I started going out with this guy today. Things have been going on for the past three weeks. But I am currently studying for my A-Levels and hope to do medicine at uni. I have an offer and need 2A's and a B so I really need to do well this term. But going out with this guy has thrown me. It doesn't feel quite right and these next few weeks I really have to concentrate. He is absolutely lovely but doesn't seem so far to have the ability to let my have my own space, something I am use to. It is our college Ball next friday and I was really looking forward to just spending it with my mates and having a laugh but now this guy is at my table and if he continues how he has been today, very clingy, I am frightened it will ruin it. I am not comfortable being in a relationship anyway and I am quite private, something he hasn't got yet, But I feel terrible cause I didn't stop this three weeks ago, I just got swept up into it. What do I do! Sorry it is so long!
2007-04-25 09:47:13 · 26 answers · asked by sam_sam0501 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just tell him your want a strictly physical relationship. He shows up on Sat night, you have a little Nooky, and then he leaves, no sleepovers, etc. Done..
2007-04-25 09:50:46 · answer #1 · answered by photoguy1967 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there. Listen, I understand you feel guilty. I want to let you know first of all that you are ABSOLUTLY right. You need to end it and just be friends,if possible. You are in school and you said yourself, he is a distraction. You need to do what is right for YOU and not worry about his hurt feelings. You have only been dating 3 weeks. It isn't love, ok? He will get over it and so will you. If he is really a good guy I actually think he might understand. Your entire future rests on getting the grades you need to build the right career for you. THAT take precedence. Just let him know that you do like him but that you made the decision to go out with him before you really thought about the future. Tell him that he IS a great guy, but that you are in no postition to be in a relationship. Let him know that it would just be selfish of you to string him along when you KNOW you will not have the time for him. Trust me, a relationship takes so much work, and if this guy isn't "THE ONE" then don't feel bad ending it. Please, living your life tip toeing around people's feelings will get you NOWHERE! You are NOT a bad person. Quite the contrary, you're obviously intelligent and strong and you need to show that now. Do what you feel in you gut, ok? Just be as gentle and diplomatic as possible, but do not be afraid to do the right thing for your future!!
And don't wait too long!!
2007-04-25 10:03:39 · answer #2 · answered by Bottom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear this. I would best advise to stop it now tell him things have moved too fast too soon and that u need ur space for ur education as this is what was going on in ur life before him, if he is any decent fellow he will understand and yes he will hurt but this is something that u should understand because u got swept away with the situation, think about how it would be for u if the boot was on the other foot, dont lie as lies hurt 10 times more than truth , the truth u can work around, lies leave bitterness.
i wish u luck on your education and for doing the right thing what ever it may be xx
2007-04-25 09:57:36 · answer #3 · answered by littlemermaid_72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think what you need 2 do is prioritorize your time...If you really like thus guy, let him know that you have to make sometime for your studies then later we can hang out. Let him know at the ballgame you need your space to just hang out by yourself and have a good time. Suggest to him that he should do the same with his friends somewhere else...If he is really into you he will not be disappointed in doing this. If you think he is very, clingy and wants to be wirh you all the time, maybe he's in love and your're not quite ready for that type of committment.
2007-04-25 09:56:26 · answer #4 · answered by Brinda C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your just gonna have to be blunt with him, you dont wanna finding urself crying in a few weeks time because u didn't get ur grades, what then he could dump u the day after that, but it'll be you suffering, judging by ur question you've already made ur mind up about him, so just do what you gotta do and get it done, even if u get back with him after your studies eh? just dont end up with regrets,
2007-04-25 10:14:57 · answer #5 · answered by DeViL..^--^~~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never mess up your chances (uni) because of love,love has never paid any bills and boys like that tend to run should things go the wrong way so just be careful or tell him you want your space.
2007-04-25 09:58:06 · answer #6 · answered by TheMan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really wouldn't worry about it, just do what you want to do. If you want to concentrate on your studies, do that. If you want to see your friends don't let him get in the way.
He'll respect you for this and if he doesn't then he's a waste of time anyway.
If you keep seeing him, you'll only cheat on him when you go to Uni anyway. That's what everyone else does!
2007-04-25 09:53:52 · answer #7 · answered by Emmel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you need to study tell hima dn if he doesnt leave you alone, you should break up wiht him. Your marks are very important and you can always get back together after. If you want to hang with your friends then twell him, he might understand. But if you don't feel comfortable with him then you might not be in a good relationship! Good luck to you!
2007-04-25 09:53:29 · answer #8 · answered by pixie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should just tell him how that you feel and that maybe you guys should take a break from eachother until your done with the term and if there are stilll feelings between the two of you then maybe you can work something .... if not there are other fish in the sea and don't sacrifice your education or your times because you don't want him to get his feelings hurt
2007-04-25 09:54:51 · answer #9 · answered by kristinabauer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont feel guilty hon, thats what dating is for. To find out IF we like the person. You found out you didnt. Explain to him that you are VERY busy with your school work right now and it wouldnt be fair to him to ask him to wait around. In other words, see you around!
Take care you sound like a wonderful person that has a brilliant future ahead of her!!
2007-04-25 09:51:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him whats going on.. he hasn't realised these things by himself.
How much do you relaly like him?
He's going to end up drivin you away if he doesn't realise soon.. is he full on with everyone or just you at the present time.. ok more questions aren't helping but maybe they help ya clear your head and sort it out!!
2007-04-25 10:20:47 · answer #11 · answered by Pinky 209 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋