I have been with my boyfriend for over a year now and gave him a key to my apartment 6 months ago or so. My roommate, however, wants me to ask for the key back. I asked her about it before I gave it to him and she was OK but now there is a third roommate moving in. My boyfriend is a very trustworthy guy. He is never here when I'm not here but he lives 2 hours away and comes into town a couple of weekends a month. I gave him a key in case he ever beat me home when I got stuck at work or if he ever wanted to stay out later after a night out or something. My roommate says she has nothing against him but she doesn't want him having a key. I tried to assure her that it was for emergencies and rare situations. Should I ask for it back?
2007-04-25 09:10:51 · 24 answers · asked by Amanda 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Although its your home too and you trust him, you have to think of your roomates. Its their home too. They just dont know him as well as you do so they may have doubt. Just ask him for the key back and tell him why. He shouldn't get mad. If he coming into town, then 2 hours is more tan enough time to get someone home to great him.
2007-04-25 09:15:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most Definetely! Your Roommate didn't have to be "part" of this situation and she thinks it stinks... So, get that key back!
Something may have happened to change her mind about him, and if she doesnt feel safe, then its a dangerous situation for her, and thats not a good thing.
Whether your boyfriend is an Eagle Scout, or Church Elder, its not his decision, because he doesnt 'live' with you...Your room mate does, and she "pays" her share of the rent so, she can say who has a key or not.
I would either get the key back, or, have the locks changed, or, move to another apartment and dont have room mates and "then" give your key to your boyfriend.
The third room mate has a say in this too, and so, no man should have a key to an apartment where there are nothing but girls in it, and come and go at his whim....
It aint just right if you know what I mean.
Just explain it to him, that he has to come to your workplace to pick you up or see you if he gets in town early or go see a movie or do something... And ask for it back. If he doesnt give it back to you..then, you should "know" that there is something wrong and change the locks immediately!
I wish you well...
Jesse
2007-04-25 09:27:28 · answer #2 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect your roommate. It is not just your place you are sharing this place with someone now a another roommate is moving in. Your boyfriend should not have a key and he should be understanding about it. If he arrive there and you are not there that's when he need to call to make sure you are home. Him having a key he can get accused of all kinds of things. He come visit you and its too late he could get a room at a hotel then you all could have you privacy.
2007-04-25 09:25:43 · answer #3 · answered by sharon s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow this is a tough one. On one hand you don't want to alienated your roommate, after all you do live together. I would talk to the roommate and find out why the change of heart. Also bring it up with bf. Explain to him that roommate is uncomfortable with him having a key. A good guy will just hand it over
2007-04-25 09:16:57 · answer #4 · answered by glbenner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should. Not only for your roommate living there now but the one about to move in. Explain to you bf that until you square it off with the new roommate that its ok that he has a key you will need it back. Just so you don't create problems in the house. Your bf will understand
2007-04-25 09:16:04 · answer #5 · answered by Angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the exact same situation as you. And to be truthful...you are living with a roommate. You both have to make eachother comfortable so if she doesn't want him having a key..she has good reason and you have to get it back. Who knows maybe if you ever broke up or got in a big fight he could get revenge by going in and ripping apart your apartment. She has the right to not want anyone else to have a key. Sorry but you got to get it back.
2007-04-25 09:16:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to remind your roommate that you asked about this before you gave him the key. Now it would be akward to ask for the key back. If she has a problem with it now, then she needs to give you a valid reason to ask him for it back, if not, then I would tell her that she is out of luck since she ok'd when it happened.
2007-04-25 09:17:22 · answer #7 · answered by syns_pleasure 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It is a good idea to let someone else have an extra key in case of emergency and in case you got locked out.
2007-04-25 09:16:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to show respect to your roommates. They need their privacy. Don't ask for a key back. Pay to have the lock changed and hand out the new keys to the roommates only.
2007-04-25 09:16:11 · answer #9 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
no if she was fine with it to begin with then what is the problem now? what does it matter if there is another roomate? like you said he only comes to town a couple weekends a month. i wouldnt ask for it back unless there is a bona fide reason to take it back, not just she doesnt want him having a key
2007-04-25 09:17:46 · answer #10 · answered by sarah b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋