2007-04-25 09:37:11 · 30 answers · asked by possessed Regan 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, there has got to be a reason you have problems with trust. Only you can know that and once you figure that out, then you will be able to learn to develop trust and then have a successful relationship.
2007-04-25 09:41:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seek counsrling maybe. Did something happen in your past that caused you to be like this?
Is it a family thing. For example my grandmother was molested as a child and although I didn't know this until recently and I am the only grandaughter that knows and my mom the only one of her children that knows somehow all the females in the family and I do mean all from Daughters to Grandaughters have the same distrust for men. It's odd considering my grandma never says a bad thing about anyone and yet the message has been passed on in other ways through now 2 generations and I hope not to pass that on to my daughter.
The point that I am trying to make is that you need to adress the obious before you go into the deeper reason why. Maybe it's as simple as the right guy to help you change your mind. Or maybe it's issues from the past it could be so many things only you can aswer this question.
I can tell you that not all men are evil there are plenty of good ones out there but you have to trust in order to be trusted so just put yourself out there and relax.
Your distrust can if fact cripple what might otherwise have been a good relationship so you do need to address that issue because it is a big deal.
2007-05-03 11:52:50 · answer #2 · answered by Eris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing, personal choices are made not out of subconscience but very awarely. If you truely want to trust men then trust them. If you're asking WHO to trust, then that's a different question. Letting trust fall "where it may" never seems to work, make trust something that must be earned, not taken.
2007-05-03 14:07:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is difficult to trust men. That said,you must be realistic because the mind is a powerful weapon,you could manifest many senarios that are untrue with man. I can only tell you once you find a man worthy of your trust you will know it and hopefully your insecurities will subside.At least that's what I tell myself
2007-05-03 01:53:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what I have to say is that a relationship is base on trust and if you don't trust that person you shouldn't be with that person I mean you don't want to spend that day worry about if you gonna do you wronge or if cheating. Than your relationship not grow i mean you guys are always gonna be fight. you either has to trust that people you just let them go . But you give him a try . And you he fail doesn't all guys are dogs right.
2007-05-03 15:16:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you may of been in a real bad relationship with someone before and he hurt you. Go in openminded that your next relationship will be different. Look and write down what you want in a relationship and go after it all men arent bad. Trust your gut go slow, be confident, have fun dating, and dont second guess every little situation that presents itself. Give it a shot im sure you will trust again and be happy.
2007-05-03 11:14:29 · answer #6 · answered by GA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take your time when it comes to men you will never get over what you have gone through that's if you have gone through something. what i say is that a person will never trust a person 100% not even 80% that's OK. just remember that a man will not trust a woman either. you just got to get along and learn to work to make things good. you might trust men when your old and grey.
2007-05-03 16:29:38 · answer #7 · answered by fingerrrtips04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its easier to just start talking to a few people, and get to know them, let them build trust with you. A person's past has an akward way of effecting the future. The people you talk to have to understand that you have been through a rough time in the past and just need time to trust now.
2007-04-25 16:44:47 · answer #8 · answered by DJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just let your trust issues go you have to or you will never have a relationship that works I have trust issues to and it takes everything I have in me to just swallow them and realize every man is diffrent because they are if you ever want a normal relationship you have to come to terms with yourself and let those issues go it is th best thing for you if you dont take chance and risks in life while live it if you get hurt just pick up the pieces and move on but what if you dont you will never know unless you over come your fears and just go for what you want no matter the out come atleast you can say you always went for what you wanted right I let go of an 8 year relationship for a guy I barley met I wasnt happy in my relationship so I took a chance on him know I have never been able to trust a guy in my life we are now living together and happy as ever if I wouls have went by my instinct to not trust him I would still be un happy you have to take chances to get what you want outof life
2007-04-25 16:46:37 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Figure out why you don't trust men - make a list and work on the root problems.
2007-05-03 16:52:16 · answer #10 · answered by LosAngeles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋