So me and my girlfriend have been going out for along time. We've been fighting alot lately and i feel that she never has time to talk to me, like she always has something to do, or a reason that cuts our conversations short..i.e going out with her mom, she's tired, shes sick, shes got work, shes got h.w. I broke up with her today for this reason. I've broken up with her alot lately but we end up getting back together even though i know it's a bad idea. When we fight she doesn't act like it bothers her and it makes me frustrated. When i break up with her she just goes along with it.. "ya maybe we do need some time apart." I tell her it seems like she doesnt love me and gets mad sayin she loves me and not to say that. When were good we're amazing..but when were bad we're BAD. She goes on vacation tomm. Don't say she's planning on fooling around because she's not like that atall. What should i do?? i want her back but i feel she doesn't treat me we'll.
2007-04-25
10:40:58
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I love her and it kills me not to be with her...but i honestly feel i deserve better.
2007-04-25
10:42:01 ·
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she doesnt want you anymroe..move on
2007-04-25 10:44:13
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answered by ? 3
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Wow this hits me dead on because I do my bf the same way but we have two kids together. We argue alot but don't break up. I do feel I'm not the one for him because I can't love him the way he wants. And I actually do put him last in my life. I mean I put my kids, my family, and i even think I put softball a sport I loved since I was able to play before him. But see those are things that make me extremely happy and is something that doesn't put me in a bad mood. I feel bad but if i could tell him with out hurting that i want to leave him because i don't love him like i used to and have tried my hardest to be the way i used to be. I would. So sweetie its best to let her go because she doesn't love you like you hope she would finally do.
2007-04-25 10:52:48
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answered by Lady_Sweets82 2
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it seems like she cant get her true emotions out and she really doesnt put ANY effort into the relationship. its obvious that u love her but u need to figure out if SHE loves u. i know this mite be kinda harsh but i think shes just with u cuz she cant find any1else. dont let her push u down, have a loooong talk wiht her about ur relationship lately...how yall have been fighting too much and u think u deserve better...if things dont change, u need to move on. i know its hard to let go but u DO deserve better
hope i helped, good luck!
2007-04-25 10:50:26
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answered by jenny 2
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sounds like you know what you should do but want ppl to convince you to stay together. if you weren't putting in the effort, she would've been long gone. she obviously doesn't give a **** so why should you? do you honestly think that you couldn't possibly find someone better or that you are deserving of the way she treats you? her hearts not in it and whether it's on her vacation or some other time, she'll leave you for someone else. if there were that someone else at your school/neighborhood that she had her eye on, she would've left you in a heartbeat. move on and find someone better. you're only wreaking havoc to your self worth/confidence.
2007-04-25 10:45:34
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answered by Jacqueline S 3
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I had the same problem with my boyfriend. You need to stop being so available to her. She's taking you for granted because she knows she has you wrapped around her finger. Stop calling her so much and being so available. Start doing your own thing just like she has been doing. You might would rather be with her than your friends, but don't let her know that. Stop treating her like she's number one. She'll start feeling your distance and she'll notice you more. You have to create a feeling of mystery. You want her to start wondering if YOU even care or not.
2007-04-25 10:52:20
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answered by Anonymous
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i think that you realy have to consider if this is worth it because your feelings are really getting hurt and you have to decide whether to move on. if you dont think she is treating you right just sit down and tell her say that your getting hurt and that you want to know whether she is really interested in you or playing you around that should make he rrealise that you're not falling for it anyomore and you want a proper decision that will either keep you together or separate you and hopefully she will give you the right answer. if she does take you and says she really wants you think about whether she is doing the same thing again and just forget about her.
2007-04-25 10:47:36
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answered by g 3
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Sorry, but maybe you need some time to yourself. It may hurt, but if she is not giving you time and attention, your are already alone. You have tried to talk to her and she seems like it is not a big deal. Just take a break, and if it is meant to be you two will get back together.
2007-04-25 10:47:43
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answered by tigerprincess_bee 6
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hi, i,ve been through the same thing and i know what you mean, when its good its really good but when its bad your going thru hell and from her actions i can tell you she really dosen,t give a damn if your in her life or not, pepole can say anything its their actions that speak the truth and don,t be so quick to assume shes not with someone else because often thats the case and she tells you what you want to hear[ that she loves you] just in case in dosen,t work out so that she has you to fall back on, move on find someone worthy of you!
2007-04-27 08:04:55
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answered by Anonymous
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You probably do. But you need to act the way she is acting towards you. Girls like a**holes. You need to play hard to get. Dont call her and talk to her. Leave her alone and see what she does. She will turn around and be the same way to you that you were to her. She will get a reality check, and she will realize how you felt is the way she is feeling now..........
2007-04-25 10:47:35
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answered by Anonymous
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what ur going through is something called hate love but i honestly think you should break up with her and keep it that way if your having thoughts about it. especially when you fight the way you do. or maybe you should just try talking to her and asking her whats wrong.
2007-04-25 10:45:49
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answered by ace 2
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properly if that is her first boyfriend then she doesnt know the ropes of having one. so bypass a splash trouble-free on her. it style of feels to me that she doesnt know the thank you to act at a similar time as having a relationship. yet u ought to ask her to hold out and tell her that u actually would desire to speak to her approximately some thing. yet make it sound stable. dont make it sound such as you desire to break up together with her. She would desire to care and it style of sounds like she does yet she isnt on the ingredient the place she is incredibly in for a severe relationship. think approximately to tutor to her that u are a great guy and which you recognize the thank you to be a stable boyfriend. merely ask her if she sounds like this relationship is what she needs. and enable her know that u would choose to hold out together with her even together with her buddies. she ought to understand that u are prepared to hold out together with her buddies and he or she would be prepared to hold out with urs!
2016-11-27 20:30:49
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answered by stitt 4
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