fight for her or let her go?

Question

Me and my girlfriend have been going out for a little over 3 months. everything in our relationship was perfect - being head over heels in love with each other, talking about marriage, kids etc. recently she called me and out of no where said that things were moving too fast and that she needed a break to be by herself - long story short we havent talked in 5 days and it amazes me that she hasn't called me yet. looking back on the relationship, i too think we might have gone too fast, but i thought that is how we thought that is supposed to be when u really love someone. there were too many feelings there for her to just let go of me - especially when she knows and always tells me that i am the best there is. i want to fight for her because i know all things are true, or should i just let her be - these were feelings that both of us have never felt before and it just felt so right that maybe she got freaked out. -
why would a girl risk losing me

someone who would do anything for her, treated her like a princess - and she knows all of that - she knows i am the best thing that happened to her (she says it all the time) - and she could risk losing that for a break ??
Instead of calling her, what about flowers just saying thinking about u

i also feel like she is the one who should call me

Answer 1

I'll say if you really love her fight for her

Answer 2

No no no no no no no! If she feels trapped, the worst thing you can do is send flowers or confront her with "true feelings" or anything like that.

Women often don't like it when someone treats them like a princess all the time. Have you ever seen "A Doll's House" by Ibsen???? You are putting too much pressure on the relationship.

I think you should send her an email that says just essentially what you said in your question. Let her know that you don't know what to do but that you still want to see her, and that after this email you're gonna respect her space. Put the ball in her court. If you don't hear from her in three or four days, then move on. By which I mean just go about your business, put her out of your head. Don't look for someone else, but if you feel drawn to someone else, don't turn away either.

Don't suffocate her.

Answer 3

You allowed her alittle space which she
is entitled 2 but you don't need 2 be left just hanging
so best thing 2 do is 2 call/e-mail/send a letter (a letter is
more personal and intimate) and say I understand
we were moving fast, can we slow it down and still be.
I don't want 2 lose you and we can always work on our
problems. We were meant 2 be and you are worth
waiting for and I love u and I will be patient.

Than send flowers and a card which should say
"When you need a break from me I'll step back but
I send these flowers to be near you and remind you
I'm be there because you my love is delicate like
a flower and worth the wait.

Doing this will lighten up the mood and relax her she will
laugh and cry at the same time.

Answer 4

She knows that she has a good man however you are being clingy and at first she liked it (you always being there) but that is boring to her now. She wants some excitment now so you need to give her what she wants. Challenge her by not calling her and give her the chance to really see what she is about to lose. Relationships are a game and you have to knkow how to play to win. Pull back a little and let her have the space that she obviously wants and in the meantime you continue living your life and also dating and having fun. She will then notice what is going on and try to get back in your life. You two were only dating 3 months, it's okay for her to want a little space right now and you should too. Don't worry about it because good men like you are hard to find and she will realize soon enough.

Answer 5

Hmm, you seem to be blaming her for leaving you. You're kind of painting the picture that you were the absolute perfect boyfriend...which you could be of course. Maybe try looking at a different perspective and asking her if there was something you did wrong or could do differently to make her feel more comfortable in the relationship.

I heard somewhere...the faster a relationship starts, the faster it ends. Probably not true in every case, but if you had been friends with her for a year or two and then started dating, it seems like it would last a lot longer. Taking it slow is love...it means your serious and want to explore each level of the relationship thouroghly before moving on to the next...as opposed to skipping straight to intense sexual stuff with nothing left over for a relationship.
I'd say try to talk to her and listen to her, she might just be scared.

Answer 6

Ok i am in the exact same boat youre in right now except mine's with my ex boyfriend.... Same situation though... been together 3 months, things going perfect, talked about future, met an dgot along with the whole family, yada yada yada.... Well We broke up 2 weeks ago cause he said things were moving too fast and he needed to clear his head and make sure that this is what he wants.... Needless to say the first week we talked almost every day and now I havent talked to him in 5 days..... My best advice is to wait for her to talk to you.... I know youre hurting, cause god Knows I am still, but dont cave.... if she misses you and wants you back then she will contact you.... You dont want to bug her when shes trying to clear her head..... Maybe send her a text Msg or something with Just a smiley face or an I miss you, but leave it at that..... if she responds and opens the line of communication then run with it, if not, then it looks like youre playing the waiting game like me!!!! Good Luck, and Please let me know how things turn out..... I wish you the best!!!

Answer 7

First, no matter what you do, do it because you love and care for her and things will work out the way they are supposed to, whatever that is, but at least you will know you have done everything for both your best interests. Second, YES! fight for her, but do so constructively and selectively. Don't push her or else you will only push her away. Decide what you offer her and offer that whenever she is around, just don't go looking to give it to her or remind her what she's missing. Lastly, a little humility might not be a bad thing for you right now, lest resentment sets in towards her. A woman's heart isn't a prize to be won but a gift to be treasured. Let her give it to you in her way or else you will never have it.

Answer 8

I don't know much about how it would feel but I have been around a lot of people with relationships and I have seen things unfold what I say is to give her time taking your time especially with your heart on the line is the best thing even do you feel like it's love you still need to take precaution just to see if it's really plan really what you want.

Answer 9

Hey friend! if she tells you she needs space, give her space! trust me. If you are as good as you say you are... she will come back because no one likes to lose good things in this life. if you love her, you would be willing to give her her space. dont go chasing because you would only push her away. let her be for now. meanwhile, try to get your mind off of it for now and use this time to prepare either for the better or for the worse response from her.

you see friend, sometimes we fall in love with the wrong people. lets not force love because there's a thin line between love and hate.

My point is give it some more time let her think. you should also think about what it is that you want in your life. never settle for less than what you are worth friend. goodluck and Godbless!

Answer 10

The answer is in your last sentence of the original explanation. If you truly feel this way then you are too arrogant. Also if you really love her then no, she shouldn't be the one to have to call you.

If she is asking for space then let her have it. You might call once in a while and let her know you were thinking about her but if you call and all you talk about is how you miss her or how she hurt you then it's not her you love but yourself.

If you really love her then let her go. Call her once in a hile just to see how she is doing. Casual conversation just to let her know you care. If it's meant to be it will be.

Answer 11

Give her some space. However, Still send her a message or text telling her that you look back and feel that you you two were moving to fast. Let her know that you are here waiting for her and if she wants to get back together and move a Little slower then that's fine. If she really does not have a response to that I would say let her go. She said it to say it not because she meant it.