I'm in showchoir at school. We had really cute dresses that I absolutely loved. Since showchoir season is now over, we won't ever be wearing them again. A girl from my church loved the dresses. Thinking I wouldn't mind, my mom gave mine to her without asking me first. The girl is absolutely thrilled. I know I don't need it again, but it was my dress and I want it back. Would it be rude to ask the girl for it back and explain I had no say-so in the matter?
2007-04-25 09:30:45 · 18 answers · asked by reezypoo 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Yes, it would be rude. It was wrong of your mother to give something of yours away without your consent. But it would still be rude to ask for it back.
2007-04-25 09:34:07 · answer #1 · answered by ladywildfireok 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes it would be rude but it was in your dress and if you like it and wanna wear again then you should ask for it back. Maybe you could ask some of the other girls in the showchoir if they dont want their dresses anymore and offer them to the girl.
2007-04-25 16:34:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your mom was wrong for giving it away without knowing for sure that you definitely were ready to give it up. But your mom who sounds very nice for thinking of the girl also thought you were as kind hearted as her and wouldn't mind giving it away. That says a lot about you. Your mom thinks you are a sweet enough person to give a dress to someone who maybe is a little less fortunate than you. So I would say let it go. Whats more important you having that dress or the admiration of your mother that other girl and her being able to for a little while wear a dress that she must have admired for your mom to give it to her in the first place. I think with more people that are willing to help other peope and put them first (within reason of course you dont want people walking all over you or being to nice, there is such a thing) we would have a nicer place to live on our hands!!
2007-04-25 16:42:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, you could gently ask for it back, however, if you can part with it-don't ask. Do you truly need it back? This is a delicate situation because it stands to make your mom feel bad, and the girl as well. Not to mention that you will surely feel bad asking for it.
I have learned in life (I am much older than you) that some things are better left alone. It is a valuable dress as it was something you were passionate about, but maybe to this girl it is something she would never be able to own or be a part of? I don't know what her situation is but it could be that she is much less fortunate than you? You never know.
Anyway, think long and hard before you pursure it. If you still absolutely must, please do so very kindly and apologetically.
Good luck to you.
2007-04-25 16:40:34 · answer #4 · answered by Singthing 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well you did say that you would never wear it again. The girl was thrilled and to ask her for it back would hurt her feelings and embarrass her. Couldn't you just let her have it and walk away proud that you made someone feel really good? If you ask for it back you will feel bad about it later in life when you look back on the situation. Tell your mom that next time you would prefer if she asked you first before giving something of yours away.
2007-04-25 16:37:41 · answer #5 · answered by uuummk 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Like everyone else said your mom should have ask your first before giving the dress away
but ask yourself if you got the dress back could you really enjoy wearing it know you broke another little girls heart ?
what's gone is gone it would be rude to ask for the dress back
I think you mom owes you a new dress
2007-04-25 16:48:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Reread what you wrote here. You don't need the dress, it means a lot to the girl who now has it, and you only want it because you're feeling selfish. Now, it's OKAY that you feel that way, but you should let her keep the dress. Talk to your Mom about giving away your things without your premission to avoid this in the future.
2007-04-25 16:39:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
WOW - that is a dilly of a pickle. Maybe see if any of the other girls in your show choir want to donate their dresses first, that way your could do a trade with her or get a dress back without dealing with the girl.
If someone needs to get the dress back, it is your mother. She is the one who gave it away without asking. I bet it is highly unlikely that she will do that for you though.
2007-04-25 16:35:06 · answer #8 · answered by Go Bears! 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Was there a reason the girl needed the dress, like she couldn't afford one? There is no need to be petty, I'm sure you have many pretty clothes. Just tell your mom that you would appriciate if she asked you next time she gave your things away.
2007-04-25 16:34:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
yes it would be very rude to ask for it back,, the girl didn't know you wanted to keep the dress..,, Your mom should of asked you but probably gave it away thinking it was ok,,,, this is just one of those things that happen in life,,,, if this is the worst that happens to you you are blessed......
2007-04-27 11:59:51 · answer #10 · answered by tinkerbell3648 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be tacky for you to approach the girl to ask for the dress. It was your mother that gave it away, so you should take this matter up with her. Perhaps your mother would be willing to buy you a new dress to replace the one she gave away.
2007-04-25 16:41:07 · answer #11 · answered by Vakari 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋