Hey so there's this guy and we dated 3 months ago,but broke up.I'm not over him at all,i love him with all my heart and want him back.He told his best friend he felt the same bout me.Should i come through to him or what,cause i just feel so sad and lost without him.Please help,thnx.
2007-04-25 09:11:59 · 18 answers · asked by no5_shortiie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girl i know what you going through. i have the same problem. you better get while he stills wants you. love is to hard to come by so dont miss out.
2007-04-25 09:17:13 · answer #1 · answered by nomorecrying 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to really analize the relationship and think about why you broke up. Was it just bad timing or was the relationship not healthy and you broke up because things just wern't working out. The reason you're still missing him is because you haven't moved forward with your life and found someone else. It's natural when we are alone to idealize a past relationship and remember it as better than it really was. You have to think if the relationship was that good you wouldn't have broken up. Sometimes regardless of how bad the relationship was, if we're alone we tend to want something we can't have even if it's not good for us, then when we get back with that person we suddenly remember all the reasons why we broke up with them in the first place.
My roommate in college once said to me when I was having problems with a boyfriend she said "Do you plan on marrying this guy?" if you can't answer in the affirmative then it's time to move on and find someone that you could see yourself marrying.
Are you putting yourself out there and dating? If you're not then it's easy to want an old relationship back because you already know each other and you don't have to work at it.
If you've done this and you are really in love with the guy and you think that it's worth working at, then call him. Bump into him out someplace (but don't stalk) if you really want to keep that door open to a possible reconciliation then call and talk, you can always get together for a casual lunch.
Good Luck
2007-04-25 16:18:24 · answer #2 · answered by Weimaraner Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing to consider is why you broke up in the first place. Is it something that's going to have a major impact on your relationship if you start it back up again? Could it happen again? I know you love him, but you gotta be a little selfish, too. If you're just going to end up breaking up again, it's probably not worth getting back together.
Doom and gloom aside, it sounds like the two of you need to have a talk. Tell him what you just told us-- that you miss him and want him back in your life. It sounds like he misses you, too, so chances are very good that he'll agree to getting back together. Good luck! :)
2007-04-25 16:19:49 · answer #3 · answered by janeowyn180 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Purposely "bump into him" then suggest going to get a ..... cup of coffee or something. It'll help break the ice and awkwardness so you can talk and work through it.
If the problem that split you up still exists, and can't be resolved, then just get over it.
It's a long road either way.
2007-04-25 16:18:25 · answer #4 · answered by April J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first, If you feel so sad and lost without him, your in big trouble. you need first find inner strenght within yourself before you choose to be in an y relationship with anyone do not put all your dependency of happyness on someone else, or youll be asking for alot tears and pain, just because you are no longer with him does not mean you are lost it may hurt yes, but if you are that terribly sad. you are not emotionally ready for a relationship,
2007-04-25 16:16:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please don't start acting all needy and clingy and doing crazy things like going out looking for him. That will push him so far away. Take time to see where he's at with his feelings meaning let him call you if he wants the relarionship. We as women always go about it the wrong way with men. We always call crying and begging him as to "WHY". Let him contact you first so you won't look so dependent on him. I am not saying play games with him, I am just saying let him make the first move and then you follow his lead. That's all!!!
2007-04-25 16:20:23 · answer #6 · answered by teri d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm,,you seem to be somehow close to his bestfriend.If I were in your place, I would ask for his bestfriend's help. I don't have the gutts to tell him what my heart was telling me(hehe)And i don't like it when girls make the first move. But by the way, why did you broke up if you love each other?Well, whatever your decision is.Go after it and follow your heart..but don't forget your head...God bless.
2007-04-25 16:24:03 · answer #7 · answered by caprice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should link up with him to talk and see how things go. Take it slow so you can reslove whatever issues caused you to break up in the first place....good luck
2007-04-25 16:17:47 · answer #8 · answered by FeeFi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before you make a move toward your ex, remember why he is your ex. It isn't always better the second time around. Trust me, I learned the hard way.
2007-04-25 16:16:36 · answer #9 · answered by mediahoney 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to him. Let him know how you feel. Don't go through a friend. Just talk to him and let him know what's in your heart.
2007-04-25 16:15:43 · answer #10 · answered by Bunny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋