So had a first get to know you a little with a girl the other day at a coffee shop. Conversation went well enough. She seemed a little nervous and had a hard time holding eye contact. Aside from that she did a lot of talking and didn't really pose any questions back to me. Was kinda my job to keep her chatting about herself and then opportunites where she could ask stuff back she didn't really take the opportunity. Opinions on this behavior...can't figure out if she was disinterested or just nervous or not the most apt dater?
A little background...she gave me her number...also she called to confirm our meetup half an hour before hand so I assume she's been nervous about it...
2007-04-25 10:13:05 · 34 answers · asked by nick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like she wasn't into you at all and didn't really want to be there. She clearly wanted to know nothing about you. And you had to keep questioning her just to get her to talk about herself; she didn't want you to get to know her either. Not much chemistry there, IMHO.
Either that or she might just be autistic.
2007-04-25 10:28:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she was nervous and afraid she would say the wrong thing or give you the wrong first impression. I am alot like that. I cant tell you how many times I have gone out on a first date and was mad at myself afterward for not talking enough, talking too much, etc. I am willing to bet that if you get together again she will be a little less nervous next time. Good luck.
2007-04-25 10:24:06 · answer #2 · answered by I know, I know!!!! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there are several possible reasons why she did not pick up on your cues to make it an actual conversation, rather than a dialogue about herself. You handled the situation well to make her feel as comfortable as possible.
She definately wanted to go on the date or she wouldn't have called... also giving you her number shows interest. So I would give her a call and say what a nice time you had and would she like to go out with you again, and she where that leads... puts her in the drivers seat, takes some of the pressure off and lets her know that you are interested.
Hope that helps, and I wish you luck!
2007-04-25 11:10:57 · answer #3 · answered by Robert S. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she might have been so nervous that she didn't remember it was a two way conversation. On the other hand, maybe she is just full of herself. Most likely she is just nervous and probably doesnt even realize that she did it. Next time you speak to her, you should get a feel for it, maybe a second date will calm her down and if she acts the same way, dump the relationship
2007-04-25 10:16:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She may be too shy and she may have also just come out of a bad relationship, one where she couldn't count on the guy, or else she just wanted to be careful.
There are no automatic red flags here, if this was the first date. First dates are often awkward and it doesn't mean much. If this were the fifth date I'd say there are issues involved here.
Try another date, ask her out again, and she how she responds. She just may not be ready for this, or, as suggested, she may just feel shy and awkward.
2007-04-25 10:16:16 · answer #5 · answered by John B 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A 1st date does not need to be an interview. Don't sit and ask mundane question about what they do for work and how many siblings they have. Talk about interesting junk and make her comfortable being around you. I'm sure she was nervous but that may not have played into the fact that she didn't ask you questions.
2007-04-25 10:20:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say probably nervous as hell. It's really hard to read people on the first meeting date. I'd give her another chance. She probably likes you alot. I should know, I'm really great at the art of conversation, but when I'm with a guy I really really like I get really stupid. I kick myself later. You sound like you are nice enough to give her a second chance.
2007-04-25 10:22:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah she's definitely just nervous. The fact that she can talk to you alot is really good (assuming it doesn't bother you) REMEMBER YOU HAVE TWO EARS TWO EYES AND ONLY ONE MOUTH. When you get to use them in that proportion it's always a good thing. When someone can talk to you that long they are going to love being around you. It means she is comfortable. Sounds like she likes you man. Go out again.
2007-04-25 10:17:57 · answer #8 · answered by curtisjb1983 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she was nervous, why over think it,, remember her past is her business, not yours, if she doesnt want to share any information then dont pry,
isnt like you are marrying her right away, getting to know someone takes time,, maybe she has been out ( I am sure of it ) guys that tried to take her home and screw her first date, maybe she is looking for a good strong relationship or steady fun,, give it to the 5th date to try to figure it out
2007-04-25 11:19:39 · answer #9 · answered by rich2481 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds really nervous and shy...interested since she gave confirmation. Try doing something that might bring out the linguist in her?...an out door activity.
2007-04-25 10:22:05 · answer #10 · answered by artgirl11 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋