduction.
I love kids but I just don't want any for myself.
2007-04-25 11:05:50 · answer #4 · answered by Like being a DINK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's completely your choice.. afterall like you said not having a child is better than having the child and neglecting him/her. It is a powerful and serious committment. But if you are a Christian, you should consider the fact that God has called for us to have children so that His kingdom may prosper and be filled with other believers. Any parent in his/her right mind would never regret having a child. Sure there are times when children give their children hard times; however, through the tears and the laughters, a powerful relationship of love grows.
2007-05-03 10:27:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a 39yr old single woman who has never been married nor do I have kids. If you are not ready to handle the responisbility financially, mentally,emotionally and physically then please don't do it. Just because you don't want kids doesn't make you selfish. I am sure you have so many other ways that you can contribute to this world. Tell your family if they want to totally support and care for the child 24/7/365 then you will have a baby and give it to them. Otherwise, they should shut it up!!!!
2007-04-25 11:15:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to have kids either because like you I like to travel and the places I want to go to are not exactly kid friendly. I Sometimes I will see kids and be like, "aw, they're cute" but but the feeling is never enough to want them. I lucked out by being an aunt so anytime I want to something with a child, I can borrow my niece. I've also lucked out by meeting a man that doesn't want to have kids either. And by being clear from the start that you don't want to have kids you will take the precautions to prevent having them because bring a life into this world that wasn't wanted is not nearly as bad as not letting it start to begin with.
2007-04-25 11:05:51 · answer #7 · answered by kaicey247 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a three year old and had him young. I regret having him so early but I don't regret him. You don't have to abide by everyone elses rules when it comes to kids. You know what you want in life and that's fine. My cousin is about your age and she doesn't have any children and everyone is on her case about it. The last thing she needs is children anyway. She has plenty of god-kids, nieces and nephews and baby cousins. If she wanted a kid, all we do is let her babysit sit one of ours. It's plenty of people out there who are just like you and feel they same way. Like you said, you don't want to bring a child in the world and just ignore it. Look at all the cases out of mothers KILLING their children because they don't want them or because they were misbehaving. You don't want to be like that do you? Follow your heart and remember that life is too short to be second guessing yourself.
2007-04-25 11:13:13 · answer #8 · answered by Amber W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is okay not to want kids. You are doing yourself a favor by being honest and not having kids, than to have kids and be unhappy raising them. Continue with your career if that is what makes you happy. If your relatives are asking questions, be positive about your decision. Tell them that you would rather let other people deal with child raising issues.
2007-05-03 09:47:56 · answer #9 · answered by maestra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know several guys that do not want kids, I didn't either. Once you get an established career then you end up spending your money on them, and it never stops. I would suggest that you get your tubes tied and not worry about it anymore.
2007-04-25 11:02:40 · answer #10 · answered by Tony S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋