orgasm problem...?

Question

I have never had a orgasm. is it normal that it is hard to achieve?? Its not that my boyfriend isn't doing his part because he is awesome, i just cant get one. I don't want him to think he isn't doing a good job. he is doing a great job, I don't mean to sound nasty but he is rather large so its diffidently not that. we have tried all different things and i come close but still nothing. And i don't even think about it when we are doing it so its not that i am trying to hard, i just enjoy the moment we have together, but its frustrating because I know he feels bad. what can I do???

Answer 1

Stop stressing. Orgasm is physical but its also mental. Let your inner freak out, explore all options and most importantly- have fun with it! Don't let hold back or be timid about anything! Sex is always best when you let all your inhibitions out!

Answer 2

Its ok....trust me there is nothing wrong with you. Women are know for being great at faking orgasms and that is just wrong. At least you are being honest with your boyfriend and he will appreciate that, regardless of how bad he may be feeling now.
Things come with time and the doctors are not going to help you. There is only one way of getting it "done" and thats between the two of you. First of all, let me tell you that some women cannot achieve an orgasm by having sexual intercourse. I don't mean to sound weird but if you can make yourself achieve an orgasm, teach him how to do it. Go to the bookstore and read about g--spots together with him. You may actually enjoy to do these things together....trust me.

Answer 3

Honey, I think many women are not being honest with their peers when they talk about sex and the way they acheive orgasm. It is still an embarassing topic and many people jump on the bandwagon to say they do orgasm too! For instance, I have been in your shoes for some time in previous relationships. But when I finally met my husband, I began experiencing orgasms! How?, bcoz we were committed 2 each other and very close to talk about anything and how to give each other sexual pleasures. In my case, I only climaxe if I stimulate myself in the act by learning masturbation tecniques that work for me , or if he does an oral on me, it's cloud 9!. It's an incredible experience and it's like me and my partner's body have chemistry when we started coming at the same insstance.So,all the hints lead us to the purpose and function of the female clitoris. But you and your partner need to learn to sych together so that it ends marvelously for both on the same minute! I never imagined! I have read articles in female mags,where sex experts claim that most women cannot acheive orgasm by penetration alone bcoz the penis are sometimes not in contact with the clitoris during sexual intercourse, and a female clitoris comes in different shapes and sizes and they are the tool for orgasms only if stimulated. I don't know if u've tried masturbating, and see if u climaxed?If yes, then you are a healthy young lady. You should ask your female friends how they acheive orgasms, but I haven't really felt at ease to confront my girls either. So, maybe you are in the same category with me. Try my method , and I would love to know if I helped! Email me back if it worked..

Answer 4

I'm not really sure what you can do but you think that the sex is great now but once you are with someone that can make you reach that climax then the sex that you are having now will not seem as good any longer. Maybe he doesn't know exactly what he is doing. You might think he does because you don't know any other type of sex because you have probably been with him too long. If he was able to last long enough, it should eventually happen and you should be satisfied too.

Answer 5

Not to be gross, but do you ever masturbate? Once you know how to give yourself an orgasm, you can teach your partner. I know you said that it isn't him, and I really do believe that you enjoy being with him, but he may be missing some vital info about what sets you off.
It could also be that you are putting too much stress on yourself about actually having an orgasm. It is much easier to achieve climax if you just don't think about it and enjoy yourself.
All women can achieve orgasm, some just have more trouble than others.

Answer 6

Have you attempted any kind of manual stimulation at all? This usually helps things along. Could be that you should focus a little more attention on the foreplay aspect as well. Relaxing is key to letting go and reaching the point of no return.

Answer 7

It is a common problem...
Many girls need stimulation to the clit (as some would call it) in order to orgasm...
Im a guy and i use to feel bad because me and my fiancee had the same problem, but we researched it and found out that a lot of girls find it hard to orgasm and most need that kind of stimulation too...
If it is really bad though you should see a doctor and they will be able to tell you more
God Bless

Answer 8

Don't worry, I have the same prob. My hubby and I don't always hit at the same time, but they do happen.
But what I can say is this, help guide his hands during foreplay, and don't be ashamed to play with yourself too.
Guys like to watch, and he'll learn from it too.
You'll get worked up more before, and it'll happen.

Answer 9

yea heveryone has a certain favorite position. it's great when you find that you have the same one. I have done that recently and she's great. I think you maybe thinking to hard or maybe he's not doing the foreplay.

Answer 10

well first you need to give yourself good orgasms my masturbating and trying different techniques for yourself.. then have him do the same things... it will work best if he gives you one then enters you as the second one will come easier for you... and feel much better too... I m me for more info.. if you like...