I have a 3 year old son and everytime that he visits my mother in law i have to wash his blanket because it gets so disgusting from all the dirt and dog hair. She won't let my son drink or eat in the living room but her dog can go outside and roll in dead things then come inside. She recently sent me an email about how its a waste of life to have a clean house (which I do) and that unless you can write in the dust then its just not a home. I like a clean house she obviously doesn't but I don't think I can be polite much longer...my son can talk pretty well and I am afraid what he will say about her untidy and hairy house!
2007-04-25 09:08:50 · 15 answers · asked by Amy R 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't tell my son that garandma has a dirty house but he knows there is a difference between our house and hers and I just don't want any feelings getting hurt.
2007-04-25 09:26:02 · update #1
Why are you afraid what he will say? Children speak the truth and there is nothing wrong with that. She needs to hear it. How she keeps her house is her business but your boy is your business. As long as you dont think hes any danger over there I dont see why he cant go there but if he suffers from any health problems you might limit his visits.
2007-04-25 09:16:26 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your son says anything then its up to you to tell him that each person in this world has a right to make a chose and how his grandma lives is her chose. As for the dog hair and dirt; as long as her house isn't so filthy that its an unsafe enviroment to wash a blanket and clothes when he comes from grandmas is a small thing, if he is getting much love and affection it should be well worth it. Many kids today don't have the opportunity to visit grandparents so often, clean house or not. Since you like a clean house be grateful grandma doesn't allow him to eat in the living room, that just makes it easier on you too when he comes home and can't eat your clean living room. :)
2007-04-25 09:47:16 · answer #2 · answered by 20+ years and still in-love! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you gotta love those precious moments, when a child starts to talk and what comes out of their mouths at the most awkward moments lol
She has her beliefs..to Live in a house, is more of a 'home' to her than always cleaning. I remember in a movie once, the older woman said "too many ppl take too much time from their lives cleaning their houses and always finding projects that need to be done..better to LIVE in the house and have it looked 'lived in' rather than plastic sheets on the furniture, using a cup holder for the tables etc....To each and their own. Next time your mother inlaw makes a comment about how clean your house is and how much more time you could have spending with your son if you're not cleaning the house......calmly let her know , that you appreciate her suggestions, but you are Happy keeping a clean house and if it's done on a regular basis, everyday, it only takes a few minutes*
Mother inlaws can be quite a handful at the best of times., just hang in there and don't let her get under your skin..don't hold things inside...just calmly acknowledge her suggestions and then let her know how you feel about it and how you want to do it etc.. .
2007-04-25 09:18:33 · answer #3 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dirty Mother In Laws
2016-12-16 07:55:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about the dog itself. We have a dog and a cat and while hair does get on the carpets and furniture I do try to keep it as clean as possible. I would, however, worry about the dog peeing on the carpet. It's not very sanitary and if your baby is crawling around and then putting things into his mouth he's also touching his mouth with his hands... see where I'm going with this? It's a tough call, really. On one hand she does watch your son for free and I'm sure she adores him(as most grandparents do!) but on the other hand that would be a cause of concern for me. Can you have your husband speak to her about the dog? Maybe she could put some pee pads down somewhere if, for whatever reason, she cannot take the dog outside.
2016-05-18 21:33:07 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want your son to repeat what you have been saying then keep your lips zipped.
Not everyone is as clean as you are and that's just the way it is. However, if you would rather your son not go over there because you find it hazardous to his health then tell her so and stop letting him go over there.
Frankly, however, it's not what goes in our mouth that is bad, it's what comes out of our mouth. Think a long time about how important it is for you to believe that you are right about having a clean home and your mom-in-law isn't right for not cleaning. You aren't going to change her mind - she isn't going to change your mind. So how about accepting her for who she is?
I keep my house clean because I NEED THAT. Not everybody does. I can tell you though, that dust and dirt has never killed anybody that i know and my sister has 4 dogs and 3 cats and isn't very clean and her kids are grown and gone now and she and her husband are still alive and kicking without any health problems.
2007-04-25 09:17:32 · answer #6 · answered by Stefka 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, if your son is so observant that he tells his grandmother her house is dirty and hairy, good for HIM!
it's a fact, and kids say what is on their mind.... i guess she already knows her house is a disaster anyway. and i think it would be rather humorous if he did say something (tee hee).
IGNORE her email about the dirty vs clean house. let her live in a pig pen if she wants -- that doesn't mean others want to do it, also. we each have our own priorities, and it's no use trying to change someone else or paying attention to their stupid opinions.
P.S. I don't think dirt will hurt your son when he goes to his grandmother's, really. i'd wash the blanket too!
2007-04-25 09:35:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope your son does say something about her house since it is true. Your concern should be his health there. I presume your husband has nothing to say about this, right? I would minimize contact and that will be easier once your son is in school. Just try to host her at your house if need be otherwise find other things to do with other people.
2007-04-25 10:17:46 · answer #8 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest making the in law visits few and far between. It sounds as though you have already spoken with your mother in law and she doesn't plan on changing...My in laws are dirty as well. We don't visit with them much. I was always taught you may not have much of a house, but you can certainly keep it clean. It's their issue if they don't get to see their grandchild as much.
2007-04-25 09:19:13 · answer #9 · answered by 1sweet lady 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its obvious that your motherinlaw is a"pig",no offense but thats what anyone is if the dirt is thick enough to write the declaration of independance in it! im suprised that there arent roaches and vermin in her house (err,excuse me)pig stye.i would worry about the health of my son,i mean letting him waltz around in the filth and dog crap at your motherinlaws house.i would say no to her the next time she asks to have your son over,and if she asks why not tell her you dont want your son to pick up an unknown illness from the filth in her home? if she insists tell her you will report her to the board of health. rubberstampr
2007-04-25 09:38:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋