Am I judgemental if I think this is wrong?...?

Question

1: Breaking into someone's home to steal things to sell for money for drugs (apparently they have a meth problem)

Ok, if I think that is wrong and makes a person a bad person to include in your life - as in, it's not wise to include this person in your closest circle of friends, nor is it a good idea to have this person around your child - if I think this, does that mean I am a bad, evil, judgemental person?

2: A person borrows $300+ because they can't pay their rent, then they refuse to pay it back to the person they borrowed it from - and this is just ONE area where the person displays a pretty big lack of integrity - they also freely admit to cheating on their boyfriend and occassional drug use - does it make me a mean, evil, judgemental person to feel that this is not the type of individual I want to have included in my life?

3: If I had a lot of respect for a man who pretended to be one thing and then turns out to be another, am I judgmental to say I don't respect him

Just a note - I DO choose the company I keep very carefully. Another friend of mine is choosing to include these people in his life and when I express concern as in "Are you ok with this? Are you sure these are the types of people you want in your life" He's said I'm a radical Christian fundamentalist who judges people harshly. Keep in mind, I am a Christian, but my Faith is something I NEVER discuss with him because I know he's scared of it. He is NOT living his life like these new friends of his either, but I am like basically the ANTI-CHRIST because I say these are all wrong things to be doing and that they are not people I want around me - or those that I care about either.

Answer 1

Yes, you are being judgmental. But when did being judgmental become a negative thing? Everyone makes judgments every day. We have to. I try to look at things objectively and when the information is in, I call a spade a spade.

I feel that being judgmental is only a negative thing when someone has pre-conceived ideas and inaccurate information. I try to give others the benefit of the doubt but when that's gone, I can be quite decisive.

I also believe that people can change. I have friends who were once felons. I favor strict sentencing but I feel that when someone has paid their debt to society and is making a clear effort to change, I will accept them into my life. I don't hold past mistakes against them forever--regardless of what they once did. But if the behavior that I don't like is current, there is no room in my life for them.

Answer 2

Everyone is judgmental to some point or another. I don't think judging others makes you a bad person, I think its not right to take it an extreme (ex: judging others because of their skin or hair color or religious belief).
Everyone has the right to chose what they think is right and wrong for themselves, though we must keep in mind that our choices have positive or negative effects in our lives. We also have the right to chose what type of people we want in our lives. If someone lives their life by something you feel is wrong then thats their choice, whether or not you associate with them is you choice.

You are not a bad person to think this way, you're just human.

Answer 3

Yes, you are being judgmental, as we should all be in deciding who to include in our lives. Judgmental isn't necessarily a bad thing. Evil and bad, not so much. Smart and healthy, sure.

Answer 4

It is not judgmental, it is wisdom!

Jesus said in John 7:24 Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment.

It is a misunderstanding of scripture to say we must never judge. But we must judge righteously!

Just remember, even though it would be wise to not have such people in your circle of close friends, don't give up on them. (Unless you are in danger, of course.)

Answer 5

There's a difference of discerning activities which cause harm and suffering and those which are simply a label you attach to someone based on one narrow view of ethics. A calm mind can discern without labelling and acting with aversions or attachments to the person/behavior. One can also avert such behavior, where possible, with compassion when one understands the causes and conditions of your own perceptions AND their behaviors/actions.

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Answer 6

This sounds like an risky courting to me. You adult men might desire to a. have a serious communicate and attempt to artwork issues out or b. circulate on. Her reaction on your question tells me she isn't feeling so particular of herself. -- whilst human beings get shielding like this, self doubt is in many situations the clarification why (no rely if or not they comprehend it or not.) perhaps she regrets becoming to be pregnant so quickly into her marriage and he or she is letting out her dissapointment on you. The question might additionally be taken the incorrect way, and that i'm able to work out how she might see you as you judging her; yet like I reported, she is feeling doubt and if that feeling of doubt wasn't there, i think of she might have reacted in any different case and chosen to debate the "concern" with you, as a substitute of in simple terms getting shielding. i'm hoping that's clever.

Answer 7

That is not judgmental, that is common sense. No, you don't want people like that in your close circle of friends.

Answer 8

Are you judgemental - yes.
Is it wrong - no.

You have the right to choose what company you keep in your life.

Answer 9

It isn't judgemental

what's the alternative?....let them remain in your life and continue to do that stuff because you remain silent?

Answer 10

you should not stick around with these people, nothing but trouble , go away. people have some responsability of their own