I was sadly rejected by my dream cRush....=(.....i wanna move but i cant!! its like i wanna keep trying..but i always forget that she said no.....why cant i just accept it??
2007-04-25 09:10:06 · 25 answers · asked by wr1best 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you have built up your hopes and dreams around this one person and she doesnt want to be a part of it. no one wants to let go of their dreams. we are taught as kids not to let them go. it is only natural that you would feel that way. things are going to take sometime, but you will get over her. the harder that you try to push getting over her, the more you won't and the longer that it will take.
2007-04-25 09:15:00 · answer #1 · answered by PreciousLady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to accept the things we cannot change. The reson you have trouble moving past this is because human nature tells us that we want the things we can't have. We're almost never satisfied, if you maybe tried going after someone else it will help in the healing process. Even though it's hard to accept that you were rejected, I would recommend to atleast let your crush know that although you disagree with the decision you still respect it and that you hope the two of you can still be friends. Atleast this way you're still keeping the door open for future possibilities.
2007-04-25 16:20:04 · answer #2 · answered by Jeremy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to accept it because you weren't ready or prepared for the rejection. Yes, we sometimes feel like we can handle rejection before we ask, but because we have so much confidence, we weren't prepared. Well, rejection is hard to take. I hate to say it but only two ways to accept it, get over or get mad. I'm not talking bout get even, just get mad about the situation, then move on. Don't lose your confidence. Look at it this way, just be glad you finally asked instead of going longer without knowing what s/he thought about you. At least you know you can move on now, without having the thoughts of "what if s/he really likes me or wants to be with me".
2007-04-25 16:39:11 · answer #3 · answered by I AM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rejection is usually a very hard thing to accept but what are your choices?
You can let this consume you - but I wouldn't suggest it - you may end up in jail or worse.
Or you can move on with your life.
You may want to examine yourself... are their areas in your life or personality that you could improve? Why did she reject you and is she really the type of woman you want anyway? There is always room for improvement so work on that but don't let it eat you up. But don't change for someone else either.. only for yourself and only what you think should be changed... not someone else.
2007-04-25 16:15:58 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rejection is a hard thing to overcome for many people, you are not alone... Just take it one day at a time and you will eventually move on... There will be many dream crushes in your time I promise you that.
2007-04-25 16:13:48 · answer #5 · answered by Adam A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you invest in someone emotionally, even by loving someone, it is painful to separate yourself again. especially if you don't want to. Losing love or acceptance from the one you love is the most painful thing. give yourself time to get over it and do not confront yourself with her if you can avoid it. the less contact, the better you will be able to move on. It will hurt, but hanging on while there is no chance will eventually hurt you both even harder. I hope you succeed in diverting your immediate focus. :)
2007-04-25 16:18:32 · answer #6 · answered by freebird31wizard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that often when we get rejected (I'm only speaking for myself here), we feel as though we are somehow inadequate. We weren't good enough for that person, or that position or that opportunity, and we wonder why not. What are we missing? Can we fix it so it doesn't happen in the future?
2007-04-25 16:14:44 · answer #7 · answered by Joy M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
accepting a rejection is hard but we all have to do it at some point or another...u were infatuated with her and think that there is no one else like her out there but believe me there is...because if you think about it if she rejected you then she wasnt good enough for you anyways..good luck in the future!
2007-04-25 16:15:49 · answer #8 · answered by Hales 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your heart was there and it was right and true--and then shattered. Your options are cloudy by tears and by the fact the your dreams are empty and the future unclear. Of all the adversities in the world, unrequited love is the worst. When she says no, she commits emotional homicide.
2007-04-25 16:19:08 · answer #9 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard because it's takes a lot to ask in the first place. You get your hopes up so high and they break them back down.
2007-04-25 16:14:50 · answer #10 · answered by nomorecrying 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋